Quote of the Day | 7-27-17

So what is transgressive in the practice of this secret Tantra is the gesture not to elide the difference that women present. What does this mean? That women represent not merely objects, property, or the possibility of sexual gratification, but an opening point to the possibility of difference as the subjectivity of the other.

Loriliai Biernacki

Renowned Goddess of Desire: Women, Sex, and Speech in Tantra

OMFG It Stings! – The Spider Bite Stiffy

now THAT's a love bite . . .

Phoneutria nigriventer

It’s a truly wicked looking spider.  Even a quick glance at this creature seems to signal it’s bad intent.

For individuals with arachnophobia, there really is something here to fear.

Aggressive.

Stealthy.

Highly venomous.

In fact, calling this little beast ‘highly venomous’ is a significant understatement.

It’s currently listed by Guinness World Records, the official site of ultimate record-breaking facts & achievements, as the most venous spider on the planet.

The scientific name for this spider is Phoneutria nigriventer, but it goes by many others.  A good number of arachnids are known as ‘banana spider’, this is one of them.

From the word armadeiras in Brazilian Portuguese, it’s also one of the species known as ‘armed spiders’.

And, it has another common name that’s quite descriptive.

aka the Brazillian Wandering Spider

If the illustrations I’ve provided of the Brazillian Wandering Spider make it look imposing, that’s because it is a spectacular creature.

They grow in size until they are between 5″ and 6″ across.

Unlike other spiders that build webs, or hunt from lairs, this little beast wanders the jungle floor at night.  Hunting for prey.

During the day they like to hide in dark moist places.

In nature that means termite mounds, under rocks and downed tree limbs.  Inside bundles of bananas, and some favored species of plants.

It also means they are drawn to human dwellings.  They hide under buildings.  In houses, cars, clothes, boots, and boxes.

Anywhere it’s dark and damp.

In the Brazillian and Central American jungles, the habitat where these arachnids live, most everything is damp.

Front legs raised, Phoneutria nigriventer in it’s characteristic defensive posture. 

it may not kill you, but …

Yes, the bite of the Brazillian Wandering Spider is potentially deadly.

The venom will cause paralysis, and ultimately asphyxiation.  Tragically, there are confirmed cases of infant mortality.

The first bit of good news I can offer — Phoneutria nigriventer‘s jaws are not well adapted to piercing skin.

Thankfully.

Meaning, despite the venom’s extreme toxicity, this spider’s bite is rarely fatal.

But the side effects of even small amounts of Brazillian Wandering Spider venom come with a very real kick.

It may not kill you, but …

The erection is a side effect that everybody who gets stung by this spider will experience along with the pain and discomfort.

Romulo Leite

Medical College of Georgia

priapism

While generally not deadly to individuals beyond the age of infancy, the bite of the Brazillian Wandering Spider does have a very significant toxic effect.

It begins with intense generalized pain.  Everywhere.  And severe inflammation.

If that’s doesn’t sound bad enough, just wait.  Lying there, body racked with excruciating pain, there is still another effect coming.

Adding insult to serious injury…

It’s a hard-on.

The stiff dick is also in excruciating pain, just like everything else.

And it won’t go away!

Remember those Viagra commercials?  The ones warning you to seek medical attention if an erection lasts more than four hours?

Believe it or not, this is going to be one of those…

If you get an erection lasting more than 4 hours, seek immediate medical help to avoid long-term injury.

Eli Lilly and Company

Cialis website

report to the emergency room

So, if you have a penis, and you’ve been bitten by one of those fucking Brazillian Wandering Spiders, it’s time for a trip to the emergency room.

Do not pass Go!  Do not collect $200.

Get your silly spider bitten ass off to the closest doctor available.

If you’d like to keep using your dick, that is…

I’m not going to bore you, my dear reader, with all the medical explanations for why a long lasting erection is dangerous.

Suffice it to say that it is so.  (Along with an open invitation to research the topic yourself if you don’t believe me.  Here’s a link to start – Priapism.)

All I’ll say is this – the likely result of untreated priapism (whether caused by spiders or pharmaceuticals) will be a lifetime of total impotence.

Also, I will not describe one potential medical treatment for the never-ending erection, lest I discourage you from seeking the immediate medical your certainly will need.

It’s gruesome.  But not nearly as bad as the alternative.

potential medical uses

Despite the extreme pain this spider’s bite causes, it should be no great surprise that the venom’s ability to create a strong erection is of great interest to science.

By science, at least in this case, I mean pharmaceutical companies.

Erectile dysfunction drugs are huge money makers.  I’ve read that the biggest profits in the drug manufacturer’s arsenal come from ED medicines.

It makes sense.  The potential market for the pills is huge.  Sooner or later, if a man lives long enough, it’s pretty much inevitable he’s going to have erectile issues.  For some, those issues can creep up as early as middle-age.

And, the mechanism in Brazillian Wandering Spider’s venom that causes hard-ons works differently than existing drugs like viagra.

So, drug manufacturers are very excited at the potential of a new drug.  It could potentially be as big, or even bigger, than viagra.

