Kinky Quotes

Michael Samadhi’s kinky quotes collection

From childhood’s hour I have not been
As others were – I have not seen
As others saw – I could not bring
My passions from a common spring.

— Edgar Allan Poe, Alone

It’s hard for an educated woman to turn her head off. That’s part of the joy of being a submissive. None of the decisions are yours. When you can’t refuse anything and can’t even move, those voices in your head go silent. All you can do, and all you are permitted to do, is feel.

— Cherise Sinclair, Dark Citadel

“So you’ll get your kicks by exerting your will over me.”
“It’s about gaining your trust and your respect, so you’ll let me exert my will over you. I will gain a great deal of pleasure, joy, even in your submission. The more you submit, the greater my joy – it’s a very simple equation.”
“Okay, and what do I get out of this?”
He shrugs and looks almost apologetic.
“Me,” he says simply.

— E.L. James, Fifty Shades of Grey

I do not want to be the leader. I refuse to be the leader. I want to live darkly and richly in my femaleness. I want a man lying over me, always over me. His will, his pleasure, his desire, his life, his work, his sexuality the touchstone, the command, my pivot. I don’t mind working, holding my ground intellectually, artistically; but as a woman, oh, God, as a woman I want to be dominated. I don’t mind being told to stand on my own feet, not to cling, be all that I am capable of doing, but I am going to be pursued, fucked, possessed by the will of a male at his time, his bidding

— Anaïs Nin

It’s been so long since I made love I can’t even remember who gets tied up.

— Joan Rivers

The number one job of the dominant is to continually seduce consent from the bottom.

— Joseph Bean

In the world of animals, pain serves an equivocal role. Parental nips and swipes are common tools in upbringing. And socially, pain is sometimes used to maintain hierarchies of dominance. But this animal use of pain seems somewhat restrained, at least in contrast with the human situation. Here the capacity for pain is often used to systematically exploit and oppress at intensities often far beyond those seen in the behaviour of our nearest primate relatives. At the same time, at least in western culture, pain is rarely used for pleasure. Is it little wonder that all pain is viewed as intrinsically evil? Or that the pain-pleasure of leatherspace has been labelled torture?

— Geoff Mains, Urban Aboriginals

That’s what’s so ironic about the conservative backlash against BDSMers. With increased visibility comes increased bigotry, and conservatives continue to rally against kinky events by local groups to get them shut down. What the anti-kink fanatics don’t understand about us is that we’re geeks. Sex nerds. SM intellectuals. We pay money to spend a weekend going to classes.

— Tristan Taormino, The Ultimate Guide to Kink: BDSM, Role Play and the Erotic Edge

He moves suddenly so that his hand is cupping my sex, and one of his fingers sinks slowly into me. His other arm holds me firmly in place around my waist. I suppress my moan.

“This is mine,” he whispers aggressively. “All mine. Do you understand?” He eases his finger in and out as he gazes down at me, gauging my reaction, his eyes burning.

“Yes, yours,”

— E.L. James, Fifty Shades of Grey

Bottoming doesn’t make you a submissive any more than standing in my kitchen makes you a cook. By the way, while you’re there, please make me a sandwich.

— Michael Makai, Domination & Submission: The BDSM Relationship Handbook

And when he ran the blades over her she felt light as a feather, floating happily into that place where pain and pleasure walked hand in hand, fully clear and conscious and she looked out to the darkness that lay outside of their artificial day. All too soon it was gone, her vision dimming and her breaths evening as she found somewhere darker which centred around the golden light of her Master’s voice as he spoke to her.

— Astrid Knowles, Switch

S/M flies in the face of every attempt the state makes to appropriate our bodies, our labor, our time, and our imaginations.…the state is deeply offended by any group of people who say, ‘My body doesn’t belong to you, it belongs to me, so fuck off’…

— Pat Califia, Some Women

Every time you meet a situation you think at the time it is an impossibility and you go through the tortures of the damned, once you have met it and lived through it, you find that forever after you are freer than you were before.

— Eleanor Roosevelt

“Given involuntarily, and in an atmosphere of distrust, pain is torture, whatever the motive,” suggests David. “But given consensually, between equals, pain can be a most incredible form of love.”

— Geoff Mains, Urban Aboriginals

Submissive men, men who desire to serve as consensual slaves, are on one of the most difficult journeys in the world today, because they have rejected patriarchal privilege and embraced their own heart’s calling instead.

