TMI Tuesday July 22, 2014

Can we talk… relationships?

This entry is part 21 of 21 in the series TMI Tuesday

Up for TMI Tuesday: July 22, 2014 are relationship questions . . . 1. What is the first thing that pops into your mind when you see an attractive person? I may very well look and admire, but I also wonder what they are “really” like.  All too often people who are obviously physically beautiful don’t have tremendous depth of personality. I avoid narcissists at all costs! 2. What is your idea of… Read More »

Projecting Chi

Sinful Sunday Week 171

This entry is part 26 of 26 in the series Sinful Sunday

Are you familiar with “Chi”? I understand it as our lifeforce energy. In other words, Chi is the universal energy that surrounds living things. While it’s not easily explained by science, Chi is often accessed by martial artists as a part of their craft. You may find it interesting to discover that Master projects the same energy with his floggers . . . It’s a technique he learned from author Janet Hardy last year… Read More »

e[lust] #60

the smartest and hottest sex bloggers of June

Photo courtesy of Chintz Curtain Welcome to Elust #60 – The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at Elust. Want to be included in Elust #60? Start with the rules, come back August 1st to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for… Read More »

Happy Independence Day – Please Be Safe and Sane

And, Holiday or Not - Always Keep It Consensual

It’s the 4th of July, which equates to Independence Day here in the USA.  The 1st of July was Canada Day.  That’s a similar celebration without an armed revolution to motivate the festivities. Of course, my thinking today is less about the holiday itself, and more about the tradition of telling folks to have a “safe and sane” 4th of July.  Yes, the BDSM community motto has been taken over… Read More »

Ubi Est Mea

Throwback Thursday on Narcissism and Top's Disease

This entry is part 6 of 6 in the series Throwback Thursday

It’s a Throwback Thursday twofer today!  Here’s a post, originally written on 6/8/2012 for SpiritualBDSM.com . . . It’s said that all power corrupts, and that absolute power corrupts absolutely.  So, with that in mind, how does a dominant avoid the corruption and personal decay that can accompany the wielding of power? Well, as a beginning, it’s an absolute necessity to know thine enemy.  So, it’s essential, at least in… Read More »

IML2012 – picking up a Dungeon Bed

Dungeon Bed Delivery for Throwback Thursday

This entry is part 5 of 6 in the series Throwback Thursday

For Throwback Thursday, a post about IML2012 . . . It’s no secret that Serafina and I recently invested in a beautiful piece of BDSM furniture, the Dore Alley bed from DungeonBeds.  The bed’s been a dream of mine for quite a while, so when I discovered DungeonBeds.com offering a significant discount for the bed that would be displayed at IML2012 in Chicago, we found a way to make the purchase… Read More »

How Does Real Life BDSM Differ From Fantasy?

Day 14 - Michael's 30 Days of Kink

This entry is part 15 of 15 in the series 30 Days of Kink w/ Michael

How would you say real life BDSM/kink varies from fantasy BDSM/kink? If you haven’t experienced real life BDSM/kink how do you think it might differ? One theme I keep coming back to, is that in a wide variety of ways, BDSM is like most everything else in life. I believe that the kink community is a microcosm of society. Our hopes and dreams are not that different from anyone else’s.  We… Read More »

TMI Tuesday: July 1, 2014

Mistakes, Risks, Procrastination, and Intimacy - Just Another TMI Tuesday

This entry is part 20 of 21 in the series TMI Tuesday

For  TMI Tuesday: July 1, 2014, some questions about life . . . 1. We learn from our mistakes. What sex or sexual mistakes have you made and learned from? What was the lesson learned? Back when I started doing BDSM there were no guidebooks, no websites describing how to play kinky, and the first organizations dedicated to BDSM education were just getting started.  So every mistake was a learning… Read More »

Scavenger Hunt – Gun Range

as long as someone else picks up my gun and keeps on shooting

This entry is part 6 of 6 in the series Scavenger Hunt

Life has changed a lot since the days of Daniel Boone, who I’m told was some sort of distant relative of mine. All you need for happiness is a good gun, a good horse, and a good wife. ~  Daniel Boone But, Boone’s quote still is pretty relevant, at least the parts about a happiness, a good gun, and a good wife. This is my rifle; this is my gun. This… Read More »

Day 14: Serafina’s 30 Days of Kink

How real life BDSM/kink varies from fantasy BDSM/kink

This entry is part 13 of 14 in the series 30 Days of Kink w/ Serafina

How would you say real life BDSM/kink varies from fantasy BDSM/kink? If you haven’t experienced real life BDSM/kink how do you think it might differ? I would like to refer you to this entry where I explain that we are a 24/7 relationship and for me life as M/s dynamic is not a fantasy, but a reality.  As a reality it changes how you live and act.  Little mistakes can… Read More »

Similar Skill Sets At Work

Throwback Thursday - Sports Desk Edition

This entry is part 4 of 6 in the series Throwback Thursday

Did you know that 2014 FIFA World Cup™ Soccer (Football to the rest of the world – but not us here in the USA . . . ) matches are happening as we speak?   You’d probably have to be living under a rock not to know.  I mean, I seem to have picked up on the grand event, even though I’m not watching television these days.  And, not just because… Read More »

What is the appeal of BDSM? Why am I drawn to kink?

Day 13 - Michael's 30 Days of Kink

This entry is part 14 of 15 in the series 30 Days of Kink w/ Michael

Explain as best you can what the appeal of kink/BDSM is to you? Why are you drawn to what you’re drawn to? Why is always the most difficult question for me. Please ask me when, what, or where.  Those are questions I can likely answer. But ask me – “Why?” – that’s a different story. And, to be honest, that’s almost always been true.  It was even true for the childhood games… Read More »