I’d wager the thought of all those profits is giving some drug executive a stiffy right now.

all those damned quotes? why?

"Life itself is a quotation"

-- Jorge Luis Borges

The wisdom of the wise, and the experience of ages, may be preserved by quotation.

Isaac D'Israeli

quote of the day

I’m sure you’ve noticed my Quote of the Day feature.

It’s rather hard to miss.

A friend of mine asked the other day why I was cluttering up my blog with all the quotes.

Their point was that the blog is called Michael’s Way.  Not DeSade’s way.  Nor Antoniou’s way.  Not Califia’s way either.

So why?  Why are there all those damned quotes?

Bear with me please, I’ll answer that question in a moment.

But, right now, I must admit that quotes make up about 60% of the posts.  That’s a ratio that certainly won’t get any lower as long as I post daily quotes.  And, you should know, the percentage of quotes might go higher still.  

Creating good content takes time.  It takes inspiration. It’s not likely I’ll keep up with the nearly post a day pace I’ve set so far.  At least not for long.

So, no matter how well I do with writing, the Quote of the Day feature will always be the (numerically) greatest part of Michael’s Way.

Perhaps life itself really is a quotation.

A fine quotation is a diamond in the hand of a man of wit and a pebble in the hand of a fool.

Joseph Roux

Meditations of a Parish Priest

collecting quotes

I’ve been collecting quotes since I turned 21.

That’s more than 30 years (and counting.)

Back in the day, as I read, I would fill notebooks with quotes.  Everything was “fair game”.  Anything I poked my nose into.

From Dumas’ Three Musketeers, to Thoreau’s Walden, on to No One Here Gets Out Alive, and Up and Down With the Rolling Stones.

Anytime I found a tidbit of wisdom (or perhaps obvious stupidity) I’d grab a notebook and pen, and faithfully copy the quotation.

I always felt that this practice made my reading more mindful.

It seemed that reading carefully enough to cull good quotes also facilitated better comprehension.

Well, the notebooks are long gone.  I think they disappeared during a big move.

But, the passion for collecting quotes remains.

Your host, Michael Samadhi

Every man is a quotation from all his ancestors.

Ralph Waldo Emerson

about Quote of the Day

My hope is, when I share each Quote of the Day, that the words will have potential meaning for somebody.  Anybody.

I expect that the original author’s message will strike a chord.

Provoke thought.

Provide inspiration.

That’s exactly what the quotes do for me.

In fact, I’ll share a little secret with you — the quotes really aren’t for my readers.

While I happily share them with my friends, their real purpose is more personal.

Most of the quotes have some kind of unique meaning to me.

Perhaps it’s a special memory surrounding me from when the quote was discovered.

It’s may be that the quote is a signpost, or remembrance, from my journey.

Sometimes a quote serves more as a reminder.

Maybe of something I hope to change in my own life.

Or something I know, but hope to reinforce.

Really, my personal purpose in sharing a quote could be almost anything.

Regardless of whatever they might do for me, I hope the quotations I share do something for you too.

Getting fucked and being owned are inseparably the same.

Andrea Dworkin

Dworkinisms

Believe it or not, Dworkin’s quotation (above) was the original inspiration for this post.  My writing took on an unanticipated direction from there.

That happens.  When words start getting transferred from my brain through the keyboard, intent and direction will sometimes shift.

But, there’s no escaping that this post was inspired by Dworkin.  It was originally intended to explain why I’d quote someone I do not respect.

My feelings about her run strong and deep.  Saying, “She was not my cup of tea,” would be a serious understatement.  Andrea’s an individual I never met, never would have wished to meet.

Sat down, alone in a room with her when she was still alive, I’d call a safeword within moments.  Yes, it’s really that bad.

You see then, perhaps, why I’m just not comfortable quoting Andrea Dworkin without significant explanation.

A post was necessary to explain the context of her statement.  A disclaimer was needed to assure readers I don’t agree.

porn wars

Andrea is a warrior from the “porn wars” days that I mentioned in my review for The Price of Pleasure.  She’s anything but sex positive.

Seen through her eyes, sex is always about …  Violence.  Oppression.  Rape.

She once wrote that intercourse is a – “Means of physiologically making a woman inferior.”

Wow!

Before learning of Dworkin, I never imagined anyone could make the “religious right” seem tolerant and sex-positive by comparison.  She makes it look easy.

Did I say, “Wow!”?  Yes, I certainly meant it.

I clearly don’t agree with her.  So, I quote Andrea Dworkin, not to give traction to her words.  Instead, they are here for education and discussion.  In order to grapple with a mindset like Andrea’s, we first must examine it.

Yes, there really are people out there who think that sex is violent, oppressive, and never joyful.

I can’t help telling them how wrong they really are.

I’m not a fan of Dworken, which should come as no surprise. She always was, it seems, anything but sex positive. For instance, she once wrote that intercourse is a – “means of physiologically making a woman inferior” – a statement with which I would strongly disagree. I’d argue that intercourse is a means of making a woman physiologically superior, as no man alive is capable of having ten orgasms in a single lovemaking session.