— Tammy Jo Eckhart, At Her Feet: Powering Your Femdom Relationship

I met her in a club down in old Soho
Where you drink champagne and it tastes just like Coca-Cola
C-O-L-A . . . Cola
She walked up to me and she asked me to dance
I asked her her name and in a dark brown voice she said Lola
L-O-L-A . . . Lola, la-la-la-la Lola!

— Ray Davies, Lola

On the evening of September 3rd, 2013 we lost a master, a hero, and a true artist in every sense of the word. His lover Femcar was with him till the very end, although not by his side. She was in her proper place, on her knees naked, below his desk. He burst through our world, larger than life, lived and died on his own terms. He will truly be missed, and his art will live on forever.

It takes a lot of thought to make sure each one is safe, and yet looks aesthetic…I like them to look precarious, almost unsafe or not strong enough, even though they are often strong enough to lift the truck with.

— Jeff Gord

I have always loved the thought of using women as items of furniture, especially if it makes escape or movement impossible. I guess it is the thought of having such a powerful sexual being totally under control…fortunately a lot of ladies also enjoy this concept from the other side of the equation.

I am horny and I love looking at bound women, what else does one need. I consider women to be powerful and often dangerous creatures so I enjoy the illusion of having them under control.

— Jeff Gord

If the women don’t enjoy it, it’s no good to me

— Jeff Gord

Jeff’s strongest obsession is with women converted into doll-like creatures, often with their personalities stripped away by costuming, hoods and corsets etc. This is his way of removing and playing with their considerable power by objectifying them and creating creatures of immense sexual allure with perfection of line. But these doll creatures also have to be tightly restrained, or Controlled. Reshaping their bodies with the indents of tight cinching is essential in the control aspect for Jeff Gord.

My interest in the bound female form does not have to include penetration or fucking for it to work form me. My main interest is tight bondage and objectification.

Jeff’s strongest obsession is with women converted into doll-like creatures, often with their personalities stripped away by costuming, hoods and corsets etc. This is his way of removing and playing with their considerable power by objectifying them and creating creatures of immense sexual allure with perfection of line. But these doll creatures also have to be tightly restrained, or Controlled. Reshaping their bodies with the indents of tight cinching is essential in the control aspect for Jeff Gord.

Jeff Gord truly showed that passion, imagination, and hard work can combine to make miraculous fantasies come true.

Masters are those who by nature have suffered to get to where they are. They have experienced endless criticisms of their work, doubts about their progress, setbacks along the way. They know deep in their bones what is required to get to the creative phase and beyond. As mentors, they alone can gauge the extent of our progress, the weakness in our character, the ordeals we must go through to advance. In this day and age, you must get the sharpest dose of reality that is possible from your mentor. You must go in search of it and welcome it. If possible, choose a mentor who is known for supplying this form of tough love. If they shy away from giving it, force them to hold up the mirror that will reflect you as you are. Get them to give you the proper challenges that will reveal your strengths and weaknesses and allow you to gain as much feedback as possible, no matter how hard it might be to take. Accustom yourself to criticism. Confidence is important, but if it is not based on a realistic appraisal of who you are, it is mere grandiosity and smugness. Through the realistic feedback of your mentor you will eventually develop a confidence that is much more substantial and worth possessing.

— Robert Greene, Mastery

My husband is a natural-born leader. I quickly learned that I had to find a way of honoring his take-charge personality and not get frustrated about his desire to have the final decision on just about everything. I am not a passive person, but I chose to fall into a more submissive role in our relationship because I wanted to do everything in my power to make my marriage and family work.

— Candace Cameron Bure, Us Weekly

What do I wear in bed? Why, Chanel No. 5, of course.

— Marilyn Monroe

Your vision will become clear only when you look into your heart. Who looks outside, dreams. Who looks inside, awakens.

— Carl Jung

Bad BDSM is much like any other kind of bad sex and for the same reasons. Good BDSM is much like any other kind of good sex and for the same reasons. If either is impersonal and done by the numbers, it will disappoint. If either is done with real feelings, passion and a sense of connection, it will deliver beyond expectations.
Kink isn’t the key factor here. It’s the ability to connect with another human being.

— Ernest Greene, FetLife

Be curious, not judgmental.

— Walt Whitman

Love does not consist of gazing at each other, but in looking together in the same direction.

