Transgender People and “Biological Sex” Myths – Julia Serano – Medium

Transgender People and “Biological Sex” Myths – Julia Serano – Medium

Julia Serano’s logic seems very sound to me. I think I’d like to read more of her writing. I’ve read a lot of Patrick Califia, but am not as well educated on Transgender issues as I’d like…

“The idea of two sexes is simplistic. Biologists now think there is a wider spectrum than that.”

note: The day this was published, H.R. 2796 — a U.S. congressional bill that would legally re-define “man” and “woman” based on an individual’s “genetic sex,” as a means to rollback transgender rights — started to garner news & media attention. While this essay was not intended to address that bill specifically, it thoroughly undermines its logical, legal, and scientific standing…

The primary assumption driving most “biological sex” myths is that there are two discrete mutually exclusive sexes that are immutable (i.e., once born into a sex, you will always be a member of that sex). While there are a number of sexually dimorphic traits — such as chromosomes, gonads, external genitals, other reproductive organs, ratio of sex hormones, and secondary sex characteristics — many times these traits do not all align (i.e., all male, or all female) within the same person, as is the case for intersex and many transgender people…

Source: Transgender People and “Biological Sex” Myths – Julia Serano – Medium

Between starting this news blurb, and completing it, I did order a paperback copy of Serano’s book, Whipping Girl.

It’ll likely take me a few weeks to absorb everything. So, you should look for an upcoming review of Whipping Girl: A Transsexual Woman on Sexism and the Scapegoating of Femininity at the Joy of Kink sometime after the New Year…

‘Unsafe and Just Plain Dirty’: Women Accuse Vice of ‘Toxic’ Sexual-Harassment Culture

‘Unsafe and Just Plain Dirty’: Women Accuse Vice of ‘Toxic’ Sexual-Harassment Culture

It’s going to take a lot of time, and a lot more articles like this, to fully uncover the toxic culture of sexual harassment that exists today. it’s long overdue if you ask me…

The Daily Beast talked to more than a dozen former and current employees about the culture for women inside Vice Media. They spoke of harassing behavior and company indifference.

Source: ‘Unsafe and Just Plain Dirty’: Women Accuse Vice of ‘Toxic’ Sexual-Harassment Culture

Navy pilot draws a penis in the sky!

Navy pilot draws a penis in the sky!

A Navy pilot drew a penis in the sky.

It’s not the 1st time something like this has been investigated…

penis in the sky nacy jet

Penis in the Sky
A penis in the sky? Seriously?
I thought about making a bunch of dick jokes at the head of this post.
I decided not to bother, the joke is on the Navy.
One of their pilots creating a penis in the sky is more than enough…
Residents of Washington state turned their eyes to a clear blue sky Thursday and found themselves staring at a cartoonish rendering of male genitalia, sketched in smoke by at least one Navy EA-18G Growler jet flying out of Naval Air Station Whidbey Island.
The image stretched hundreds of feet high over the Okanogan highlands, based on photographs shared on social media.
Lt. Cmdr. Leslie Hubbell, a Navy spokeswoman, called the incident “absolutely unacceptable,” saying it holds no training value and is under investigation.
The unit involved, Electronic Attack Squadron 130, flies a two-person variant of the F/A-18 Super Hornet and specializes in electronic warfare.

Source: A Navy pilot drew a penis in the sky. It’s not the 1st time something like this has been investigated.

I know that the individuals serving in our military face great pressures. These Navy pilots are portrayed pretty realistically in Top Gun. They are alpha males under extreme pressure to excel. it’s a matter of survival.
But, a penis in the sky? C’mon man!
The Navy invests vast resources to train pilots. It could be argued that Navy pilots trained to operate from aircraft carriers are among the most highly trained individuals in our military
It’s understandable that they occasionally blow off some steam. Pull some pranks. A little of that is inherent in the position these young men fill.
But there have to be limits. As in the kink community, some of those limits have to be hard limits.
And, when a hard limit is broken there are consequences. We may never know what discipline the young men who drew a penis in the sky face. Undoubtedly, this will impact their career. It should…

Today is Women’s Equality Day

I raise up my voice — not so I can shout, but so that those without a voice can be heard … we cannot succeed when half of us are held back.

Malala Yousafzai

Woman’s Equality Day

In case the post title, etc., hasn’t already tipped you off – today is Women’s Equality Day.

This particular date was chosen to commemorate the 1920 certification of the 19th Amendment to the Constitution, which gave women the right to vote.

Women’s Equality Day is more than just a celebration of the passage of the 19th Amendment.

