National No Bra Day | Breast Cancer Awareness


National No Bra Day is observed annually on October 13. This is a day to leave your bra at home.

National No Bra Day is meant to promote breast cancer awareness and to help raise money for research. Many women who have survived breast cancer are unable to go without a bra as they need it to hold their prosthesis after surgery. October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month, and National No Bra Day should serve as a reminder for all women to be screened for breast cancer.

Serafina and Sinnjara Samadhi (photo by Michael Samadhi)

Help Promote Breast Cancer Awareness

Go Braless ~ Today is National No Bra Day!

Friday, October 13th, is Boobday too!

October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month, and, as a part of that effort, today has been declared National No Bra Day. Since Boobday is a weekly meme honoring breasts, it seems natural to combine it with a touch of activism today.

If going braless works for you, please do! I went out braless myself today. If going braless isn’t for you, that’s ok too. Since the day is about awareness, there are lots of ways to participate.

No matter your gender identity, whether you have breasts or not, you can help spread the word about Breast Cancer Awareness Month and No Bra Day. If you have a blog, perhaps you could create a post? Maybe you are posting on social media and have a large following? How about using the #NoBraDay or #NationalNoBraDay hashtags?

If you have the financial means, please consider making a contribution to the American Cancer Society, or Susan G. Komen for the Cure. Both organizations sponsor international efforts. Also, consider Race for the Cure, which is now held in 26 countries – another way to participate.

Most of all, if you have breasts, please make an appointment for a mammogram!

Today is just my second BoobDay. I hope you enjoy the view again. And, I hope you will join me in any way you feel appropriate, in promoting Breast Cancer Awareness Month and National No Bra Day.

Boobday is a weekly meme for us to honor breasts of all shapes and sizes belonging to all types of folks.

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It’s Coming Out Day

Today is National Coming Out Day.

If you’re not sure, or simply don’t know what that means, follow the (above) link to find out.

To do my part for the event, I’ll make a little announcement of my own.

I’m a Dominant/Master/Owner/Leatherman – take your pick among those titles, any will fit. Anyone who reads the blog even a little should have figured that out by now.

I am also pansexual. This you may not know about me.

The day is running out, so I’ll just leave it there for now…

National Coming Out Day is celebrated annually on October 11 to remember the 1987 March on Washington for Gay and Lesbian Rights. The goal of National Coming Out Day is to promote a world in which it is safe for LGBT people to be open and honest about their identities.

Jessica Stahl, Ph.D., guest contributor

Psychology Today

Adding Financial Insult to Injury | Billing Sexual Assault Survivors | from Teen Vogue

It’s So Very Wrong That Hospitals Are Charging Sexual Assault Victims

Survivors Should NEVER Pay A Financial Penalty for Rape Treatment

Karen* was 26 when her partner drove her to an ER in Boston the morning after she was sexually assaulted. She opted for a pregnancy test, pre-exposure prophylaxis anti-HIV treatment, and an IV. She assumed her insurance from her job as a certified rape crisis counselor would cover the costs.

But four months later, she received a bill from the hospital. It contained a breakdown of what her insurance covered and what she owed — and it exceeded $1,200.

Karen is not the first sexual assault survivor to get surprised with exorbitant fees. Despite the law’s intentions of offsetting medical expenses that should not have to be paid by the sexual assault survivor (and it’s not taxpayer dollars covering the costs, but rather funds from crime victim compensation programs), some hospitals are extraneously billing the patients for tests and treatments, further contributing to their distress.

In a recent study published in the American Journal of Public Health, researchers analyzed the insurance policies of 1,355 female rape survivors between the ages of 16 and 61. They found that nearly all of them paid healthcare costs — an average of about $950 — for crimes committed against them. The study found that while insurance typically covers 86% of the $6,737 average cost of rape, including for items like a rape kit — an involved exam that collects forensic evidence for a tailored treatment program or to support court proceedings should you wish to prosecute — survivors are generally left to cover the remaining amount out of pocket. Between antibiotics, sleep aids, anti-anxiety medications, emergency contraceptives, and other related treatments, the study showed some survivors accrued up to $8,900 in charges in the first month alone.

The cost is even more disheartening given that protection clauses in the law like the Violence Against Women Act (VAWA) were established to prevent hospitals and healthcare providers from billing survivors after their assault. Still, many providers in the country have figured out how to tack on extra fees, Michelle Katz, a licensed practical nurse, health insurance advocate, and author of Healthcare for Less, 101 Health Insurance Tips, and Healthcare Made Easy, tells Teen Vogue. She says that depending on the facility, physicians often charge a professional component associated with their expert reading of the diagnostic or lab work, a site fee for the cost of the room and equipment, and a technical fee for the kit itself. This begs the question: Are hospitals unnecessarily billing survivors?