— Antoine de Saint-Exupery

Who I am finally, if not the long silent part of someone, the secret and nocturnal part which has never betrayed itself in public by any thought, word, or deed, but communicates through subterranean depths of the imaginary with dreams as old as the world itself?

— Anne Desclos (Pauline Réage aka Dominique Aury)

I wasn’t young, I wasn’t pretty, it was necessary to find other weapons.

— Anne Desclos (Pauline Réage aka Dominique Aury)

I think that submissiveness can [be] and is a formidable weapon, which women will use as long as it isn’t taken from them.

— Anne Desclos (Pauline Réage aka Dominique Aury)

Is O used by René and Sir Stephen, or does she in fact use them, and…all those irons and chains and obligatory debauchery, to fulfill her own dream—that is, her own destruction and death? And, in some surreptitious way, isn’t she in charge of them? Doesn’t she bend them to her will?

— Anne Desclos (Pauline Réage aka Dominique Aury)

Debauchery conceived of as a kind of ascetic experience is not new, either for men or for women, but until Story of O no woman to my knowledge had said it.

— Anne Desclos (Pauline Réage aka Dominique Aury)

I think I have a repressed bent for the military, I like discipline without question, specific schedules and duties.

— Anne Desclos (Pauline Réage aka Dominique Aury)

By my makeup and temperament I wasn’t really prey to physical desires. Everything happened in my head.

— Anne Desclos (Pauline Réage aka Dominique Aury)

Story of O is a fairy tale for another world, a world where some part of me lived for a long time, a world that no longer exists except between the covers of a book.

— Anne Desclos (Pauline Réage aka Dominique Aury)

I wrote it alone, for him, to interest him, to please him, to occupy him. I wasn’t young, nor particularly pretty. I needed something which might interest a man like him.

— Anne Desclos (Pauline Réage aka Dominique Aury)

I found that stiffly saluting member, of which he was so proud, rather frightening, and to tell the truth I found his pride slightly comical. I thought that that must be embarrassing for him, and thought how much more pleasant it was to be a girl. That, by the way, is an opinion I still hold today.

— Anne Desclos (Pauline Réage aka Dominique Aury)

To love is to live on the precipice.

— Anne Desclos (Pauline Réage aka Dominique Aury)

Keep me rather in this cage, and feed me sparingly, if you dare. Anything that brings me closer to illness and the edge of death makes me more faithful. It is only when you make me suffer that I feel safe and secure. You should never have agreed to be a god for me if you were afraid to assume the duties of a god, and we know that they are not as tender as all that. You have already seen me cry. Now you must learn to relish my tears.

— Anne Desclos (Pauline Réage aka Dominique Aury), Story of O

To say that from the moment her lover had left, O began to await his return would be an understatement. She turned into pure vigil, darkness in waiting expectation of light.

— Anne Desclos (Pauline Réage aka Dominique Aury), Story of O

The fact that he gave her was to him a proof, and ought to be one for her as well that she belonged to him: one can only give what belongs to you.

— Anne Desclos (Pauline Réage aka Dominique Aury), Story of O

As a matter of fact,” the other voice went on, “if you do tie her up from time to time, or whip her just a little, and she begins to like it, that’s no good either. You have to get past the pleasure stage, until you reach the stage of tears.

— Anne Desclos (Pauline Réage aka Dominique Aury), Story of O

O was infinitely more moving when her body was covered with marks, of whatever kind, if only because these marks made it impossible for her to cheat and immediately proclaimed, the moment they were seen, that anything went as far as she was concerned. For to know this was one thing, but to see the proof of it, and to see the proof constantly renewed, was quite another.

— Anne Desclos (Pauline Réage aka Dominique Aury), Story of O

O felt that her mouth was beautiful, since her lover condescended to thrust himself into it . . .

— Anne Desclos (Pauline Réage aka Dominique Aury), Story of O

Lovers and mystics are familiar with this sense of grandeur, this taste of joy – in abandoning oneself to the will of others.

— Anne Desclos (Pauline Réage aka Dominique Aury)

The voluntary captive
The speechless the prisoner
Which I hide in my very depths…

— Dominique Aury, Dreams

There is nothing inherently dirty about sex, but if you try hard and use your imagination you can overcome that.

— Lewis Grizzard

We tend to think of the erotic as an easy, tantalizing sexual arousal. I speak of the erotic as the deepest life force, a force which moves us toward living in a fundamental way.

