worship has many forms
The human foot is a masterpiece of engineering and a work of art.Leonardo da Vinci
The human foot is a masterpiece of engineering and a work of art.Leonardo da Vinci
It’s said that power is the ultimate aphrodisiac.
Nothing is absolutely universal when it comes to human sexuality. The diversity of desire is amazing. One size certainly does not fit all.
And, it is certainly true that playing with power is a potent turn on for many. It certainly speaks to me. My particular sensibilities are keenly wired to react to power and authority exchange.
Is the exchange of power an aphrodisiac for you too?
How does power affect your sexuality?
The picture used to create the artistic images in this post was sourced from a Training of O shoot filmed for kink.com.
Sexually suggestive. Yet, redolent with potential religious connotations.
To be honest, further attempts to describe, more of my words, would only distract.
A picture created by Lew Rubens is the image my “transformative art” is based upon. An artist with both rope and camera, Rubens is a self-described…
Lewbari Master – Lew Rubens
I’ve titled my image “sky shibari”. But, Lew’s inventive fusion of Shibari and Western Bondage styles is more properly known as “Lewbari“.
I probably don’t need to tell you, I am a great admirer of his work. I first followed Mr Rubens back during his time producing episodes of Water Bondage for kink.com.
I call her the Cruisequeen.
She’s in your cabin. On her knees. Waiting.
Dressed in only panties. Just as you instructed.
She’s awaiting your next command…
How would you enjoy a ship bound adventure with the “Cruisequeen”?
Do you spend the entire cruise locked in your cabin, enjoying her charms?
Or, do you dress her up and take her out, to better show off your prize?
I have a hobby where I use a variety of image processing programs to transform photos. It’s my attempt to create erotic art.
I don’t really consider myself to be an “artist”, per se. But I do find artistic qualities in the final images I’ve created. If that makes any sense…
I sometimes use the same process to transform photographs of the authors I quote. Often, when I have an image I wish to share someplace like Sinful Sunday, there’s one of my artistic interpretations accompanying the main picture.
We have art in order not to die of the truth.Friedrich Nietzsche
I’ve been on Tumblr, as well as having a self-hosted WordPress (or Blogger.com) site, since 2011.
For me, Tumblr was always just a venue where I just perved and reposted other’s pictures.
Over time, it evolved into a place where I also shared some of my own art and pictures.
It’s a relaxing change of pace from writing here.
Someplace I can go if I’m tired, under the weather, or generally unhappy with the world.
There are days after work when my mind is not in any shape to write.
That’s probably true for everyone. Writing well is not simple.
My transformative art is another relaxing pastime.
I have a lot of fun exploring different programs, trying all their various settings.
Sometimes all my fiddling creates magic.
Perhaps the effort doesn’t make anything special at all. It happens.
If that’s the case, at least my unproductive time was passed doing something I find relaxing.
Love of beauty is taste. The creation of beauty is art.Ralph Waldo Emerson
Wherever possible, I will credit the photograph’s source. However, when I attempt to create erotic art the images are often sourced from Tumblr. That can make it nigh on impossible to find the image’s real author.
For instance, I only know the original source for one of the artistic creations featured in this post. The “painting” at the top of this post was transformed from a video shoot for Bound Gang Bangs (kink.com #11527). The actress is Emma Haize.
It’s my belief that the majority of the images I use are essentially public domain. It could also be argued that the transformative artworks I share are now originals in their own right.
However, I have absolutely no intent to violate anyone’s copyright. Should the copyright holder for any of the images I’ve transformed object to their use here, please feel free to contact me.
Under that circumstance, I’ll gladly remove your work.
I’m off from work for the next week.
That means a vacation by the beach for many folks. Last year I visited the Atlantic Ocean, the infamous Jersey Shore.
Of course, the beaches were closed while I was there. Mother Nature decided to park a hurricane offshore.
It was inconvenient, I admit. But, I saw waves as big as I’d ever wish to see rolling into shore. I was witness to some spectacular sunrises and sunsets too.
Once upon a time for me, it would have meant a hike in the Northwoods. Perhaps along the shores of Lake Superior or Lake Michigan. There’s really something special about a cool breeze off those lakes.
There’s plenty of parks along the Great Lakes I’ve never visited. Of course, I’ve never visited a park there that I wouldn’t return to again.
Or perhaps an exploration of Minnesota’s Boundry Waters area. I’ve been all around that particular park, but have never had an opportunity to visit. A week’s vacation at a cabin there sounds idyllic.