It is also meant to call attention to women’s continuing efforts toward full equality.

Unlike Go Topless Day, this is an official event, sanctioned and proclaimed by Congress.  This year the two events happen to fall on the same day.  But, they are very much separate from each other.

Women’s Equality Day is largely the creation of Representative Bella Abzug (D-NY).  Back in 1971, U.S. Congress passed a resolution proclaiming August 26 as “Women’s Equality Day.”

It was Congresswoman Abzug (aka “Battling Bella”) who sponsored the resolution and shepherded it through the legislative process.

We are coming down from our pedestal and up from the laundry room.

Bella Abzug

Congresswoman - feminist - civil rights advocate

Women’s Equality Day for me…

I do believe very strongly in equality for all.  Equality regardless of gender, race, sexual preference, faith, etc.

For folks who know that I am a Master in a consensual power exchange, that might raise an eyebrow, or two.  I am not Master because I am inherently superior.  Any partners I might have are not slaves because of their inferiority.

Far from it…

Mastery is a role I’ve chosen.  It is a lifestyle I live.  But, it’s not a belief in my own inherent superiority.

So I heartily celebrate Woman’s Equality Day.  Obviously, I am publicizing the event here on my blog.

I honor the women who have been part of my life today.  As much as any man (with the exception of my father) they have helped me to become the individual I am today.

It’s hard to imagine the world in a time where women could not vote.  Yet, that was literally true only 100 years ago.  We’ve come a long way in the last century.

Yet, we need to go further still.  I hope that 100 years from now, our ancestors will look back and be amazed that there ever was a time when equality was even a question.  I hope that by then, life without equality is simply unimaginable…

Women who seek to be equal to men lack ambition.

Timothy Leary

Saturday is 10th Annual Go Topless Day

In true equality, either everyone has it or no one has it.

Nadine Gary

Celebrate Go Topless Day

Perhaps you have heard the news of the next celebration coming up this weekend?

In case you aren’t up to speed on this one, Saturday is 10th Annual Go Topless Day.

No, this isn’t “fake news”.  Despite the rumors going around Chateau Samadhi, this isn’t an idea I came up with to see more boobs.

It’s the real deal. Well, sort of…

That’s not to say it’s an official National Holiday.  Go Topless Day isn’t likely to become the new Thanksgiving. (Although, most of us should probably give thanks for boobs…)

It is one of the many unofficial holidays which seem to proliferate these days.  Obviously, it’s a celebration that has caught on.  Sustaining an effort of this sort for a full decade isn’t simple.

In all honesty, I haven’t seen this advertised as heavily on social media as Steak and Blowjob Day.  Perhaps that says something more about the quality of my being social, then it does on the relative merits of the different celebrations.

Go Topless Day Protest

Of course, I would be remiss if I didn’t prominently feature the fact that Go Topless Day is really a protest.  As much as I’d like to pretend the event is just about bare boobies, it’s not.  Well, it is, but it’s not…

The event is a protest.  Laws are unequal. Men are free to bare their chests in the US. In most locations in the US, women do not share that same privilege.

So, I must confess.  I write this article from a position of privilege.  I already have the right to bare my chest.

I’m a big man.  I’m not young either.  Perhaps there are neighbors who earnestly wish I would not run outside in just my shorts to something from my car.

Regardless, that’s my right.   The women who live here at Chateau Samadhi do not share that privilege.  That, at least to my eyes, is wrong.

GoTopless Day 2017:  Saturday Aug. 26.

This year, GoTopless Day falls precisely on Women’s Equality Day, Aug 26. It is indeed on Aug 26, 1920, that women earned their right to vote on the basis of Gender Equality. In 1971, the US Congress has made Aug 26 into a nationally recognized date and named it “Women’s Equality Day”. The president of the United States is summoned to commemorate this date each year.

It is only logical that GoTopless Day protests (or celebrations depending on the legal status of your city) would fall on Women’s Equality Day since the right to go topless for women is based on gender equality as their right to vote once was.

On Saturday, Aug. 26, people in cities around the world are invited to stand up for women’s right to go topless in public. Please contact us if you would like to organize an event in your area so we can list your venue on our “Boob Map” 2017. (Please refer to our legal map in our section topless laws to know the topless status in your state and call your DA to know what your city’s is)

Women’s Equality Day

If you read the quote, you already know Saturday, August 26 2017 is also Women’s Equality Day.

Isn’t it a great piece of serendipity that the holiday and the protest coincide this year?

For the record, I don’t believe I’ll be able to make any of the official protests.  I’d have loved to travel to one of the cities where official protests are happening.  But, It’s just not happening this year.

