Back Among the Living Announcement Was Premature

Back Among the Living Announcement Was Premature

Hello, my dear readers…

It’s been a tough fall for me. Now, I’m sick again with bronchitis/sinusitis. Perhaps I never got quite well from the last time and returned to work prematurely. Who knows?

I’m so very tired of feeling ill, this has drug on for far too long.

I’ll be back writing about kink soon, just not today…


The Joy of Kink is Live!

The Joy of Kink is Live!

Joy of Kink! It’s Here Opens Primarily Due to Sinnjara’s Technical Work

The Joy of Kink is finally open!

I’ve still got months of work there restoring old articles going back to 2011 from both and

Some will be completely rewritten, showing up at Joy of Kink completely transformed from their previous posting. Others will remain “as is”, outside of some loving restoration as they are transferred. Over time, many of the old articles will disappear from this site, redirected to the Joy of Kink.

Joy of Kink logo

Welcome to the Joy of Kink, a sex-positive website dedicated to exploring kink, BDSM, fetish, Tantra, and alternative sexuality in all its guises.

Source: Willkommen, Bienvenue, Welcome | Joy of Kink

By no means am I giving up on this domain.

This site will be all about sharing the news and stories I’m reading. I have a few other purposes in mind too. Please bear with me as we clean up all the “virtual dust” from the construction.

There’s still a long way to go in the renovations behind the scenes for Samadhi Chateau’s virtual homes, but the Joy of Kink is up and looking good…

Life and Blogging

Life and Blogging

Hello my dear friends and readers,

Despite the absence of recent writing, I do think of my blogging friends a lot.  And, I often think about the potential for this site, and I get really excited.  I love doing kink/BDSM education, I love the blogging community, I love sharing our exploits.

But, I’m finding these days, that I rarely have time.  Not only do Serafina and Sinnjara keep me busy, but I’ve become far more active in our local BDSM community.  We’ve become far more active in attending events too, so finding time to blog has been difficult.

Last winter was really tough, both Serafina and I had back surgery.  I’ve recovered from mine, but Serafina will need more surgery later this year.  Sinnjara hasn’t been totally free from health issues herself, but she was there for us for the first month of recovery for both of our surgeries.  And, she continues to provide great service still, despite having to balance time here with the needs of her son who lives 70 miles away.

I’m now on the Board for a local BDSM group named Riverbound.  I was even given the honor of being selected to be Chair, so I have the privilege to run the group’s board meetings.  Riverbound has a monthly munch at a local restaurant, it has a monthly meeting called the submissive forum, and it has a monthly play party.  The organization is in it’s 15th year of existence, and probably has more lifestyle experience than any other club it’s size. Many of us have 10, 15, 20, 25, or even 30 years of experience living BDSM and/or poly lifestyles.

We are sometimes involved with a local (for Sinnjara) BDSM/kink group named CROP, based in Cedar Rapids, Iowa.  We also have attended events put on by CIPEX, an organization based in Des Moines, Iowa.  And, we have some other regional events on our “radar” for later in the year as well.

And, if all that’s not enough, I recently petitioned MAsT International for permission to form a local chapter of MAsT (Masters And slaves Together).

Meet Your Host – Michael Samadhi

Meet Your Host – Michael Samadhi

Michael Samadhi – host & narrator

Michael Samadhi

Greetings, I’m Michael Samadhi, a BDSM lifestyle dominant and sadist.   I’ll be your host and narrator here at the Michael Samadhi’s Joy of Kink.  I expect that I’ll be joined at times by my lovely Serafina Samadhi, who I’ll introduce to you in a moment.  With some luck, I’ll also be able to ask for contributions from some of my friends, acquaintances, play partners, and other personalities I’ve met in the lifestyle.

For the last 30 years, kink and BDSM have been a very real and important part of my life. BDSM is not just a part of who I am, it’s not something I play at, nor do only in the bedroom. BDSM is a very real and very serious lifestyle for me. Very simply said, it is how I live.  A giant St Andrews Cross crafted for me by a talented friend, and a custom-made dungeon bed (with a underbed cage) are the centerpieces of my living room.

