Random stuff the universe needs to know about YOU.
There was no TMI Tuesday posted for today, August 1, 2017.
I have no idea what the story is here. I only know that I’d planned to participate this week.
As part of “curating” my past sex blogging content, I’m collecting everything here, under one roof, so to speak.
So I’ll present one of my prior TMI Tuesday efforts. Previously posted at SpiritualBDSM.com.
1. When you go to a party, would you rather show up accidentally underdressed or overdressed?
I’d rather be overdressed than be too casual these days.
2. What is something you have won and how did you win it? (Inspired by the An Optimistic Virgin)
I won my slave’s heart! I prevailed with integrity, intellect, compassion, not to mention an overactive imagination in the bedroom, and a good measure of dominance to match her submission.
3. Do you squeeze the toothpaste from the middle, end, or top?
Bottoms up baby!
4. What is something your parents used to say to you that you promised yourself you would never say–but now you catch yourself saying frequently?
You can never go wrong by acting with class and dignity.
5. What 3 lies did you regularly tell your parents? If applicable, what 3 lies do you tell your parents now?
I never lied with regularity, not even to my parents.
6. What is something that you intended to do today but didn’t? Why not? Will you do it tomorrow?
I intended to write more on this blog, not just answer a TMI Tuesday . . . I didn’t write more because I used up the last of my energy visiting a sick parent in the Hospital. I hope to write more tomorrow, I hope to write more every day, whether I make the time and feel the inspiration is still up for grabs.
7. What is something that people do in traffic that really bothers you? (inspired by My Quest To Be A Good Girl)
I am bothered by people talking on cell phones while driving, their divided attention endangers other drivers.
8. Whose autographs have you collected? (You can stop at five, in case you’re an autograph hound or celebrity stalker).
Tony Oliva, Rod Carew, Harmon Killebrew.
Bonus: Where do you go to find solitude, tranquility or connection to a higher power?
During sacred sex – These days I find it in the bedroom when sharing sensual moments with my slave. The webs we weave (both figurative and literal) send us to powerful heights of shared passion.
Up for TMI Tuesday: July 22, 2014 are relationship questions . . .
1. What is the first thing that pops into your mind when you see an attractive person?
I may very well look and admire, but I also wonder what they are “really” like. All too often people who are obviously physically beautiful don’t have tremendous depth of personality. I avoid narcissists at all costs!
2. What is your idea of a dream date? Describe the person and the type of date experience.
It’s your basic “dinner and dungeon” date. Isn’t that everyone’s dream? I’d like an evening alone with Serafina, Sinnjara, and our in home dungeon. First we share a beautiful meal together, then we retire to the dungeon for an evening of torment and bliss. Who could ask for anything more?
3. How many serious relationships have you had? Were you in love?
I’ve been married three times. I’ve been “in love” a few times more than that. To my eye, at the very least, those all qualify as “serious” relationships. With that said, I can’t say that anything in my experience prior to meeting Serafina could equal the love and passion I feel for her. My love for her grows daily. My feelings for Sinnjara are similar to how I feel about Serafina, only newer. Building trust takes time, no doubt about that, but the love we feel for each other is unwavering.
4. How many casual sexual relationships have you had?
I don’t consider a relationship to be casual if it is also sexual.
5. What will ruin a relationship for you?
Deceit and lack of trust.
Bonus: What is your definition of sexy?
Love is sexy for me . . .
It is a confessional of sorts where people come to reveal too much information…
Here’s the lede for School Days TMI Tuesday: June 24, 2014 —
For many areas of the world, this time of year is graduation time at formal institutions of learning. Thus, it is a good time for us to think back about our own education.
Below is a list of academic fields of study. For as many of these disciplines as possible, share a memory. It could be something that happened in class, an Aha! moment, something about the teacher or something that was helpful later in life.
I should note, up front, that all my serious memories associated with education are from high school, rather than college.
During my college years I was married, working full time, as well as taking a full load of courses. I smoked more than my share of pot to cope. It’s a a foggy blur now. I’m still not even sure what I learned from “higher education”, other than not to hold the joint. “Puff, puff, pass!” not “Puff . . . . . Puff . . . . . . Puff . . . . . Pass . . . . ”
The things you can learn in a community college parking lot!
