A Man With Hats | Smutober Day 19

Men Man With Hats

There Are No Pictures Of Michael Doing the Safety Dance

Back when I was younger, Mom used to say I was a “man of many hats”. She didn’t mean it literally.

She didn’t mean it literally, although I do have an admitted penchant for wearing hats. Instead, she meant that I had a lot of different titles and duties. I was Chief of Staff, Campaign Manager, Press Secretary, community organizer, political activist, and I held an elected position within the Democratic Party.

I don’t have the responsibilities I used to carry. I walked away from that rat race. Thankfully.

But, as I mentioned, I do have a penchant these days for wearing stylish hats. It’s become part of my “look”.

hats make the man?

I don’t believe that ‘hats make the man’ any more than the old adage that ‘clothes make the man’.

Hat’s and clothes are really about first impressions. They are about image.

Those are attributes that matter to an extent, but they are also quite shallow approximations of our depth as individuals.

I never liked ‘dressing up’. I associated it with being put into uncomfortable clothes for the ubiquitous church visits on Sunday.

At least I felt that way until I discovered kink and cosplay.

However, if your hats can become a statement of personal style, as they have for me, then why not?

hats do serve a purpose

I’ve never been terribly secure about my looks. So, wearing a hat as part of my personal style helps me feel more confident. I’ve been told many times that I look good in hats, that they suit me well.

And, it doesn’t hurt that hats cover the area on top of my head where my hair has become thinner with age. I look younger and better in a nice chapeau. I feel better with a lid covering my head.

Olympic Sex | Are the Brazilians Waxed?

Sport | Smutober Day 18 | Olympic Sex Games Edition

Are the Brazilians Waxed? ~ Naked Athletics ~ Bondage Athletes

Sex Olympics

Call it Olympic Sex, or perhaps Sex Olympics…

Let’s start with a historical tidbit. Perhaps you already knew this, but competitors in the original Olympic Games were nude.

At least that’s what I’ve read about the original Grecian games. I’m getting old, but I’m not quite old enough to have witnessed them…

I wonder if the undressed state of the participants was enjoyed properly by the audience?

Still today, the sex appeal of the modern Olympics is undeniable.

Olympic Sex

Those old Olympic Games look pretty kinky to me…

I have to wonder, are the Brazilians waxed?

Some of the Olympic sports even have names that seem sexualized…

Consider weightlifting, where you will find events like the “snatch” and the “clean and jerk”. Then there are the handballers, their sport’s name is a euphemism for fisting…

Of course, the athletes competing in the Olympics have spent their whole lives developing specific skill sets to match their chosen sport.

Beyond mental toughness, they must develop a number of physical attributes. Among those skills, balance, flexibility, coordination, and strength are some of the most important.

Olympic BDSM

At this point, I can’t help seeing some parallel skill sets at work between those marvelous competitive athletes and some others…

It is good for dominants to remember that not all submissives are as flexible as the models featured at sites such as Hogtied.com. It’s just the same as everywhere else, not all women are as flexible as the world-class gymnasts competing in the Olympic Games either.

Call it the Sex Olympics, the sexy Olympics, or Olympic Sex. While I’m not arguing that some BDSM porn stars are the equivalent of Olympic Athletes, I am saying there are some shared skill sets.

Including Olympic Sex!

It’s not a big secret. Durex, a condom company, donated 130,000 of their signature product to the Olympic village.

Durex marketing dude Mark Critchley even announced, “As the official supplier of condoms and lubricants, we hope the donation will help athletes improve their achievements between the sheets.”

Matt Sussman

Sex should be an Olympic sport, Bowling Green Falcon

Olympic Sex Games

It’s like the first day of college, you’re nervous, super excited. Everyone’s meeting people and trying to hook up with someone.

Tony Azevedo

Olympic Water Polo

It’s like Vegas, you learn not to ask a lot of questions.

John Godina

Olympic Shotput

If you find somebody you like and who likes you, your world’s complete for a second, and you compete well.

