Recipe for Michael’s Smile | Smutober Day 8

Michael’s Recipe for Gastronomical Satisfaction | Smutober Day 8

It really doesn’t get any better than this

Recipe for a Simple Man?

What is the perfect recipe for Michael? Despite some rumors to the contrary, I’d like to believe that I’m really a simple man. Perhaps that leads to a simple recipe?

Truth be told, I’m more than a little bit of a hedonist. At the same time, I ascribe to Buddhist beliefs. They are traditions that seem to hold opposing viewpoints on life.

Most Buddhists are vegetarian. I’m a confirmed meatasaurus. Of course, I’m a non-traditional Tantric Buddhist/pagan. That makes a difference, I suppose.

Hedonists are known, in many cases, for their excesses. Buddhism teaches moderation. I tend to ascribe to the Buddhist side of the equation here. With that said, you don’t often hear that living a BDSM lifestyle is a path of moderation…

Perhaps I’m not so simple after all?

A Tantric Recipe?

When it comes to the ideal meal, a Tantric ritual called Panchamakara comes to mind. Essentially, it’s a ritual meal accompanied by intercourse. Also known as the “Five M’s”, Panchamakara is a Tantric term referencing the five substances used as part of the ritual.

  • madya (wine)
  • māṃsa (meat)
  • matsya (fish)
  • mudrā (parched grain)
  • maithuna (sexual intercourse)

As I noted above, the taboo-breaking elements of this ritual (the consumption of meat etc.) are only literally practiced by “left-hand path” Tantrics (vāmācārin), whereas “right-hand path” Tantrics (dakṣiṇācārin) oppose that interpretation of this ritual.

Obviously then, I follow the left-hand path…

These functions are the subject of the Panchatattva or Panchamakara (“five Ms”), as they are vulgarly called–viz.: Madya (wine), Mangsa (meat), Matsya (fish), Mudra (parched grain), and Maithuna. In ordinary parlance, Mudra means ritual gestures or positions of the body in worship and Hatha Yoga but as one of the five elements it is parched cereal and is defined as ‘Bhrishta-danya dikang yadyad chavya-niyam prachaks-hate, sa mudra kathita devi sarvves-hang naganam-dini’. The Tantras speak of the five elements as Panchatattva, Kuladravya, Kulatattva and certain of the elements have esoteric names, such as Karanavari or Tirtha-vari, for wine, the fifth element being usually called Lata-sadhana (Sadhana with woman or Shakti). The five elements, moreover have various meanings, according as they form part of the Tamasika (Pashvachara), Rajasika (Virachara) or Divya or Sattvika sadhanas respectively.

Arthur Avalon (Sir John Woodroffe)

Mahanirvana Tantra

Recipe for Kink

If you didn’t fully understand Woodroffe’s quote, that’s ok. It makes my eyes blur a little too.

I included it, not only to describe the five M’s, but also to illustrate how difficult it was to study Tantra before it was popularized in the West during the sexual revolution. I only know a small handful of Sanskrit terms, and I’ve been following my own Tantric path since the mid-1990’s.

I’m not a very good Buddhist, to be quite honest. I lost my spiritual mentor something like 15 years ago. Even then, it wasn’t a simple path I chose for myself.

Without his wisdom, my personal path combining BDSM and Tantra has gravitated more and more towards the kink side of the equation. I haven’t truly practiced the Tantric ritual of Panchamakara for more than a decade…

Recipe for Smiles – Michael’s Edition

Perhaps I really am a simple man after all.

Give me a nice ribeye steak, a side of good vegetables, and I’m thrilled. A glass of wine is nice, but I’m a Type II diabetic, I’d probably prefer a cup of coffee or a diet soft drink. That’s really all it takes.

And, that’s my recipe for you too – pure simplicity. No courses. No sauces or glazes. Nothing marinated.

Sometimes it’s just the simple things in life…

My Path and Leaves of Grass | Smutober Day 5

Smutober Day 5 ~ Mastery, Walt Whitman, and Leaves of Grass

Whitman influenced me greatly. He could be called my spiritual father.

If you are an American, then Walt Whitman is your imaginative father and mother, even if, like myself, you have never composed a line of verse.

Harold Bloom

steel engraving of Walt Whitman in his 30s from the first edition of Leaves of Grass

Whitman and Mastery

I hope by now, any existing readers of Michael’s Way understand my love of quotes.

Collecting quotes from my readings has been part of my personal path to “Mastery”. How I define that word may be significantly different than the path other dominants take. And, to my mind, that’s a good thing.

There is no such thing as a “cookie cutter dominant”, we all must seek our own paths on the road to Mastery. To me, being a Master includes far more than knowing how to use a flogger or whip, learning shibari, or developing skills for other types of kinky fuckery.

Mastery is a lifelong path. It’s about learning and growing as an individual, and as a leader.

The vision I have for my own personal Mastery is to grow into a sort of leather-clad Rennaissance man, always ready with wisdom, a quote, or song to share.