School Daze for TMI Tuesday
Because of an academic scholarship, I attended a very small, but very exclusive, college preparatory school for middle school and high school. Because the school was small, that meant one particular teacher taught English for 7th, 9th, and 11th grade classes. If that seems like a lot, note that he also taught Literature for 8th and 10th grades.
Arlen, what I’ll call him since that was his first name, was an exacting teacher who pushed us at a very high level. In 7th grade, we were using College Freshman level texts. I owe Arlen a huge debt of gratitude, as he is very much responsible for the communication skills I use today in writing this blog.
Sadly, I read in the local paper a few years back, that the best English teacher I’ve had the pleasure to know had passed. I wrote about him on a vanilla blog I was working at the time, a tribute to the man who taught me far more than just how to write, he taught me how to communicate.
I had a history teacher named Dorian Gray – like title of the book by Oscar Wilde. He absolutely hated his given name, and always went by his initials instead. After natural science, history/social studies were my strongest subjects. Never, not once in my entire life, have I had to study for a science or history test.
3. Foreign Language (French, Spanish, Latin…)
I swear, Madame Younge was a Parisian Dominatrix before emigrating to the United States. Talk about exacting! I had her for 7th Grade French, and studiously avoided her the rest of my middle school and high school years simply because I didn’t want to have to live through all the work it entailed being one of her “favorites”.
For some reason Mme Younge took a “liking” to me. Apparently she saw some kind of “potential” in me that she wanted to help me fulfill. Lord knows I’ve seen that sort of things in submissives, for instance I saw potential in Sinnja the first night we met, and knew she just needed to stop fighting herself to achieve it. But, to be able to see the potential of a 7th grader, that’s a whole different league of taking a “read” on someone.
I did end up as a member of the National French Honor Society. So, she was right about me, at least to an extent. And, I’ve become a bit of an exacting dominant at times myself.
Thanks Mme Younge!
I’ve never had an official psychology class. With that said, psychology is at the heart of all human endeavors, especially the art of domination and submission. I’ve studied lots and lots of psychology
A brilliant mathematician, my middle school and high school math teacher at the previously mentioned college prep school was a world class bridge player. Who says math doesn’t apply in the real world?
I took Physics my senior year in high school. It was a unique opportunity as the class was 1-on-1, it was just the professor and myself. I mostly did experiments and fixed electronics for the school.
Yes, you heard right, despite paying tuition that would rival the cost of college, I spent the better part of my senior year doing “fixer-up” projects for the school’s Headmaster.
Learning how to mix two chemicals together that would then spontaneously combust . . .
My strongest subject.
On the ACT college entrance exam, I achieved a perfect score in the natural Sciences. In addition to the one-on-one class I had for Physics in my senior year, I was also the only student in an Anatomy and Physiology class my junior year. Using a 300 level college textbook for the class, I completed everything, all the assignments, inside of a single semester. I then spent most of the second half of the year dissecting critters to illustrate comparative anatomy.
We had a pair of German Exchange students that were exceptionally cute my last year of high school. Paula and Claudia were their names.
Gym class is where I learned that German girls don’t shave their armpits.
Bonus:Did you have sex education class in school? What grade or age did you have this class? Thinking back on the sex education class what was the most surprising thing you learned? Was this class helpful to you in your sex life?
Sadly, there’s really nothing to tell. We never had sex education classes. End of story.
While we are on the topic of sex education, I now teach sex education classes. At least I am starting to do demos for the BDSM community. My first is coming up in just a couple more months for a local group.
Dignity and pride in being who I am, as well as my personal integrity.
We came into this world naked, many of us will go out the same way. Wallets and ID’s can be forgotten, as can all possessions. Clothes can be stripped away. In the end, all possessions can be stripped, through divorce of legal proceedings.
But, there’s one thing I’ve certainly learned from my Serafina. That is, to carry that dignity and pride in who I am with me at all times as a part of my personal integrity. Knowing that I truly am on on the path to who I wish to be is priceless. I may always be a “work in progress”, but this “work” is a pretty good one already.
It costs me nothing, yet it’s rewards are many.
That dignity and pride in her role is part of what makes Serafina special as a slave. Her obvious positive attitude about what she does and how she serves, her extreme personal integrity, are an obvious core of who Serafina is, as a person and as a submissive.
I’d like to think a similar measure of integrity, dignity, and pride are part of what makes me special as a dominant a well.