Breaux Greer

Olympic Javelin

There’s a lot of sex going on.

Hope Solo

Olympic Soccer

Olympic athletes have to display an unnatural … level of self-discipline in the build-up to big competitions. How else is this going to manifest itself than with a volcanic release of pent-up hedonism?

Matthew Syed

Olympic Table Tennis

Ryan Lochte - Olympic Swimming

I’d say it’s 70 percent to 75 percent of Olympians. Hey, sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do.

Carrie Sheinberg - Olympic Skiing

Just a magical, fairy-tale place, like Alice in Wonderland, where everything is possible. You could win a gold medal and you can sleep with a really hot guy.

Emily Brydon - Olympic Skiing

What happens at Olympic Village stays at Olympic village. There’s a lot of stress pent up over the week, so it’s safe to say that some good times happen.

I’m running a friggin’ brothel in the Olympic Village! I’ve never witnessed so much debauchery in my entire life.

Josh Lakatos

Olympic Target Shooting

Hope Solo

Hope Solo - Olympic Soccer

Unlike at a bar, it’s not awkward to strike up a conversation because you have something in common. It starts with, ‘What sport do you play?’ All of a sudden, you’re fist-bumping.

The entire women’s 4×100 relay team of some Scandinavian-looking country walks out of the house, followed by boys from our side. And I’m just going, ‘Holy crap, we’d watched these girls run the night before.’

Josh Lakatos

Olympic Target Shooter

I am often asked if the Olympic village is the sex-fest it is cracked up to be. My answer is: too right it is. My first games was Barcelona in 1992, and I got laid more often in those two and a half weeks than in the rest of my life up to that point.

Matthew Syed

Olympic Table Tennis

Brandi Chastain - Olympic soccer

When I walked in for the first time in Atlanta, there were loud cheers. So we look over and see two French handballers dressed only in socks, shoes, jockstraps, neckties and hats on top of a dining table, feeding one another lunch. We’re like, ‘Holy cow, what is this place?

We’d graze over our food for hours watching all the eye candy, wondering why I got married.

Julie Foudy

Olympic Soccer

Olympic Sex Alicia Sacramone

Alicia Sacramone - Olympic Gymnast.

As far as best bodies, it’s swimmers and water polo players, because that’s an insane workout. And the track guys, they’re sneaky-cute. Very serious, but when they lighten up, you’re like, ‘Oh, you’re kind of adorable.

Carrie Sheinberg - Olympic Alpine Skiing

Olympians are adventurers. They look for a challenge, like having sex with someone who doesn’t speak their language.

Breaux Greer - Olympic Javelin

The girls are in skimpy panties and bras, the dudes in underwear, so you see what everybody is working with from the jump. Even if their face is a 7, their body is a 20.

Hope Solo - Olympic Soccer

With a once-in-a-lifetime experience, you want to build memories, whether it’s sexual, partying or on the field. I’ve seen people having sex right out in the open. On the grass, between buildings, people are getting down and dirty.

revised and updated for MichaelSamadhi.com

from material originally posted at SpiritualBDSM.com

Geekdom or Geek Dom? | Smutober Sex Geek

Yes, I’m a Sex Geek | Smutober Day 17

Geekdom or Geek Dom? Both?

when owning just one neon wand just isn’t enough… #gearfetish

A good number of folks into BDSM could also be called sex geeks.

And really, what’s geekier than electrical play?

Being a geek is a great thing. I think we’re all geeks. Being a geek means you’re passionate about something and that defines your uniqueness. I would rather be passionate about something than be apathetic about everything.

Masi Oka

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Private Eyes
Lust Highway

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I love a man in a suit
Church Smells, Beliefs and Fornication

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The House Next Door

Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships

Feelings about bisexuality
On scheduling sex
Reasons I Didn’t Orgasm That Aren’t About You

Erotic Non-Fiction

Wet on the Washer
Alice Takes a Spanking
The GP – Part Two

Erotic Fiction

Rope Tattoo
Taking the Lead
Rites of Passage ~ Part 4
Spanking Desires
How Could I Resist
Summer Smoke
Angel on My Shoulder

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Marks are Memories on the Skin
Him. His cane
Being Naked
A Prickly Situation
Collars in bdsm: Where did they come from?