Regardless, I do support the cause.

sponsored by aliens

Go Topless Day is sponsored by the Raelian Movement.  In fact, the event was originally created by the Raelians.  That’s the one detail I hadn’t yet disclosed.

Without going into too great detail about the Raelians, their beliefs are based on a series of alien encounters experienced by a man named Rael.

They expect future visitations by those extra-terrestrials.  And, their ongoing efforts are centered around preparing humanity for those visits.

To be honest, I’m not sure I understand the connection between future close encounters and the right to bare breasts.  Perhaps if I studied their belief more closely…

But, I’m not sure I care.  As far as I can tell, their beliefs are not harmful.  They don’t wish to oppress anyone’s rights, nor to discriminate.

I can live with that.  As long as the Raelian Movement does not infringe on my beliefs and practices, they are welcome to theirs.

And, if we can find common ground on equality issues, all the better.

The Best of Dickin’ Around…

dildo flippin' fun

I saw this on Facebook today, and thought it was an absolute hoot!

A post shared by Saucenstein (@piegle) on

Perhaps even better than the video itself, was the commentary offered by renowned BDSM author, Laura Antoniou.

Here. You wanna have a new freakin’ contest in the kink scene? This. I want to see the quarter-finals for this, and the grand…er…slam. I guess? I want to see folks going all balls to the wall while flinging their johnsons.

I want to hear announcers and color-folk and their coverage.

“And here’s Master Wolfdick, he surprised us all with that Triple Tallywhacker in Tulsa…”

“Oh, what a disappointment for Pup Waggletail! Her Bouncing Boner is *just* outside the target area. That’ll for sure put a knot in her plans to head for the final round.”

“Slave Stoneybutt approaches the line, eyes the course. Hey, is that the new Love Truncheon model from Dicks by Dykes, Sally?”

“It sure is, Jake, available in the vendor space for only $19.99 tonight…”

“Wow, look at that arc! This fucker really knows how to fly! And that’s one bounce – a flip – and it sticks the landing! Amazing!”

“Right on target! that’s some fast fascinus, for sure – I bet we’ll be seeing a lot more of those in future trials. Remember, the Love Truncheon is made in 16 colors and patterns by Dicks by Dykes, an official sponsor of the Northwest Goodfellow Games!”

Laura Antoniou

Antoniou’s commentary was as much fun (for me) as the video itself.

Laura is, of course, the author of the Marketplace series, a true classic in kink literature.

And, she’s no stranger to writing comedy/satire either.  Her book, The Killer Wore Leather, is a satirical classic in its own right.

I’d considered writing my own commentary, similar to Laura’s.  But, when in the presence of a Master of their trade…

Anyway, I hope it’s all good, eliciting a giggle (or laughter) for you too.

Trump Tweets Transgender Armed Forces Ban

their willingness to put themselves in harm's way somehow isn't enough?

Before any American points a finger at President Putin and calls him nasty names, they should recognize that a lot of Americans agree with Putin on his stance against homosexual and transgender people.

Henry Rollins

It turns out the statement by Henry Rollins, a long-time human rights activist, was prescient.

There are indeed a lot of people whose beliefs are similar to Vladimir Putin when it comes to transgender and homosexual individuals.

Sadly, one of them is our own President.

Reacting to Trump’s Transgender Twitterstorm

I’m sure you’ve already heard about Donald Trump’s twitterstorm…

OK.  Considering the frequency with which “the Donald” tweets, I should probably be more specific.

I’m referring to the three tweets from July 26th, 2017.  The tweets where he announced a ban on transgendered individuals serving in the armed forces.

It’s pretty clear, from all indications, that this is a political move on Trump’s part.

This is an issue that was already settled for our armed forces.  Transgendered people are currently serving in the military.

As many as 15,000 patriotic transgendered citizens currently serve in the military.  The sky hasn’t fallen.  National defense has not been compromised.

no reason… none

Trump’s tweets seemingly jumped the gun on this issue too, catching military leadership unprepared.

Only a month ago, Defense Secretary James Mattis called for a six-month study of armed services policies regarding transgendered persons.  Action on the issue was to be deferred until the study’s completion.

For those who believe the real reason was cost, check again.  The US military spends more on Viagra/Cialis alone than it costs to support their transgendered population.

There are already 15,000 patriotic, transgender Americans serving in our military, and this ban will cause a huge disruption. Furthermore, this puts the careers of patriotic transgender Americans on the line who want nothing more than to serve their country.

Gay & Lesbian Alliance Against Defamation (GLAAD)

Our armed forces are 100% volunteer.