2. Is there anyone on your mind at the moment? Who? Why?
Serafina is always on my mind.
Sinnja is also always on my mind.
Serafina is asleep in my bed as I write this. Sinnja is something on the order of eighty miles away until at least Thursday.
So, they are on my mind in different ways, yet I rarely do anything without thinking of them both. Because of the sort of intimate triad that we share, most every decision I make will impact the both of them in some way, just as the decisions and choices they make will impact me.
3. If you were to be remembered for one thing, what would it be?
I’d like to be remembered for my integrity.
I’d like to be remembered for the dignity and pride with which I carry myself.
I’d like to be remembered for the love I’ve shown, and the love I’ve inspired.
There are many other things that are commonly used to measure a man, however the traits I’ve listed are really the only ones that really matter to me.
4. Tell us something new that you learned in the last month?
Sciatica pain is a real bitch!
It’s changed my life dramatically in ways I’m not enjoying.
It’s the reason I’m awake at 3:30 AM writing, because atleast writing answers to TMI Tuesday can take my mind off the pain.
I’ve been walking between two and five miles a day with the decent weather we’ve been having the last few weeks. Walking is the only time my back feels remotely tolerable.
5. What are you pretending not to know? Why?
If I told you then I wouldn’t be pretending any longer – would I?
Actually, I do have a question or two for Sinnja. But, they are things I need to ask her in person, so disclosing any questions here would be counterproductive.
6. Are you happy with other people’s perception of you?
Yes, overall I am quite happy with how I am perceived. Of course there are exceptions.
I think some folks in the local community think I’m aloof.
I’m actually far more shy than aloof, but that’s sometimes hard for people to see and understand.
7. Are you generally focused on today or tomorrow?
Tomorrow may never come. For some people alive today, that’s literally true. At best, we are all temporarily able bodied, we never know if injury or human frailty will lay us low.
So I focus on today.
Bonus: How do you eat Oreos? Which method best matches your Oreo cookie eating style? a. Pick it up, bite into it. b. Twist it open, eat each half separately c. Twist it open, eat the frosting, then eat each chocolate cookie half separately.
A- I pick it up and eat the Oreo the same as any other cookie.
Boring . . . . I know.
But that’s me in a nutshell, boring and aloof. Unless, that is, you really know me.
Then it’s a different story!
TMI Tuesday: June 17, 2014 – Some things to think about
a) fresh from the bath and perfumed?
b) fresh from the bath without perfume?
c) clean but not right from the tub or shower?
d) slightly sweaty (or musky)?
My answer is all but a) fresh from the bath and perfumed? Cleanliness is all important. I do like perfumed scents, however it has to be just a HINT and not a strong scent. Nothing is yummier to me than a freshly cleaned body bathed or showered. I do enjoy scents especially when going out for dinner, etc, and there is nothing wrong with musky and sweaty, but I personally need a clean cock for a blow-job.
2. Do you maintain your body for sex with respect to facial hair, body hair, pubic hair, fingernails or toenails?
I love well-groomed facial hair on a man, I love an unshaven man below the belt too!
Yes, I epilate frequently- probably once a week, as hairs are slower to return and there is no razor burn, or sharp whiskers to deal with. A fine down grows back in and they are too soft and short before a week at least. Often a 2 week interval is more likely. Underarms- more frequently for sure.
I am fortunate to have very little body hair and since I have always been a true blond, it has never been an issue for me. All the other girls were complaining about shaving their legs in High School at that time.
My hands are a mess- I get very bad split and bleeding cuticles and hang-nails regardless of consistently using water barrier creams and lotions. I am constantly in and out of water and messes as I clean and go about my day. Master sends me to a nail salon for any occasion he chooses for a pedi and mani-cure. It makes me feel very special to have nice looking hands for a few days. ( I think my hands are the least attractive part of me.) From time to time I attempt my own- but it never comes out as nice and it takes hours!
3. Do you maintain/prepare according to your lover’s preferences?
There are times when Master tells me that I am to refrain from removing body hair for some time. Once in a while he lets me know he is due to arrive in a specific time frame and I will wait at the door until Master arrives. Sometimes I have enough time to change into something more attractive which pleases Master.