I’m well-educated and articulate, I’ve enjoyed positions of responsibility and authority my whole life, both personally and professionally. I’m also proof positive that role of the quintessential alpha male doesn’t have to be domineering or difficult. I am firm and strong, I may raise my voice if necessary, but I’m also as good at listening as I am at speaking. You’ll never know what might be learned if you don’t have the courage to sometimes simply listen without speaking or directing.

serafina & friends

My wife, Serafina, is also my slave, my best friend, and my constant companion. I’ve known love before, but I’ve never known love like hers!  She proudly wears my collar and serves me beautifully.  Perhaps her most admirable trait as a submissive, she’s always striving to learn and grow in her service.  Serafina’s love and devotion are absolutely unparalleled in my experience.

I’m also blessed with a growing circle of beautiful friends, a couple of terrific play partners, not to mention the wonderful folks I mentor and/or protect.  I’m active in the local community: as a dues paying member of two BDSM organizations, Riverbound and CROP.  Serafina and I also attend the munches of other groups as our schedule allows.  I also take part in regional and national BDSM events as time and budget allows, always with Serafina at my side.  Last year we made it to Kinky Kollege and Twisted Tryst, as well as our annual shopping excursion to International Mister Leather in Chicago.  In the upcoming year, I expect we’ll take in those events, as well as adding Mischief in May, and Thunder in the Mountains, to our travel agenda.

live & play

From childhood’s hour I have not been
As others were – I have not seen
As others saw – I could not bring
My passions from a common spring.
~ Edgar Allan Poe

I try my best to live my life without compromise. While every moment can’t be lived in a Twisted Tryst like mental state where nudity, kink, and debauchery are given totally free rein, Serafina and I do our best to make House of Samadhi a place of alternate reality. The entire purpose of our home is to offer a sanctuary from the rest of the world where it is safe to explore our own (and our friend’s) deepest and darkest fantasies.

I seem to have developed more than a bit of a fetish for BDSM gear.  And, while I doubt that the variety of available toys will ever exceed my imagination’s ability to use them, the collection of toys at House of Samadhi is ever-growing.  Impact toys are a particular passion.  When asked how many floggers I possess, I could only guess, but the count exceeds thirty, including toys made from exotic hides like Russian boar and European red deer.  The array of clips and clamps for sensation play on nipples and other sensitive bits that I’ve collected nearly exceeds the number of floggers and whips.

While I have a great passion for sensation play of all sorts, it’s actually the mental aspects of BDSM and power exchange are perhaps the most exciting parts of the play for me.  And while extended productions like an extensive interrogation can be a huge rush, it’s the day in day out routine control I have in the Master / slave relationship that Serafina and I share, that is the most fulfilling power exchange of them all.

I can also be found at Fetlife, listed as MichaelSamadhi; and at Facebook where the screen name is also MichaelSamadhi.

kind regards to all,
Michael Samadhi

Please Excuse the Construction Mess . . .

Please Excuse the Construction Mess . . .

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cleaning up our construction mess

The Joy of Kink is now closing in on it’s ‘third’ birthday – the blog will be all of three weeks old on Tuesday.   Ha Ha

Sure, there are a couple of older posts on the calendar, but those essays originated at Spiritual BDSM.   Those earlier works have been reworked and rewritten, essentially they are new material, but they are placed in the proper time context so the dates match when the original was written.

Being less than a month old, we are still “under construction” and there’s a bit of construction mess still laying about.  I don’t want to give anyone the impression that the site’s broken, everything’s fully functional.  It’s just a few nagging details that need to be tidied up and swept away.  Compared to a major construction mess, it’s really nothing, you might say that the road’s open and it’s just some landscaping left to make things more eye appealing.  In terms of giving more than just metaphoric descriptions, I’m probably about 95% satisfied with the blog’s appearance.  Just some nagging details to attend to here and there.

under construction gifThere is a lot more work to do on the lexicon/glossary, that’s an ongoing project that will be growing and improving for some time.  I’m also continually adding pearls of wisdom to the kinky quote collection, which is another ongoing project.  My lovely slave/wife Serafina has checked for specific browser problems, I generally work from Google Chrome or Mozilla Firefox, but she uses different browsers still.  Sexy Serafina has even checked the site’s appearance in Internet Explorer (gasp!).