Marissa Miller

Teen Vogue, Hospitals Are Charging Sexual Assault Survivors With Exorbitant Hospital Fees

I’m Outraged That Hospitals Are Charging Sexual Assault Survivors

The medical industrial complex in the United States is more about profit than it is about patients.

For some, that may appear to be an inflammatory statement. While there may be individual physicians and hospitals who buck this trend, it’s become nearly universally true.

In my work as an advocate for low-income individuals, I’m constantly fighting the heinous practice of balance billing. There are Federal laws prohibiting this exploit. Yet, I help Medicaid recipients who are getting hospital bills far too often for it to be the result of simple billing mistakes. Hospital billing departments are either completely ignorant and incompetent. Or, they are deliberately attempting to take financial advantage of the poor.

Now, thanks to Teen Vogue, I learn that sexual assault survivors are being victimized in a similar fashion.

Needless to say, I’m outraged!

I can not be more clear about this. Anytime a sexual assault survivor receives a bill for their rape treatment, they are being victimized a second time. Victimized by the hospitals and physicians who send out the bill. Clearly, the offending individuals and institutions are adding financial insult to injury…

Sexual Assault Resources

If you or someone you know has been sexually assaulted, you can seek help by calling the National Sexual Assault Hotline at 800-656-HOPE (4673). For more resources on sexual assault, visit RAINNEnd Rape on CampusKnow Your IX, and the National Sexual Violence Resource Center.

“Life is too short to be living someone else’s dream.” ~ RIP Hugh Hefner

Hugh Hefner  (April 9, 1926 – September 27, 2017)

In my wildest dreams, I could not have imagined a sweeter life. Hugh Hefner

I come not to praise Hefner, but to bury him…

Let’s be honest, Hugh Hefner’s legacy is a very mixed bag.

That’s probably obvious to folks who get their news from more than one source.  Hefner’s passing two days ago has elicited a vast number of obituaries.

Some have looked back on his life as very much a net positive.

From that viewpoint, Hefner’s greatest legacy may be the vast business empire he built.  For one group of folks, that sort of business acumen is a good unto itself.

Hugh will certainly be well remembered by some for the sexual taboos he broke.

In the same vein, others respect the barriers he broke with Playboy.  Some will even say Playboy empowered women all across our country.  I can’t argue with any of that.

Obviously, there’s a dark side as well.  Certainly, it can be argued that Hugh Hefner’s entire business empire was based on the exploitation of women.

I’ve read obituaries blaming Hefner for everything from pornography addiction to promiscuity.

More than a fair number of people have portrayed “Hef” as something far less than a nice man.  Perhaps some of those portraits are the product of jealousy and/or personal recrimination.

Perhaps not…

I won’t take great issue with the majority of the negative portrayals either.  It’s a simple guess, but probably accurate to say it’s all really just a matter of perspective.

And, whether you love or hate Hefner, there’s no denying the ways Playboy helped change the sexual landscape of the United States.

I can see both good and bad in Hugh Hefner.

He may have been a celebrity, but in leaving a complex legacy, in being seen as good by some and awful by others, he ends up being like every other man.

Well, if we hadn’t had the Wright brothers, there would still be airplanes. If there hadn’t been an Edison, there would still be electric lights. And if there hadn’t been a Hefner, we’d still have sex. But maybe we wouldn’t be enjoying it as much. So the world would be a little poorer. Come to think of it, so would some of my relatives. Hugh Hefner

Playboy interview - 1974

A Life in Quotes ~ Hugh Hefner

Being attacked by right-wing Christians did not bother me. Being attacked by liberal feminists did. Hugh Hefner

My father lived an exceptional and impactful life as a media and cultural pioneer and a leading voice behind some of the most significant social and cultural movements of our time in advocating free speech, civil rights and sexual freedom. He defined a lifestyle and ethos that lie at the heart of the Playboy brand, one of the most recognizable and enduring in history. He will be greatly missed by many, including his wife Crystal, my sister Christie and my brothers David and Marston, and all of us at Playboy Enterprises. Cooper Hefner

Hugh Hefner's son | chief creative officer of Playboy

Much of my life has been like an adolescent dream of an adult life. If you were still a boy, in almost a Peter Pan kind of way, and could have just the perfect life that you wanted to have, that’s the life I invented for myself. Hugh Hefner

LA Times

If you do something wrong, you’ll get an email. There’s a strict code of conduct. There are even rules about Instagram and Twitter. You’ve got to show everything in a good light and if you’re drunk in a picture you’ll be in trouble. Melissa Howe

Inside Playboy Mansion: 'It's like a prison and Hugh Hefner prefers tennis to sex', The Mirror

Although we all did our best to decorate our rooms and make them homey, the mattresses on our beds were ­disgusting — old, worn and stained. The sheets were past their best too. Izabella St. James

Bunny Tales: Behind Closed Doors at the Playboy Mansion

Without the dynamic of the other multiple girlfriends to play off of, Hef’s true colors really came out. He started to get really snappish and verbally abusive with me. I had been able to overlook so many things in the relationship, but when he finally verbalized how he truly was, and I realized he wasn’t that nice of a guy, I really woke up. Holly Madison

Hugh Hefner & Holly Madison

The Playmate of the Year used to get a Porsche.

