"Nobody goes there anymore. It's too crowded."-- Yogi Berra
It was my six year Facebook anniversary last week. The so called Faceversary.
Have you lived under a rock the last decade? Then, I don’t need to tell you – Everyone who’s anyone is on Facebook.
Along with many of us who aren’t really anyone. You know, folks like me.
I have my share of kinky friends on Facebook. But, they tend to be people that have their own following. Not ones that follow.
There’s no group of adoring fans waiting to comment on things added to my timeline. I don’t get re-posted. My posts rarely even receive ‘likes’.
In the end, I have no one to blame for any of that but myself.
I have my own particular sensibilities. It seems beneath the dignity of a good dominant to act in a self-aggrandizing manner. I’ve never been comfortable with self-promotion.
I’ve always believed in the ‘hard slog’, as Dyson calls it. The kind of ethic that good work has its own merit. Not to mention that hard work always wins out in the end.
If life were only so simple? Right?
You can observe a lot by just watching.Yogi Berra
observe by listening
I should also point out, it really is my true nature to be introverted.
People who have witnessed me giving a demo, or leading a discussion might doubt that fact. But, it’s the absolute truth.
Public speaking is simply a skill I’ve learned. Presenting was something I did to give back to the community. Neither was inherently within my comfort zone.
In life, I find that listening is a more valuable skill than speaking. Mr. Berra’s quote is about observing by watching. But, I’ve always found that actively listening to others gives me the best observations of all.
That’s not necessarily true on social media.
Think about what people are doing on Facebook today. They’re keeping up with their friends and family, but they’re also building an image and identity for themselves, which in a sense is their brand. They’re connecting with the audience that they want to connect to. It’s almost a disadvantage if you’re not on it now.Mark Zuckerberg
I certainly enjoy the time I spend on social media these days.
But, I’m not the kind of person who thinks to post the location of the restaurants where I eat. I’m not going to send off a notification every time I visit a sick friend in the hospital.
When it comes to social media, I’m maladapted. It’s not my natural habitat. I’ll never be “somebody’. I’ll only ever be myself.
However, I’ve learned by listening to others, that’s not such a bad place to be.
I know who I am. How many can truly say that?
Can someone get Betty White a Snickers? Thanks!