As I’ve alluded to before, in the mindset of spiritual sex, we become God and Goddess incarnate when we make love. Yes, I desire to captivate my partner. I wish to enthrall and engage, excite and delight, and yes, of course, possess her too. But the idea of making her mine isn’t to diminish her in any manner.  Instead, it’s meant to elevate us both!

Michael Samadhi

unpublished essay

Before a show, I’ll go backstage and everyone’s getting dressed, and everything else, and you know, no men are anywhere, and I’m allowed to go in because I’m the owner of the pageant and therefore I’m inspecting it.
You know, I’m inspecting because I want to make sure that everything is good.
You know, they’re standing there with no clothes.
‘Is everybody okay?’
And you see these incredible looking women, and so, I sort of get away with things like that.

Donald Trump

the Donald

Donald Trump’ is another individual I wouldn’t dream of quoting without explanation.

I’ve wanted to post this particular quote for some time.  But, I just couldn’t do so without a note explaining my thoughts on the quotation.

Yes, what the Donald said is despicable.  Deplorable.  Unjustifiable.  Wrong in so very many ways.

With all of that said, if we set aside the revulsion many people feel towards Trump.  If we set aside the non-consensual nature of his peep show behavior.  And, we pretend for just a moment that his behavior wasn’t predatory.

We view his words from a different angle …

What he’s describing is pure voyeurism.

And, it’s also a very good metaphor for the inequalities and injustices of society in the United States.  If a poor person confesses to being a peeping tom, they get a trip to the big house.  They are suddenly registered as a sex offender.

When Donald Trump makes a similar confession, he gets a trip to the White House.  Not fair!

his harem fantasy

Looking at it from yet another perspective, the quote transforms into something different still.

Seen through the eyes of an unrepentant kinkster, without the predatory context, Trump’s recounting is essentially a harem fantasy.

I touched on those briefly while discussing Jean-Léon Gérôme’s exotic art.  It’s a relatively common male fantasy.  Harmless as long as it remains a fantasy.

He’s not a sultan by any means, but Trump did have the resources to purchase a beauty pageant.  That bought him access.  Donald’s one of the few individuals on the planet with the revenue to live out even a portion of the harem fantasy.

Still, it’s despicable that he gave into the temptation to walk into the woman’s changing area.  Deplorable that he acted on the impulse.  Worse still that he bragged about it after the fact.  Obviously, Donald’s behavior was anything but harmless.  

He victimized an entire room of young women.  Bad.  Very bad.

But, as a quote, it was hard to pass up …

Don’t worry, ladies, I’ve seen it all before.

Donald Trump

it’s still Michael’s Way

Hopefully, my friend (if they read this) now realizes that quoting Antoniou or Califia doesn’t make this blog about their way.

Afterall, I found and selected the quotes.

Their messages all have significant meaning to me.  For some of the quotations, that meaning is very profound.

And, in one way or another, they are relevant to my journey.

I often deliberately interpret the quotes, at least in my mind, through the eyes of an unrepentant kinkster.

I’m not always interested in the author’s intent when posting the quotation.  I find my own.

If you are willing to look deep enough, you may also find the quotes are relevant (and have meaning) for your journey too.

Quotation, n: The act of repeating erroneously the words of another.

Ambrose Bierce

The Unabridged Devil's Dictionary

A quotation in a speech, article or book is like a rifle in the hands of an infantryman. It speaks with authority.

Brendan Behan

An apt quotation is like a lamp which flings its light over the whole sentence.

Letitia Elizabeth Landon

When one begins to live by habit and by quotation, one has begun to stop living.

James A. Baldwin

A facility for quotation covers the absence of original thought.

Dorothy L. Sayers

Gaudy Night

[A] quotation is a handy thing to have about, saving one the trouble of thinking for oneself, always a laborious business. A.A. Milne

If I May

Quotation is a serviceable substitute for wit.

Oscar Wilde

Quote of the Day | 7-21-17

You say you’ll give me
A highway with no one on it
Treasure just to look upon it
All the riches in the night
You say you’ll give me
Eyes in a moon of blindness
A river in a time of dryness
A harbour in the tempest
But all the promises we make
From the cradle to the grave
When all I want is you

Bono / U2

Quote of the Day | 7-20-17

I want to know the things you still can’t bring yourself to ask,” Chris continued. He pushed her hands together behind her and she felt him pressing her against the edge of the doorway into the bedroom, trapping her between the wall and his body. It hurt, but she didn’t care. “You don’t even know the scale of your fantasies which I can fulfill,” he said with a tone that was at once seductive and menacing. “There’s nothing you’ve ever imagined that I can’t create for you.”

Laura Antoniou

The Reunion

Quote of the Day | 7-19-17

Deep Throat was an epochal moment in the history of modern sexuality. It was the first time that respectable middle-class women went to porn theaters. It really broke down traditional codes of decorum.

Camille Paglia

Quotes