Now she gets a Mini Cooper that she has to return after a year!

Carla Howe

Inside Playboy Mansion: 'It's like a prison and Hugh Hefner prefers tennis to sex', The Mirror

Every Friday morning we had to go to Hef’s room, wait while he picked up all the dog poo off the carpet — and then ask for our allowance: a thousand dollars counted out in crisp hundred-dollar bills from a safe in one of his bookcases. We all hated this process. Hef would always use the occasion to bring up anything he wasn’t happy about in the relationship. Most of the complaints were about the lack of harmony among the girlfriends — or your lack of sexual participation in the ‘parties’ he held in his bedroom. If we’d been out of town for any reason and missed one of the official ‘going out’ nights [when Hefner liked to parade his girls at nightclubs] he wouldn’t want to give us the allowance. He used it as a weapon. Izabella St. James

Bunny Tales: Behind Closed Doors at the Playboy Mansion

I launched the magazine on $5,000 dollars. My mother loaned me $1,000. The first issue came out at the end of 1953. I knew I needed something original. I had a photographer shoot a 3D feature for the first issue and learned it would cost too much money. When the 3D thing turned out to be too expensive, at that same moment I came across the photos of Marilyn Monroe. People had heard about it but they hadn’t seen it. And that was the first issue. Hugh Hefner

Much of my life has been like an adolescent dream of an adult life. If you were still a boy, in almost a Peter Pan kind of way, and could have just the perfect life that you wanted to have, that’s the life I invented for myself. Hugh Hefner

1992 interview, Los Angeles Times

Today the world lost a legend. #HughHefner started my career. For 22 yrs I got to wish him happy new year at his mansion. I’ll miss him.”

Ron Jeremy

My best pick-up line is ‘My name is Hugh Hefner.’

Hugh Hefner

When it first gets started his main girlfriend gives him [oral sex], then she has sex with him. She’s the first to go because that’s the safest for her. No protection and no testing. He doesn’t care.

Jill Ann Spaulding

Jill Ann: Upstairs

At about the minute mark, I pulled away and it was done. It was like a job. Clock in, clock out. It’s not like I enjoyed having sex with him.

Kendra Wilkinson

Sliding Into Home

Hugh Hefner absolutely revolutionized the persona of the American male. In the post-World War II era, men’s magazines were about hunting and fishing or the military, or they were like Esquire, erotic magazines with a kind of European flair.

Hefner reimagined the American male as a connoisseur in the continental manner, a man who enjoyed all the fine pleasures of life, including sex. Hefner brilliantly put sex into a continuum of appreciative response to jazz, to art, to ideas, to fine food. This was something brand new. Enjoying fine cuisine had always been considered unmanly in America. Hefner updated and revitalized the image of the British gentleman, a man of leisure who is deft at conversation — in which American men have never distinguished themselves — and the art of seduction, which was a sport refined by the French.

Hefner’s new vision of American masculinity was part of his desperate revision of his own Puritan heritage. On his father’s side, he descended directly from William Bradford, who came over on the Mayflower and was governor of Plymouth Colony, the major settlement of New England Puritans.

But Hefner’s worldview was already dated by the explosion of the psychedelic 1960s. The anything-goes, free-love atmosphere — illustrated by all that hedonistic rolling around in the mud at Woodstock in 1969 — made the suave Hefner style seem old-fashioned and buttoned up. Nevertheless, I have always taken the position that the men’s magazines — from the glossiest and most sophisticated to the rawest and raunchiest — represent the brute reality of sexuality. Pornography is not a distortion. It is not a sexist twisting of the facts of life but a kind of peephole into the roiling, primitive animal energies that are at the heart of sexual attraction and desire.

Camille Paglia

You believe what you wanna believe – RIP Tom Petty

Tom Petty ~ October 20, 1950 – October 2, 2017

An open letter to the dearly departed…

Dear Tom Petty,

Without ever knowing it, you’ve been a part of my life, and have enriched it with your music.

You’ve been with me since I was in High School. Your Damn the Torpedos album was a major influence, not just on myself, but on my entire class. It was an excellent academic school, but it was also a bit like the “Land of Misfit Toys”.

We were a bunch of misfit geeks, to be quite honest. Being told we didn’t have to be refugees – it was priceless!