— Audre Lorde, Black Women Writers at Work

The erotic is a resource within each of us that lies in a deeply female and spiritual plane, firmly rooted in the power of our unexpressed or unrecognized feeling. . . .

— Audre Lorde, Sister Outsider: Essays and Speeches

During World War II, we bought sealed plastic packets of white, uncolored margarine, with a tiny, intense pellet of yellow coloring perched like a topaz just inside the clear skin of the bag. We would leave the margarine out for a while to soften, and then we would pinch the little pellet to break it inside the bag, releasing the rich yellowness into the soft pale mass of margarine. Then taking it carefully between our fingers, we would knead it gently back and forth, over and over, until the color had spread throughout the whole pound bag of margarine, thoroughly coloring it. I find the erotic such a kernel within myself. When released from its intense and constrained pellet, it flows through and colors my life with a kind of energy that heightens and sensitizes and strengthens all my experience.

— Audre Lorde, Sister Outsider: Essays and Speeches

We’re supposed to see “universal” love as heterosexual. What I insist upon in my work is that there is no such thing as universal love in literature.

— Audre Lorde, Black Women Writers at Work

Once we begin to feel deeply all the aspects of our lives, we begin to demand from ourselves and from our life-pursuits that they feel in accordance with that joy which we know ourselves to be capable of. Our erotic knowledge empowers us, becomes a lens through which we scrutinize all aspects of our existence, forcing us to evaluate those aspects honestly in terms of their relative meaning within our lives. . . .

— Audre Lorde, Sister Outsider: Essays and Speeches

Come to the edge’, he said.
They said, ‘We are afraid’.
‘Come to the edge’, he said.
They came.
He pushed them…
And they flew.

— Guillaume Apollinaire

The eye of the master will do more work than both his hands.

— Benjamin Franklin

Ultimately, the purpose of a flogging is to inflict pleasure.

— Mitch Kessler

No kind of sensation is keener and more active than pain it’s impressions are unmistakable.

— Marquis De Sade, 120 Days of Sodom

My manner of thinking, so you say, cannot be approved. Do you suppose I care? A poor fool indeed is he who adopts a manner of thinking for others!

— Marquis de Sade

Love well, whip well.

— Benjamin Franklin

When you think night and day and every moment only of pleasing me, things will be very easy for you.

— Anne Rice, The Claiming of Sleeping Beauty

Everyone is a potential naked slave to you once you become a trainer.

— Anne Rice

It is always by way of pain one arrives at pleasure.

— Marquis de Sade

I’ve already told you: the only way to a woman’s heart is along the path of torment. I know none other as sure.

— Marquis de Sade

‘Sex’ is as important as eating or drinking and we ought to allow the one appetite to be satisfied with as little restraint or false modesty as the other.

— Marquis de Sade

In order to know virtue, we must first acquaint ourselves with vice.

— Marquis de Sade

The imagination is the spur of delights… all depends upon it, it is the mainspring of everything; now, is it not by means of the imagination one knows joy? Is it not of the imagination that the sharpest pleasures arise?

— Marquis de Sade

It is not my mode of thought that has caused my misfortunes, but the mode of thought of others.

— Marquis de Sade

There is no more lively sensation than that of pain; its impressions are certain and dependable, they never deceive as may those of the pleasure women perpetually feign and almost never experience.

— Marquis de Sade

Lust’s passion will be served; it demands, it militates, it tyrannizes.

— Marquis de Sade

Lust is to the other passions what the nervous fluid is to life; it supports them all, lends strength to them all ambition, cruelty, avarice, revenge, are all founded on lust.

— Marquis de Sade

When a good time turns around
You must whip it
You will never live it down
Unless you whip it
No one gets away
Until they whip it
I say whip it
Whip it good

— Devo, Whip It

If ever thou be’st bound in thy scarf and beaten, thou shalt find what it is to be proud of thy bondage.

— William Shakespeare, All’s Well That Ends Well

Women and sluts, for that matter, come in all sizes, colors and shapes as does beauty.

I have found men who didn’t know how to kiss. I’ve always found time to teach them.

— Mae West

Everyone carries a shadow, and the less it is embodied in the individual’s conscious life, the blacker and denser it is.

— Carl Jung

Good girls get diamonds and pearls, but lucky girls get the ball gag.

— RiskySour, @ Fetlife

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