My plans include doctor visits…
Well, that and sleeping.
Perhaps if I’m really lucky – weather and health permitting – I’ll even go camping close to home for a night or two. But, that’s about it.
The weather forecast is absolutely perfect, as it stands. The primary issue is health.
I’d like to think that my best days are still ahead of me.
But at 54 years old, with a mounting list of health issues, that may also be wishful thinking.
The big issue at the moment is my potassium. It’s been low all summer. Despite dietary changes and huge supplement, it remains low. One of the medicines prescribed to raise that particular electrolyte level made me ill.
And, it takes months to get in to see a nephrologist. That’s the next step.
So, for the time being, I feel washed out. I have no energy. And, I really don’t feel much like doing anything…
I didn’t even come up with an image for this week’s Sinful Sunday!
When I first read Wicked Wednesday Prompt #270: Bond – I was stumped. The attached video of the lovely performance didn’t help me any either. I found no inspiration.
Then, after a nap this afternoon, I realized what the prompt meant to me. Of course!
The special bonds I’ve found in BDSM relationships have been closer and deeper than any I’ve ever felt. That is what inspires me to write on this topic.
I want to say up front that I’m not going to claim (as some do) that BDSM relationships are always deeper.
I won’t even begin to say being part of a BDSM relationship creates a bond more special than other relationships styles.
You see, I’ve witnessed vanilla relationships with just as close a connection. My Aunt and Uncle (Father’s brother and his wife) were one of the most exceptional couples I’ve ever met.
I do know they shared an active sex life together all the way to the end. I’m guessing they were pretty kinky too, at least all indications leaned that way.
But the relationship style was pure vanilla.
The bond they shared was forged in the great depression and a world war.
But, beyond that, it was built from shared hardships, common experiences, and mutual pleasures.
Those are the same elements which the best BDSM style relationships are also built upon.
Words are a pretext. It is the inner bond that draws one person to another, not words.Jalaluddin Rumi
Without a doubt, the deepest relationships I’ve ever had were Master/slave relationships.
Obviously, I don’t believe that BDSM relationships feature an inherently deeper bond than other relationship styles. But, it’s clear they can offer a path to a very close connection.
So, what is it about power exchange relationships that elicit such deep intimacy and closeness?
I think, in the case of successful power exchange relationships, it starts with mutual pleasure.
Often that is what attracted us to each other in the first place. Our common interests in power exchange, kink, fetish, BDSM.
At least that’s how it has been for me, those times when I’ve found a great bond with others.
Granted, I’ve always been a very sexual creature. And elements of BDSM have been part of my sexuality since my earliest memory.
I’ve nothing against pure vanilla. In fact, I consider it to be just another spice. But, it’s not my preference. It’s not my kink, but that’s ok.
With that in mind, nearly all of the peak experiences I’ve shared with submissive partners, with my slaves, have been built around BDSM.
And, it’s those incredible mutual pleasures that help to build the very strong bond that often happens in power exchange/authority exchange relationships.
You don’t build a bond without being present.James Earl Jones
If common experiences are another part of creating a great bond, opportunities abound within BDSM relationships.
Munches and play parties are a good example. When folks in a power exchange relationship attend a play party (or even a munch) it can create memorable experiences they will always share.
At the very least, they aren’t off playing golf or attending church groups alone.
Bigger events and festivals can have even greater effects.
I know that I was inspired to become a presenter one weekend while attending Kinky Kollege in Chicago. A visit to IML (also in Chicago) served as the catalyst for the formation of the first MAsT group in Iowa.
And, I know that Twisted Tryst, a four day weekend of camping and kinky debauchery, has had a dramatic effect on the lives of many.
If it’s true that the family that plays together stays together, then power exchange relationships offer great opportunities for bonding through those common experiences.
Love is the bond of perfection.John Winthrop
I know it may seem a little odd at first that I’ve included shared hardships as a part of bonding. I know it happens as a part of power exchange relationships. And, to my mind, it’s a very common occurrence.
For most power exchange participants, keeping their kink activities in the closet is a necessity. Perhaps we are out to friends or even family. But, it’s rare for most to have our kink fully integrated into our lives.
Obviously, that’s a form of a shared hardship, the kind that can create a strong bond in relationships.
Parents with children face a similar situation.
Hiding a vibrator or dildo may cause a certain sense of unease for parents of inquisitive children. But, needing to conceal floggers and other similar implements of instruction can be more anxiety inducing still.