But, as diligent as my sweet slave is, she can’t catch all the possible errors that might show up in all the various browser now in use.

With that in mind, if you see any problems or errors, even issues such as misspellings, etc – please don’t hesitate to drop me a line.  A contact form is provided among the navigation tabs at the top of the page, same as the form that accompanies this post.  The contact form, while fully functional, is just one example of a place where some minor site tweaking still remains on my to-do list.  It’s really just some nagging format and style details I want to complete, but minor changes will continue to appear for at least a few more weeks.

Thanks in advance for reading!

Michael Samadhi

Joy of BDSM page divider by Serafina Samadhi

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Copyright Versus Creative Commons

Copyright Versus Creative Commons

what is copyright?copyright symbol

Most people are familiar with the term “copyright”, as well as the © symbol, not to mention the accompanying catchphrase “all rights reserved”.  Fewer folks, however, are familiar with Creative Commons licensing, which is far more adaptable than standard copyright.  I’ve chosen to use Creative Commons and not standard copyright restrictions for the Joy of Kink, this post explains why.

Copyright is about protecting an individual’s personal artistic creations.  It’s a legal device that gives an author the sole right to publish, sell, recreate, or distribute their creation.  The author can also grant (or sell) those rights to others, for instance a publisher.  Copyright law is what allows the publishing (as well as recording, movie/television, etc.) to work as we know them.  Artists of all kinds depend on copyright for the business side of their art.  Essentially then, copyright is about commerce and artistic control.

Now, with that said, I should also add that I’m not an attorney.  I don’t want my description of copyright to confuse or mislead anyone.  So, I’m going to include a more complete definition of copyright from the Free Dictionary / Legal Dictionary.

A bundle of intangible rights granted by statute to the author or originator of certain literary or artistic productions, whereby, for a limited period, the exclusive privilege is given to that person (or to any party to whom he or she transfers ownership) to make copies of the same for publication and sale.

A copyright is a legal device that gives the creator of a literary, artistic, musical, or other creative work the sole right to publish and sell that work. Copyright owners have the right to control the reproduction of their work, including the right to receive payment for that reproduction. An author may grant or sell those rights to others, including publishers or recording companies. Violation of a copyright is called infringement.

Copyright is distinct from other forms of creator protection such as Patents1, which give inventors exclusive rights over use of their inventions, and Trademarks2, which are legally protected words or symbols or certain other distinguishing features that represent products or services. Similarly, whereas a patent protects the application of an idea, and a trademark protects a device that indicates the provider of particular services or goods, copyright protects the expression of an idea. Whereas the operative notion in patents is novelty, so that a patent represents some invention that is new and has never been made before, the basic concept behind copyright is originality, so that a copyright represents something that has originated from a particular author and not from another. Copyrights, patents, and trademarks are all examples of what is known in the law as Intellectual Property.

If you have further curiosity about copyright, I do recommend reading the Free Dictionary’s full entry, the excerpt I’ve provided is just a small part of the article.  That particular copyright article also goes into the history of copyright law, explains infringement and fair use, as well as giving real world examples of copyright law in action, and a plethora of other nice tidbits.  And, as always, if you need legal advice on copyright, please see an attorney.

If the Joy of Kink used standard copyright protections, I’d have a notice at the bottom of the site that looks something like this –

Copyright 2014- Michael Samadhi’s Joy of Kink – All Rights Reserved

That’s not the level of copyright protection I prefer, as there are some rights I’d prefer not to reserve, which leads us to Creative Commons.

what is creative commons?

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What if I don’t want to reserve all rights?  What if I want to give people permission to re-post my work on message boards, or even their own blogs, as long as they give me credit as the original author?  That’s where a Creative Commons license becomes essential.