If you’ve read Frank Herbert’s Dune series, picture Gurney Halleck in today’s world… (Sinnjara says I’m far more handsome than Gurney, but she’s quite prejudiced.)

Portrait of Whitman by Thomas Eakins

With that in mind, for today’s Smutober entry, I’m sharing quotes from Walt Whitman’s Leaves of Grass.

It’s a book that’s rather infamous in my mind, as a copy of the book was gifted to Monica Lewinsky by President Bill Clinton. Regardless of what you think of Clinton, like him or hate him based on his morality, there’s really no denying that the man is well educated, well spoken, and charismatic.

Leaves of Grass was part of Monica’s seduction. So, to my way of thinking, it may also prove seductive enough to provide a nice helping of food for thought for you too, my dear reader…

This is what you should do: love the earth and sun and the animals, despise riches, give alms to everyone that asks, stand up for the stupid and crazy, devote your income and labor to others, hate tyrants, argue not concerning God, have patience and indulgence toward the people, take off your hat to nothing known or unknown or to any man or number of men … re-examine all you have been told at school or church or in any book, dismiss what insults your own soul, and your very flesh shall be a great poem.

Walt Whitman

Leaves Of Grass

Quotes from Leaves of Grass

“Are you the new person drawn toward me?
To begin with, take warning – I am surely far different from what you suppose;
Do you suppose you will find in me your ideal?
Do you think it so easy to have me become your lover?
Do you think the friendship of me would be unalloy’d satisfaction?
Do you think I am trusty and faithful?
Do you see no further than this façade—this smooth and tolerant manner of me?
Do you suppose yourself advancing on real ground toward a real heroic man?
Have you no thought, O dreamer, that it may be all maya, illusion?”

Walt Whitman

I sing the body electric,
The armies of those I love engirth me and I engirth them,
They will not let me off till I go with them, respond to them,
And discorrupt them, and charge them full with the charge of the soul.

Walt Whitman

Your very flesh shall be a great poem…

Walt Whitman

Do I contradict myself? Very well, then I contradict myself, I am large, I contain multitudes.

Walt Whitman

Renaissance Fairs & BDSM ~ Smutober Day 4

Renaissance Fairs & BDSM

BDSM & Renaissance Fairs go together like ducks and water. There are few things in life that are a more natural fit. It’s true that renaissance fairs don’t actively promote the activities there as having BDSM undertones. They are family events after all.

But, there’s no denying that dunking wenches is akin to a form of BDSM water bondage/play. Outside of a dungeon event, or play party, where else besides a Rene Fair are you going to visit to get locked into a jail or cage?

Perhaps you are a cosplayer? There’s really no better public venue (short of a cosplay convention) to show off your lovely/scary/menacing/sexy costumed self. The gladiator style leathers you picked up at last year’s IML will fit in perfectly here. So will the executioners hood that looks so scary hot on your partner in your dungeon at home.

And, that’s true for folks into roleplay too. Attending a renaissance fair is something like roleplayers wet dream. It gives the opportunity to stay in character as long as they choose.

Ren Fairs even offer shopping opportunities for kinky minded individuals. Certainly, if you wished to someday try the infamous “Samadhi sword clothes cutoff” (don’t try this at home without proper instruction) you can find finely forged bladed instruments at a Rennaissance Fair.  Items of this sort also make outstanding decorations for classic dungeon decor.

I can find pervertables almost anywhere. But, it’s also good to know that a Fair is as good a place as any to search for items that can be turned to good use for kinky fuckery. A somewhat limited selection of what could be called BDSM style toys (whips and the like are not completely uncommon) and pervertables may also be found at an SSC (or similar style organization) event.

It may go without saying, but I’ve always thought a timely reminder to sometimes be good… Strict attention to quality should never be overlooked. Anytime I’m dealing with handmade items being sold at any sort of festival or fair, I’m really quite picky. A toy serves no one well if it self-destructs after only a few uses.

Finally, it’s worth mentioning that attending a Renaissance Fair can be a good way for the shy among us to get their feet wet in a “world beyond vanilla”. Sure, it’s not quite a play party, public dungeon or BDSM festival, but it’s also a lot easier to explain to inquisitive family members asking where you went last weekend…

I think that maybe I’m dreaming

I smell cinnamon and spices
I hear music everywhere
All around kaleidoscope of color
I think that maybe I’m dreaming

Maids pass gracefully in laughter
Wine coloured flowers in their hair
Last call from lands I’ve never been to
I think that maybe I’m dreaming

Sun’s flash on a soda prism
Bright jewels on the ladies flashing
Eyes catch on a shiny prism

Hear ye the crying of the vendors
Fruit for sale wax candles for to burn
Fires flare soon it will be night fall
I think that maybe I’m dreaming

I think that maybe I’m dreaming
I think that maybe I’m dreaming

Renaissance Fair

The Byrds (1967)

Smutober 2017 – Day 4

Sexual Education ~ Sheryl Lee Ralph, Piers Anthony, Victoria Wood, Karl Kraus, Rod McKuen

I cannot believe that my generation may very well have been the last one to have sex education in schools that was truly the complete and total package. I mean what are we doing? Are we in the future, but acting like it’s The Dark Ages?

