The Joy of Kink is Live!

The Joy of Kink is Live!

Joy of Kink! It’s Here Opens Primarily Due to Sinnjara’s Technical Work

The Joy of Kink is finally open!

I’ve still got months of work there restoring old articles going back to 2011 from both and

Some will be completely rewritten, showing up at Joy of Kink completely transformed from their previous posting. Others will remain “as is”, outside of some loving restoration as they are transferred. Over time, many of the old articles will disappear from this site, redirected to the Joy of Kink.

Joy of Kink logo

Welcome to the Joy of Kink, a sex-positive website dedicated to exploring kink, BDSM, fetish, Tantra, and alternative sexuality in all its guises.

Source: Willkommen, Bienvenue, Welcome | Joy of Kink

By no means am I giving up on this domain.

This site will be all about sharing the news and stories I’m reading. I have a few other purposes in mind too. Please bear with me as we clean up all the “virtual dust” from the construction.

There’s still a long way to go in the renovations behind the scenes for Samadhi Chateau’s virtual homes, but the Joy of Kink is up and looking good…

Now It’s the Flu! Aargh!

Now It’s the Flu! Aargh!

I was looking back at the calendar, and realized I’ve been sick since early November. Yuck!

It started with a sinus infection, then turned to bronchitis. Once the bronchitis was gone and I was off antibiotics the sinus infection came back. Most recently, I finished the 2nd course of antibiotics earlier this week, and within the last 24 hours, I’ve had classic flu symptoms. Dry cough, fever, terrible body aches – it feels as though I played a game of football (American).

So, I’m happy, alive and well. Well perhaps not. But, wasn’t it Meatloaf who said: “2 out of 3 ain’t bad”…

monster virus

A Taxonomy of Capitol Hill Predators

The story is timeless, whether encountered in politics, business, education, religion, etc. People with power often use that power to take sexual advantage of others.

I’m not sure what the end result will be of the current movement to expose those who take sexual advantage of others. Certainly change is in the air, and that’s to be celebrated…

There are multiple categories of creeps and creepiness that female aides, interns, and even members quickly learn to look out for.

On Capitol Hill, as in other work environs, not all sexual misconduct is created equal. Some predators are more seductive than others. Some are more aggressive. Some let it all hang out, while others operate sub-rosa. Some are chillingly systematic in their hunting. Some present (and may actually fancy) themselves as caring mentors imparting invaluable wisdom and nurturing close relationships with promising young up-and-comers.

For women looking for help navigating this tricky terrain, Congress’s existing processes are beyond worthless—more concerned with shielding the perps than aiding their targets. Regardless of age, rank, or party, Hill women are essentially left to their own devices when it comes to handling the wide assortment of men behaving badly—a particularly difficult feat in a culture of omerta that would impress Tony Soprano.

Source: A Taxonomy of Capitol Hill Predators

Nude art and censorship laid bare

Censorship is age-old. Shadowbanning on Twitter, discrimination on Tumblr, censorship on Facebook etc., are just the latest symptoms in an ongoing battle for freedom of expression…

An exploration of the historic ties between censorship and nude art.

Source: Nude art and censorship laid bare

If you subscribe to the aphorism that sex is really about power, Ireson suggests another reason to why Modigliani’s nudes were so shocking: “These women are overtly sexual and that really connects with the way women were troubling society at the time. These pictures were made during the First World War, when more women were working, more women were living independently … there really is a social anxiety about that.”

Back Among the Living Announcement Was Premature

Back Among the Living Announcement Was Premature

Hello, my dear readers…

It’s been a tough fall for me. Now, I’m sick again with bronchitis/sinusitis. Perhaps I never got quite well from the last time and returned to work prematurely. Who knows?

I’m so very tired of feeling ill, this has drug on for far too long.

I’ll be back writing about kink soon, just not today…


After Feeling Ill For Weeks I’m Finally Back Among the Living

After Feeling Ill For Weeks I’m Finally Back Among the Living

Survived The Thanksgiving Holiday Weekend

Our Celebration Was Very Nice

Update On Michael & Sinnjara

I’m finally starting to feel normal, after my bout of bronchitis / laryngitis / sinusitis…

Of course, there’s tons of work to catch up on. And, this is my busiest time of year, at least thru mid-December. Then, if it makes any sense, it’s my quiet time until after the holidays.

Sinnjara and I celebrated our Thanksgiving yesterday with her family. It’s a kinky group, no doubt about it. Sooner or later they will all get a write up over at the Joy of Kink, some will be authors there, I expect.

For now, just know that the night I met Sinnjara at a local munch she was there with her eldest son, who is (obviously) also kinky.

With all the work and festivities, there’s been little or no time for anything besides work, eat, sleep. Eating’s even been a bit of an issue, no one’s felt much like cooking or eating.

The Thanksgiving Celebration was the exception, food was delicious. Good enough that appetites showed up!

I didn’t participate in this week’s #SoSS, I simply hadn’t found the time or energy to look around the web at other’s posts. I feel a little bit ashamed that I haven’t been a good sex-blogging netizen, but I have to put work and relationships first, before blogging.

Transgender People and “Biological Sex” Myths – Julia Serano – Medium

Transgender People and “Biological Sex” Myths – Julia Serano – Medium

Julia Serano’s logic seems very sound to me. I think I’d like to read more of her writing. I’ve read a lot of Patrick Califia, but am not as well educated on Transgender issues as I’d like…

“The idea of two sexes is simplistic. Biologists now think there is a wider spectrum than that.”

note: The day this was published, H.R. 2796 — a U.S. congressional bill that would legally re-define “man” and “woman” based on an individual’s “genetic sex,” as a means to rollback transgender rights — started to garner news & media attention. While this essay was not intended to address that bill specifically, it thoroughly undermines its logical, legal, and scientific standing…

The primary assumption driving most “biological sex” myths is that there are two discrete mutually exclusive sexes that are immutable (i.e., once born into a sex, you will always be a member of that sex). While there are a number of sexually dimorphic traits — such as chromosomes, gonads, external genitals, other reproductive organs, ratio of sex hormones, and secondary sex characteristics — many times these traits do not all align (i.e., all male, or all female) within the same person, as is the case for intersex and many transgender people…

Source: Transgender People and “Biological Sex” Myths – Julia Serano – Medium

Between starting this news blurb, and completing it, I did order a paperback copy of Serano’s book, Whipping Girl.

It’ll likely take me a few weeks to absorb everything. So, you should look for an upcoming review of Whipping Girl: A Transsexual Woman on Sexism and the Scapegoating of Femininity at the Joy of Kink sometime after the New Year…