4. Do you have body adornments such as piercings or tattoos for sexual reasons? Does your lover?
I have a nose piercing that was the very first mark Master made to lay claim on me when we first met. It was something I had already considered and Master seized the opportunity to make that event his own. At the same time he had his left nipple pierced for me.
5. Do you choose any cosmetics, lubes, condoms or other sexually relevant items according to how they taste? Do you not use them because of the taste?
In short no- most cosmetics I buy do not have scents, nor do I want them there due to allergy concerns. We are fluid-bonded so we don’t use condoms as we are beyond the ability to conceive. If ever we play with people we don’t know we always use protection
6. Is there a taste or aroma that turns you on or that you can use to turn on your lover?
I have come to appreciate the value of coconut oil as a lube that is perfectly fine for oral uses as well. and the hint of coconut is quickly becoming my favorite!
Bonus: Do you prepare a room for sex–mood music, candles, scent, cleaning it or anything? Tell us about it.
Oh yes! A room cleared of clutter, and clean is an invite all to it’s own. Music background or a Kink.com film can inspire. Candles, a snack and beverage all set the stage. Toys surround us; from floggers, whips to clips, clamps and and spiky things all within reach. And of course most importantly to be in a good place mentally.
Cancer, the fourth sign of the zodiac, is all about home. Those born under this sign are ‘roots’ kinds of people, and take great pleasure in the comforts of home and family. Cancers are maternal, domestic and love to nurture others. More than likely, their family will be large, too — the more, the merrier! Cancers will certainly be merry if their home life is serene and harmonious. Traditions are upheld with great zest in a Cancer’s household, since these folks prize family history and love communal activities. They also tend to be patriotic, waving the flag whenever possible. A Cancer’s good memory is the basis for stories told around the dinner table, and don’t be surprised if these folks get emotional about things. Those born under this sign wear their heart on their sleeve, which is just fine by them.
I’d say that’s pretty much spot on, except for the large family. I’m an only child and never had children of my own.
2. List 3 of the good traits of your astrological symbol to which you can relate.
Once again quoting from astrology.com
The great strength of the Cancer-born is the tenacity with which they protect their loved ones.
So very true!
When it comes to the game of love, eager Crabs are devoted, romantic and able to get things going on their own.
Yes, that’s very much me too . . .
These folks don’t ask for much, either: a comfortable home and sense of peace about sums it up. It’s that nurturing instinct which makes Cancers a pleasure to be with.
3. List 3 of the worst traits of your astrological symbol that you believe do not pertain to you.
I’m sorry, but if I’m going to “wear” being a Cancerian, I’m going to have to admit that I’m not perfect, accept the good with the bad. One can’t own the positives and pretend the negatives don’t apply.
I can be moody. At times I’m quick to withdraw into my shell – many think I’m aloof, but I’m really just shy. And yes, I like to get my way. Those are all negative attributes of the Crab, and I’ll own them just as I own the good things.
4. What is your Chinese zodiac animal symbol?
I am a rabbit. Here’s that symbol’s description by TravelChinaGuide.com.
The rabbit has represented hope for a long time, by Chinese people. It is tender and lovely. The moon goddess Chang’e in Chinese legend had a rabbit as her pet, which stimulated the thought that only this creature was amiable enough to match her noble beauty. The Chinese character ‘Tu’ (rabbit) is part of ‘Yi’ (escape or leisure) indicating speed and distance.
Sounds pretty good . . .
5. In Chinese philosophy, The Theory of the Five Elements describes the interaction and relation of natural phenomena. The five elements of wood, fire, Earth, metal and water affect your zodiac sign. Which element are you? Find out here
WOOD (Chinese: 木, pinyin: mù)
Wood is the most human of the elements. It is the element of spring; the creative urge to achieve – which can turn to anger when frustrated. It is associated with the capacity to look forward, plan and make decisions, hence growth and expansion.
Wood energy is rising, expanding, and is the force of growth and flexibility, hence the colour associated with Wood is green and a rectangled shape.
This element represents all the activities of the body that are self regulating and/or function without conscious thought; i.e. digestion, respiration, heart beat and basic metabolism.
The liver (converting food into fuel which is then supplied to the muscles, tendons and ligaments) is associated to the Wood element as well as the gallbladder.
Wood represents as well the direction East, the planet Jupiter and is symbolized by an Azure Dragon.