Sheryl Lee Ralph

Sheryl Lee Ralph

Piers Anthony

In fact, I believe that we need better sex education in our own culture, here in America, so that young folk learn about things like venereal disease before they encounter it.

Piers Anthony

In my day we didn’t have sex education, we just picked up what we could off the television.

Victoria Wood

Victoria Wood

Karl Kraus

Sex education is legitimate in that girls cannot be taught soon enough how children don’t come into the world.

Karl Kraus

We need sex education in schools, but we need it at home first. We need parents to learn the names of the teachers who are teaching their children. We need families to question day-care centers, to question other children and their own as to what goes on.

Rod McKuen

Rod McKuen

BDSM Education ~ Smutober Day 3

 Michael Samadhi providing BDSM education

Some days, no matter how hard you might try to write, inspiration escapes.

I want to write about BDSM education.  Why it’s important. Fuck, it’s more than important, it’s essential. Some of the shit we do is dangerous. Some of it can kill you. Despite all of the day’s distractions, I got a great introduction written.  Then, an internet hiccup swallowed it…

Coming back, what little inspiration I had gathered was now lost. So, what if a little kinky sex might get you hurt, there are so many other things in life that can kill a person.  Things like a gunman shooting people at a concert.

More than 50 dead, 10 times that many wounded in Las Vegas.

What’s more important? Being taught how not to set yourself on fire in a dungeon, or learning how to run from gunfire at a concert? I’d like to assure myself that you, my dear reader, will be far more likely to need the former more than the latter. Unfortunately, I am not convinced. Since I’ve not heard of any fatal dungeon accidents so far this year, it’s a pretty tough sell.

I shut off the news when they asked the question – “Is this the new normal?”

Fuck me! The new normal? I mean really… What the fuck? That means it’s better to take your chances with uninformed breath play than it is to go to a concert or nightclub. Perhaps I should title my next demo, “Put a plastic bag over your heads kids, it’s safer than going out on the streets…”???!!!???


BDSM can be likened to “graduate level sex”.  Many of the things we do for fun are slightly safer than skydiving.  Would you go skydiving without instruction?

I’m telling you that reading how-to articles isn’t enough.  Would you skydive based on watching “50 shades of parachutes” and reading a blog? Even after reading 100 blogs? I sure hope not.

There is only one answer. Venture forth into the world. Attended events with instruction and demos. Join groups. Find a mentor. Get first-hand instruction. There is no substitute for experience when it comes to edge play.  Like it, or not, something as simple as using a gag can kill your partner if used improperly, or without proper caution…

Please hold your loved ones close tonight.  Practice safe sex in all it’s guises. When it comes to BDSM, to be honest, the only way you’ll ever even know what “‘safe” means is to go forth and learn from the experienced.  Just do it!

A 2nd unofficial Smutober post on Education ~ Sexual Education ~ Sheryl Lee Ralph, Piers Anthony, Victoria Wood, Karl Kraus, Rod McKuen

Jiddu Krishnamurti ~ The door is there…

Jiddu Krishnamurti ~ philosopher and writer

In oneself lies the whole world and if you know how to look and learn, the door is there and the key is in your hand. Nobody on earth can give you either the key or the door to open, except yourself.

Jiddu Krishnamurti

My official Smutober entry for Door – Day 2 is Watching from the Door.

Having the great quote from Krisnamurti already in hand, I couldn’t resist adding an unofficial entry as well.

The Look of Love – Smutober Day 1

A look that time can’t erase

Smutober Day 1 ~ Love

The look of love is in your eyes
A look your smile can’t disguise
The look of love is saying so much more than just words could ever say
And what my heart has heard, well it takes my breath away

I can hardly wait to hold you, feel my arms around you
How long I have waited
Waited just to love you, now that I have found you

You’ve got the
Look of love, it’s on your face
A look that time can’t erase
Be mine tonight, let this be just the start of so many nights like this
Let’s take a lover’s vow and then seal it with a kiss

Look of Love

Burt Bacharach and Hal David

You like me, and I like it all…

David Bowie

You’ve got your mother in a whirl
She’s not sure if you’re a boy or a girl
Hey babe, your hair’s alright
Hey babe, let’s go out tonight
You like me, and I like it all
We like dancing and we look divine
You love bands when they’re playing hard
You want more and you want it fast
They put you down, they say I’m wrong
You tacky thing, you put them on
Rebel Rebel, you’ve torn your dress
Rebel Rebel, your face is a mess
Rebel Rebel, how could they know?
Hot tramp, I love you so!

David Bowie

Rebel Rebel