it’s vacation time…

some time off work

going on holiday?

I’m off from work for the next week.

That means a vacation by the beach for many folks.  Last year I visited the Atlantic Ocean, the infamous Jersey Shore.

Of course, the beaches were closed while I was there.  Mother Nature decided to park a hurricane offshore.

It was inconvenient, I admit.  But, I saw waves as big as I’d ever wish to see rolling into shore.  I was witness to some spectacular sunrises and sunsets too.

Once upon a time for me, it would have meant a hike in the Northwoods.  Perhaps along the shores of Lake Superior or Lake Michigan.  There’s really something special about a cool breeze off those lakes.

There’s plenty of parks along the Great Lakes I’ve never visited.  Of course, I’ve never visited a park there that I wouldn’t return to again.

Or perhaps an exploration of Minnesota’s Boundry Waters area.  I’ve been all around that particular park, but have never had an opportunity to visit.  A week’s vacation at a cabin there sounds idyllic.

not so much

My plans include doctor visits…

Well, that and sleeping.

Perhaps if I’m really lucky – weather and health permitting – I’ll even go camping close to home for a night or two.  But, that’s about it.

The weather forecast is absolutely perfect, as it stands.  The primary issue is health.

I’d like to think that my best days are still ahead of me.

But at 54 years old, with a mounting list of health issues, that may also be wishful thinking.

The big issue at the moment is my potassium.  It’s been low all summer.  Despite dietary changes and huge supplement, it remains low.  One of the medicines prescribed to raise that particular electrolyte level made me ill.

And, it takes months to get in to see a nephrologist.  That’s the next step.

So, for the time being, I feel washed out.  I have no energy.  And, I really don’t feel much like doing anything…

I didn’t even come up with an image for this week’s Sinful Sunday!

Quote of the Day | 8-4-17

Up so close I never get to see your face.
Microscope I might as well be out in space.
Up so close I never get to see the view.
Down your throat I’m never sure if it’s still you.
Up your nose down to your toes.
In your mouth way down south.
Up so close it seems I only think of you.
Up so close I never see the sky so blue.
I only wanted to be sure
That what it was was really pure.
I put my face down in the cake.

John McCrea


Quote of the Day | 8-3-17

Anxiety and desire are two, often conflicting, orientations to the unknown. Both are tilted toward the future. Desire implies a willingness, or a need, to engage this unknown, while anxiety suggests a fear of it. Desire takes one out of oneself, into the possibility or relationship, but it also takes one deeper into oneself. Anxiety turns one back on oneself, but only onto the self that is already known.

Mark Epstein

Open to Desire: Embracing a Lust for Life - Insights from Buddhism and Psychotherapy

Quote of the Day | 7-28-17

Someone told me the delightful story of the crusader who put a chastity belt on his wife and gave the key to his best friend for safekeeping, in case of his death. He had ridden only a few miles away when his friend, riding hard, caught up with him, saying ‘You gave me the wrong key!’

Anaïs Nin

Everyone who’s anyone is on Facebook…

"Nobody goes there anymore. It's too crowded."

-- Yogi Berra
In the digital age of ‘overnight’ success stories such as Facebook, the hard slog is easily overlooked. James Dyson


It was my six year Facebook anniversary last week.  The so called Faceversary.

Have you lived under a rock the last decade?  Then, I don’t need to tell you – Everyone who’s anyone is on Facebook.

Along with many of us who aren’t really anyone.  You know, folks like me.

I have my share of kinky friends on Facebook.  But, they tend to be people that have their own following.  Not ones that follow.

There’s no group of adoring fans waiting to comment on things added to my timeline.  I don’t get re-posted.  My posts rarely even receive ‘likes’.

In the end, I have no one to blame for any of that but myself.

I have my own particular sensibilities.  It seems beneath the dignity of a good dominant to act in a self-aggrandizing manner.  I’ve never been comfortable with self-promotion.

I’ve always believed in the ‘hard slog’, as Dyson calls it.  The kind of ethic that good work has its own merit.  Not to mention that hard work always wins out in the end.

If life were only so simple?  Right?

You can observe a lot by just watching.

Yogi Berra

observe by listening

I should also point out, it really is my true nature to be introverted.

People who have witnessed me giving a demo, or leading a discussion might doubt that fact.  But, it’s the absolute truth.

Public speaking is simply a skill I’ve learned.  Presenting was something I did to give back to the community.  Neither was inherently within my comfort zone.

In life, I find that listening is a more valuable skill than speaking.  Mr. Berra’s quote is about observing by watching.  But, I’ve always found that actively listening to others gives me the best observations of all.

That’s not necessarily true on social media.

Think about what people are doing on Facebook today. They’re keeping up with their friends and family, but they’re also building an image and identity for themselves, which in a sense is their brand. They’re connecting with the audience that they want to connect to. It’s almost a disadvantage if you’re not on it now.

Mark Zuckerberg

I certainly enjoy the time I spend on social media these days.

But, I’m not the kind of person who thinks to post the location of the restaurants where I eat.  I’m not going to send off a notification every time I visit a sick friend in the hospital.

When it comes to social media, I’m maladapted.  It’s not my natural habitat.  I’ll never be “somebody’.  I’ll only ever be myself.

However, I’ve learned by listening to others, that’s not such a bad place to be.

I know who I am.  How many can truly say that?

I didn’t know what Facebook was, and now that I do know what it is, I have to say, it sounds like a huge waste of time. Betty White

Can someone get Betty White a Snickers?  Thanks!