Wood ‘governs’ the Chinese Zodiac signs Tiger, Rabbit and Dragon.
Here’s the lede for this week – TMI Tuesday: May 13, 2014 . . .
This week’s TMI Tuesday was inspired by Friday Fill-ins – Fill in the blanks.
Seems simple enough, eh?
Let’s have a go at it then . . .
TMI Tuesday: May 13, 2014
1. My favorite month is _____ because _____ .
My favorite month is the month we are currently in, because it’s always important to remember to live in the moment, and to cherish every day we spend with those we love. Our time on this planet is finite, every moment is precious.
2. _____ a fresh breeze.
It was a glorious sunrise. Sinnja and I spent the wee hours of last Friday morning, sitting on the deck of the kinky kabin listening to songbirds, and shivering in a fresh breeze.
3. I love a good _____ .
I love a good BDSM scene, that should come as no surprise to anyone who knows me.
4. _____ is what I like to have as a treat for breakfast but _____ is what I want for dessert.
Serafina is what I like to have as a treat for breakfast but Sinnja is what I want for dessert. And, vice versa . . . of course! Oh yes!
5. The hobby I enjoy most _____ .
The hobby I enjoy most is not a hobby at all, it has become a lifestyle.
6. _____ , oh my!
Serafina and Sinnja kissing, oh my!
7. I understand _____ to my sanity.
I understand that being true to my own nature and owning my kink is essential to my sanity.
8. Private _____ inside.
Private party inside. Only Serafina and Sinnja allowed. I’ve got two wonderful women in my life who not only love each other, they love me too! Oh the fun we’ve already had, and we’ve just scratched the surface of all the good things to come!
Here’s the lede for this week – TMI Tuesday: April 22, 2014 . . .
This week’s TMI Tuesday is an outlet for the quirky you. It’s titled Odd and Ends because it is the leftover ideas/questions/thoughts that couldn’t fit into a theme but I know it’s TMI you want to share 🙂
1. How addicted are you? You are in a rush, there is no time to make your morning coffee or stop to buy it. However, you can save time and get your “energy high” by brushing your teeth with a caffeine-infused toothbrush. Would you buy and use this product? Why or why not?
Fuck! Just when I’ve gone and decaffeinated myself!
2. You made a sex list of all the things you’d like to do but haven’t done. The list was lost and discovered by your boss at work. He/she ask if they can help you tick a few items off the list. What do you say?
“Dude, thanks for the offer. But, if you send your wife instead, I’m sure I could teach her a thing or two you’d appreciate,” is my instant response.
3. Have you ever been bent over the kitchen counter or bent a lover over the kitchen counter and fucked? What did you like most about it? What did you like least?
Yes, I’ve bent a lusty wench over a counter-top for a quick screw. It’s good sexy fun!
The kitchen manager at the restaurant I was working at didn’t appreciate it so much. He had the nerve to tell me it was some kind of health code violation! What the fuck?
4. Sexting…How do you really feel about it? a. Meh? Not my thing. b. Can take it or leave it, usually have to be begged to do it c. I like it, it’s like foreplay. d. Love it! I’m always sending naughty notes and steamy pics. e. What’s your number? I have a daily sexting list, wanna sign up?
I like flirting on the phone via text. But sexting? Why?
I can think of better places for my fingers to be dancing, than around on a tiny keyboard . . . My answer is — a.)Meh? Not my thing.
5. What do you love to sniff? Why?
I have to confess, this is an absolute addiction. It’s not just an olfactory thing, it’s deeper. It’s like I couldn’t live without this stuff.
Yes indeed, I’ve got a thing for . . . . Oxygen! Breathe!
Bonus: What is it? Explain how you would use it.
The the Gates of Hell cock ring, although it’s the “pussy version” for safety fanatics. Back in the good old days, when cockrings were metal, a mishap wasn’t quite so easily rectified.
It took more than a quick clip with a pair of tinsnips to get those fuckers off, it probably took a trip to the emergency room, or fire station. They conducted electricity a whole hell of a lot better too!
Live dangerously I say!
For proper use, it’s placed on the genitals of a submissive/cuckold male, but only after being coated with icy-hot for lubrication. I’ll let you use your imagination on what the icy-hot coated q-tip that Serafina’s holding will be used for, but I like to call the technique, “Fire in the Hole” . . .