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“What Were You Wearing?”

Happy, Baby Won’t You Keep Me… Happy | Smutober

Smutober Day 16 | Baby Won’t You Keep Me… Happy

never kept a dollar past sunset, it always burned a hole in my pants

Sinnjara, Tricia, Michael (left to right)


Baby Won’t You Keep Me… Happy

We all want to be happy. Well perhaps most want to be happy, I’m not so sure about Baudelaire. Sometimes I think he reveled in being tortured. Then I think to myself, he was human too, he wanted what we all want.

But how much is your happiness worth? Is it ever worth the cost of other’s happiness? Is happiness like love? Poly people like to use the analogy of love and children. It’s the belief that we have the capacity to love many, just as we have the capacity to love more than one child. I think that’s true. Well, most days I think it’s true.

If that were true, it would seem there’s plenty of love and happiness in the world to go around. We all know that’s not true on the grand scale of things. The world needs more love. Most of us could use more happiness too. I’d like to believe that our own happiness enriches the world. Most days I know that to be fact. Todays is a day, however, full of creeping doubt.

As I learn and grow, that growth sometimes leads me in new directions. I’m not exactly the same person I was five years ago, My Mother’s death changed me. I’m certainly not the person I was 10 years ago, my divorce from Bliss changed me too. Just under twenty years ago, my Father abandoned my Mother for another woman after 40 years of marriage, leaving me to be Mom’s caregiver. No doubt that changed me as well.

Anytime I change, anytime I reach for my own happiness, it leaves destruction in its wake. When I change and grow, it seems to hurt others around me. They still cling to the Michael they loved, adored, or served. When that same exact Michael is no longer there, it hurts them.

I don’t want to sound egotistical. It’s not that I’m such a great man that I ever really deserved the love and adoration they gifted upon me. It’s just that I seem to have a great ability to create co-dependent relationships. And that codependency, I think, leads to great disruption as I go through the stages of life we all navigate.

My very first girlfriend showed up a few years ago, it had been 30 years since I’d had any contact. She said that she still loved me, that breaking up with me was the worst mistake she’d ever made. Bliss, my second wife, still feels she was pushed aside by Serafina. Now, Serafina feels pushed aside by Sinnjara.

How did this happen? I never wanted a monogamous relationship. I always wanted a big happy polyamorous family. But, there’s no doubt that poly relationships are more difficult to navigate than mono. They say communication is the key to poly. I’m told I’m a great communicator. I have special expertise there, I’ve served as a Press Secretary and spokesperson after all. In relationships, I’m also told I sometimes communicate too much. Go figure, right?

In the end, we all want to be happy. We all want the fulfilled life of our dreams. But, how does a person justify seeking happiness if it always has to come at a cost?

Sinnjara, Michael, Serafina

Well I never kept a dollar past sunset,
It always burned a hole in my pants.
Never made a school mama happy,
Never blew a second chance, oh no

I need a love to keep me happy,
I need a love to keep me happy.
Baby, baby keep me happy.
Baby, baby keep me happy.

Always took candy from strangers,
Didn’t wanna get me no trade.
Never want to be like papa,
Working for the boss ev’ry night and day.

I need a love to keep me happy,
I need a love, baby won’t ya keep me happy.
Baby, won’t ya keep me happy.
Baby, please keep me

I need a love to keep me happy,
I need a love to keep me happy.
Baby, baby keep me happy.

Never got a flash out of cocktails,
When I got some flesh off the bone.
Never got a lift out of Lear jets,
When I can fly way back home.

I need a love to keep me happy,
I need a love to keep me happy.
Baby, baby keep me happy.
Baby, baby keep me happy.

Happy, baby won’t you keep me
Happy, baby won’t you keep me…

Rolling Stones

Happy, Mick Jagger / Keith Richards

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