Creative Commons is a form of copyright, but it offers alternatives that aren’t available from standard copyright protections.  From an author’s standpoint, a Creative Commons license gives me the right to allow my writing to be shared, re-used, and even built upon by others.  The fact that Creative Commons offers a variety of licenses, gives even more added flexibility and control above and beyond just allowing my work to be shared.  For instance, I can stipulate that my writing only be used for non-commercial purposes, and/or dictate that it not be altered in re-use.

Here’s how Creative Commons describes itself:

Creative Commons is a nonprofit organization that enables the sharing and use of creativity and knowledge through free legal tools.

Our free, easy-to-use copyright licenses provide a simple, standardized way to give the public permission to share and use your creative work — on conditions of your choice. CC licenses let you easily change your copyright terms from the default of “all rights reserved” to “some rights reserved.”

Creative Commons licenses are not an alternative to copyright. They work alongside copyright and enable you to modify your copyright terms to best suit your needs.

Designed to be very adaptable, Creative Commons offers a variety of levels of licenses, including those that qualify for the class – Approved for Free Cultural Works.  Those are the least restrictive of the Creative Commons licenses, it’s the category of license that Wikipedia and Wikimedia sites are under.  From the perspective of a “content provider” (i.e. author) this particular classification is much like applying the principles of free “open source” software  to our own creations.

I choose Creative Commonsfree cultural works seal

I’ve chosen to apply Creative Commons Attribution-ShareAlike 4.0 International license to Michael Samadhi’s Joy of Kink.  That means that you, the reader, have the following rights:

You are free to:
Share — copy and redistribute the material in any medium or format
Adapt — remix, transform, and build upon the material
for any purpose, even commercially.
The licensor cannot revoke these freedoms as long as you follow the license terms.
Under the following terms:
Attribution — You must give appropriate credit, provide a link to the license, and indicate if changes were made. You may do so in any reasonable manner, but not in any way that suggests the licensor endorses you or your use.
ShareAlike — If you remix, transform, or build upon the material, you must distribute your contributions under the same license as the original.

That’s what’s called a human-readable summary of the selected license.  Creative Commons also provides a page with the full legal code for the particular copyright protections I choose.

Joy of BDSM page divider by Serafina Samadhi

Many of my writings on a different topic, for a different community, survive on the Internet more than a decade after I originally shared them, but the site they were written for is long gone.  Those writings survived because I offered them under a similar license to the works you find here.  I’ve taken that to heart.  It’s inspired me to offer the Joy of Kink under similar terms.

I guess at heart I’m an open source guy.  When it comes to word processing, for instance, I use Open Office.  Obviously, this blog is powered by Word Press.  I even choose to use Firefox as my browser because it also is open source.  So, it’s completely consistent with my world view that I offer my writing on similar terms.  With that in mind, unless otherwise noted, Michael Samadhi’s Joy of Kink is offered to the community under a Creative Commons Attribution-ShareAlike 4.0 International License.

My writings are intended to be a gift to the kink/BDSM community.  Please feel free to share articles and essays as widely as you may wish.  Just remember to credit the author, and to “share alike” for works which have been altered or transformed, they must carry the same Creative Commons license as well.

Joy of BDSM page divider by Serafina Samadhi

Welcome 2014 ~ Happy New Year

Welcome 2014 ~ Happy New Year

A New Year’s Wish

“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.”
~ Mark Twain

It’s the dawn of another new year, with all the fresh possibilities that go along with a new beginning.  I’ve got plans for Serafina (I always do!) in the New Year.  Of course I rarely tell her of my plans, those kinds of things are kept on a need to know basis round these parts.  When Serafina needs to know, she will!

What are your plans for 2014?  Your hopes?  Your dreams?  And, most importantly, what can I do to help them come true?

All kidding around aside, my darling slave/wife Serafina and I would like to wish everyone a happy, healthy, fruitful, and (most of all) a kinky new year.  Here’s to making everyone’s hopes and dreams, fantasies and desires, all come true.  Together, in 2014, in the spirit of always striving to learn and grow, we shall continue our delicious and delightful explorations of the joy of kink.  We hope you do too!


Michael Samadhi ~ 1/1/2014