The group I was with had to fly home the next day. And, I have to admit being very excited about my new purchase. So excited that I set aside the biography of Thomas Jefferson I’d been reading for the trip, and started my new find.
Reading amidst my co-workers, seated next to my boss, I couldn’t hide what I was reading. I didn’t care. I just sat there on the plane with my jaw agape reading Janet and Dossie’s masterpiece, occasionally nodding my head in agreement with the text. I’m not sure how my seatmates felt about my choice of literature, I honestly didn’t notice.
I was already living a poly lifestyle and had been poly for about a decade. In fact, I’d started living like an ethical slut briefly before the term polyamory was invented. To me it was a simple concept – if a parent can love more than one child, why can’t I love more than one person too? But in practice, well, it was sometimes a real struggle. The Ethical Slut provided the framework I desired for making polyamory work.
It would not be an overstatement to say The Ethical Slut changed my life.
Slutting of the Ethical Kind
I also own a 2nd edition Ethical Slut. I purchased it out of respect for Janet Hardy, I have a bit of a crush on her. And, I wanted to keep up with new concepts in poly. Call it continuing education if you will.
The second edition wasn’t quite life-changing like the first had been. That would have been far too much to ask. But, I still found it more than a little bit useful.
I even picked up a second copy of the 2nd edition for my Kindle not too long ago. While I love the feel of a physical book in my hands, it got to be a little too much to be purchasing a new bookshelf every year for more than a decade.
After picking up The Ethical Slut II on Kindle, I planned to resell my physical copy of the 2nd edition. Obviously, I hoped to economize on space. It never happened. I’m a sentimental bastard, and I just couldn’t part with the book.
Even More Ethical Slutting
Now there’s a third edition, just published. And, I’ve already picked that one up too. I plan to write up a review of The Ethical Slut III once I’ve had the opportunity to digest the new material. It won’t be easy to be objective, but I doubt there’s much to be critical of anyway.
I’m looking forward to more continuing education in polyamory.
Thank you, Janet Hardy and Dossie Easton. To be quite honest, I believe you truly changed the world with your book, The Ethical Slut. You certainly changed mine…