That means the brave transgendered who are in the military stepped forward for duty.  They chose to serve in defense of their country.

There is no good reason to deny them that opportunity.



The counter reaction to Trump’s tweets was swift and vigorous.

Chelsea Manning (perhaps a catalyst for Trump’s move) replied quickly.  So did Caitlyn Jenner (who had been a vocal Trump supporter.)

The United States armed forces even pushed back.

I know there are questions about yesterday’s announcement on the transgender policy by the President.  There will be no modifications to the current policy until the President’s direction has been received by the Secretary of Defense and the Secretary has issued implementation guidance.

Marine General Joseph Dunford

Chairman of the Joint Chiefs of Staff


Admittedly, the President does have his defenders.

They are the people referred to by Henry Rollins.  They are the people who voted for Trump.

Because of their religious beliefs and/or conservative values, they refuse to accept the transgendered.

Not in their schools.  Not in their churches.  And certainly not in their military.

It’s that political constituency the twitterstorm plays towards.

But it’s not what it seems.

Trump’s tweets are not meant to give our country a better military.  No, they are meant to paint the Democrats into a corner in the rust-belt states.  Places where supporters of transgender rights are not the majority.

The whole thing is designed to put Trump’s opponents on the defensive.  It’s all political…

As a veteran, Senator Ernst served alongside fellow service members from all different backgrounds and parts of the country.  While she believes taxpayers shouldn’t cover the costs associated with a gender reassignment surgery, Americans who are qualified and can meet the standards to serve in the military should be afforded that opportunity.

Senator Joni Ernst (R-Iowa)

- spokesperson - Brook Hougesen

politics suck

I never imagined I’d feel a great need to write about our armed forces.

Perhaps a special greeting on Veteran’s Day and Memorial Day.  But, that’s about it.

It’s not a topic that generally jives well with a sexuality blog.

I want to say up front, that it absolutely sucks to have to put anything dealing with politics here on my blog.

I didn’t want to do it.

And, I still don’t want to get political.  Life, however, doesn’t always present easy choices.  This is one of those times.

I’ve been inside politics.

Worked as a press secretary, campaign manager, a Chief of Staff.  Even managed to get myself elected once.  Before that, I spent close to a decade as a community organizer.

Then, close to ten years ago, I walked away from it all.  Left in disgust.

All too often, politics these days involves betrayal.  I was having none of that.  It was all making me ill.

Wanting no part of that circus anymore, politics was dead to me.  And, I swore not to drag that carcass here.

Whether you’re transgender or not, most of us get to a point in our lives where we can no longer lie to ourselves.

Laverne Cox

reality bites

Then the realization hit.  Sometimes staying silent would be a greater injustice than sullying my blog with politics.

In this case, the topic intersects with the blog’s mission anyway.

I’m here to write about kink.  Fetish.  BDSM.  Exploring paganism.  Tantra.

I want to explore all things sexual.  Revel in the exotic and the erotic.

I’d like to pass on some of what I’ve learned about kink.  And, share a little bit of the history of sexuality that I’ve studied.  Perhaps pass along relevant news from time to time.

I want my words to paint pictures in your mind.  I hope my illustrations and pictures can speak to you like words.

In order to explore these topics, I need to work from a place of sexual freedom.  I have to strive for an atmosphere of tolerance and acceptance.

I loathe the thought of making politics a regular part of Michael’s Way.  But, there’s no escaping the topic.

Political issues and decisions affect the atmosphere I work in.  They impact my sexual freedoms.  Ultimately, the laws of the land even determine my ability to be a sex blogger.

With that in mind, I cannot afford to be silent.  None of us can…

You know, gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender – people are people.

Judith Light

How Will the Potty Police Know?

absolutely awesome activism!

“How will the Potty Police know I’m transgender if the Governor doesn’t?”

Sometimes you have to fight for what you know is right.

Ashley Smith knows that.  And, she really is fighting the good fight.

I have to say, she’s doing it very well!

In my 20’s and 30’s, I spent ten years as a community organizer.  Looking back, it might very well have been the best years of my life.

It’s a great feeling, fighting for a good cause.  When it’s done right, it can change society.

That’s the road Ashley Smith is on.

Ashley created a wonderful message.  It’s brilliant really.

A picture can say a thousand words.

A great caption is the icing on the cake.

I don’t need to explain the wrong headed Texas “bathroom bill” to you.

She summed it up quite well in a single sentence.

I don’t need to detail how wrong it is for Texas Governor Greg Abbott to support such foolishness.

She took care of that too.

Brilliant work Ashley … You go girl!