When I look at my personal playlist, I not only see you, but I also see your influences.  Knowing how much you appreciated and even emulated the Byrds, I researched that band and became a fan too.  In fact, just this weekend I was playing the Byrds for a friend, telling them how I heard the roots of your music in so many of their songs.

Then, on Monday morning, I heard so much bad news.  First I heard of the mass shooting in Las Vegas.  Then I heard about you.

Dude, I’m going to miss you.  I couldn’t even listen to your music last night.  I wanted to play your catalog of songs, but the pain was just too close.  I couldn’t do it…

Here’s to you, Tom Petty!


You and I will meet again, When we’re least expecting it, One day in some far off place, I will recognize your face. I won’t say goodbye my friend, for you and I will meet again.

Tom Petty

You like me, and I like it all…

David Bowie

You’ve got your mother in a whirl
She’s not sure if you’re a boy or a girl
Hey babe, your hair’s alright
Hey babe, let’s go out tonight
You like me, and I like it all
We like dancing and we look divine
You love bands when they’re playing hard
You want more and you want it fast
They put you down, they say I’m wrong
You tacky thing, you put them on
Rebel Rebel, you’ve torn your dress
Rebel Rebel, your face is a mess
Rebel Rebel, how could they know?
Hot tramp, I love you so!

David Bowie

Rebel Rebel

Sensuous or kinky?

It’s old humor.

Old enough it could be called a “classic”…

Q:  What’s the difference between sensuous and kinky?

A:  Sensuous they use the feather.  Kinky they use the whole chicken.

Like the joke, this “art” was created from an image that’s been floating around the web for ages…


It’s International Rabbit Day

International Rabbit Day ~ 9/23/2017

Well, my friends and dear readers, it’s International Rabbit Day.

It’s not a holiday I’d planned for.

Maybe next year…

I first heard about the event earlier this morning.

Sinnjara looked at me with a knowing grin, and said, “Master, it’s International Rabbit Day today.  Maybe you should create a post?”

I mean it sounds like fun.

Who minds a good reason to party?

Am I right?

So I started this post.

What can I say?

I’m a good Master…

Bunny Samadhi – circa 2005

When I showed Sinnjara the draft of this post, written and illustrated up to this point, she reacted with exasperation…

“MASTER, I didn’t mean THAT kind of rabbit!!!”

“Well then slave,” I replied, “Whatever kind of rabbit do you mean?”

“You know…” She said.

“Do I?”  I made a face at my slave, my ‘innocent’ face.

Sinnjara has a bit of Tinkerbell in her, I think at this point she stomped her foot.

“You know, the kind that vibrates and swirls and has really fun ears,” she stated.

Looking rather sure of herself, Sinnjara crossed her arms and sort of ‘harrumphed” at me.

“O.K., but you do know that Bunny Samadhi vibrated and swirled as she hopped around the room.  And come to think of it, her ears really were a lot of fun to pet and play with…”


Yes, at this point my slave gave me the facepalm gesture.

Then I got links, on my Facebook, from places like Jezebel and Cosmopolitan.

“Oh, THAT kind of rabbit,” I said.  “Let me create some art for that kind of rabbit…”

So, I updated the post, as you can see.

But when I showed Sinnjara, the face I got didn’t look too much like joy.  No, it wasn’t joy for sure.

Her eyes kinda bugged out…

“Rabbits are supposed to be fun, but your’s looks scary.  It’s evil!”

“Ya, it kinda does have a special look, doesn’t it?”  I broke out laughing, lost my straight face entirely.

More links arrived in my Facebook.

Fun Factory Miss Bi, a high-tech rabbit

I hope that’s a more aesthetically pleasing tribute to the International Rabbit (of the high-tech kind) Day.

BTW – In case you wondered, International Rabbit Day (not a marketing gimmick) is a real thing.  According to the House Rabbit Society (not dedicated to the high-tech kind of rabbit – but wouldn’t that be fun) …

“International Rabbit Day is an international day which promotes the protection and care of rabbits both domestic and wild… On International Rabbit Day, we think about the many ways that rabbits bring joy to our lives, and also the many ways in which they are harmed, by hunting, eating, medical experimentation, product testing, fur-farming, and living isolated lives in outdoor hutches.”

At this point, Master does the “told you so dance” as we walk out the door to pick up supper.

Walking out the door, my slave says, somewhat curtly, “Guess who’s going inside to pick it up?”

“I guess I am…”, I replied.

At least I got that one right!

Nap time for bunny – no doubt tired out from Rabbit Day celebrations…

I don’t know what the word ‘rabbit’ means to you.

But, I do know that today is the day to protect / celebrate / commemorate / vibrate your rabbit.

It’s also not a bad day to remember your favorite bunny.

Bunnies need loving too…

Ya know?

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