The need to keep our authentic lives secret creates a shared hardship that bonds those of us who have immersed ourselves in power exchange ever closer to each other.
I really don’t enjoy power exchange, or any form of BDSM play, without a connection. It does nothing for me without a bond.
I stopped doing “pick-up” play of any kind a while back, for that very reason.
I need that bond. It could be said that I crave it.
Without that connection, the power exchange is really a role-play. Roleplaying and cosplay are fun, but they aren’t what truly fuel my fire.
It really is ALL about the bond for me…
I saw this on Facebook today, and thought it was an absolute hoot!
Perhaps even better than the video itself, was the commentary offered by renowned BDSM author, Laura Antoniou.
Here. You wanna have a new freakin’ contest in the kink scene? This. I want to see the quarter-finals for this, and the grand…er…slam. I guess? I want to see folks going all balls to the wall while flinging their johnsons.
I want to hear announcers and color-folk and their coverage.
“And here’s Master Wolfdick, he surprised us all with that Triple Tallywhacker in Tulsa…”
“Oh, what a disappointment for Pup Waggletail! Her Bouncing Boner is *just* outside the target area. That’ll for sure put a knot in her plans to head for the final round.”
“Slave Stoneybutt approaches the line, eyes the course. Hey, is that the new Love Truncheon model from Dicks by Dykes, Sally?”
“It sure is, Jake, available in the vendor space for only $19.99 tonight…”
“Wow, look at that arc! This fucker really knows how to fly! And that’s one bounce – a flip – and it sticks the landing! Amazing!”
“Right on target! that’s some fast fascinus, for sure – I bet we’ll be seeing a lot more of those in future trials. Remember, the Love Truncheon is made in 16 colors and patterns by Dicks by Dykes, an official sponsor of the Northwest Goodfellow Games!”Laura Antoniou
Antoniou’s commentary was as much fun (for me) as the video itself.
Laura is, of course, the author of the Marketplace series, a true classic in kink literature.
And, she’s no stranger to writing comedy/satire either. Her book, The Killer Wore Leather, is a satirical classic in its own right.
I’d considered writing my own commentary, similar to Laura’s. But, when in the presence of a Master of their trade…
Anyway, I hope it’s all good, eliciting a giggle (or laughter) for you too.
It was my six year Facebook anniversary last week. The so called Faceversary.
Have you lived under a rock the last decade? Then, I don’t need to tell you – Everyone who’s anyone is on Facebook.
Along with many of us who aren’t really anyone. You know, folks like me.
I have my share of kinky friends on Facebook. But, they tend to be people that have their own following. Not ones that follow.
There’s no group of adoring fans waiting to comment on things added to my timeline. I don’t get re-posted. My posts rarely even receive ‘likes’.
In the end, I have no one to blame for any of that but myself.
I have my own particular sensibilities. It seems beneath the dignity of a good dominant to act in a self-aggrandizing manner. I’ve never been comfortable with self-promotion.
I’ve always believed in the ‘hard slog’, as Dyson calls it. The kind of ethic that good work has its own merit. Not to mention that hard work always wins out in the end.
If life were only so simple? Right?
You can observe a lot by just watching.Yogi Berra
I should also point out, it really is my true nature to be introverted.
People who have witnessed me giving a demo, or leading a discussion might doubt that fact. But, it’s the absolute truth.
Public speaking is simply a skill I’ve learned. Presenting was something I did to give back to the community. Neither was inherently within my comfort zone.
In life, I find that listening is a more valuable skill than speaking. Mr. Berra’s quote is about observing by watching. But, I’ve always found that actively listening to others gives me the best observations of all.
That’s not necessarily true on social media.
Think about what people are doing on Facebook today. They’re keeping up with their friends and family, but they’re also building an image and identity for themselves, which in a sense is their brand. They’re connecting with the audience that they want to connect to. It’s almost a disadvantage if you’re not on it now.Mark Zuckerberg
I certainly enjoy the time I spend on social media these days.
But, I’m not the kind of person who thinks to post the location of the restaurants where I eat. I’m not going to send off a notification every time I visit a sick friend in the hospital.
When it comes to social media, I’m maladapted. It’s not my natural habitat. I’ll never be “somebody’. I’ll only ever be myself.
However, I’ve learned by listening to others, that’s not such a bad place to be.
I know who I am. How many can truly say that?
Can someone get Betty White a Snickers? Thanks!