It’s bad when your porn protects you more than your government.Sinnjara's Son
Julia Serano’s logic seems very sound to me. I think I’d like to read more of her writing. I’ve read a lot of Patrick Califia, but am not as well educated on Transgender issues as I’d like…
“The idea of two sexes is simplistic. Biologists now think there is a wider spectrum than that.”
note: The day this was published, H.R. 2796 — a U.S. congressional bill that would legally re-define “man” and “woman” based on an individual’s “genetic sex,” as a means to rollback transgender rights — started to garner news & media attention. While this essay was not intended to address that bill specifically, it thoroughly undermines its logical, legal, and scientific standing…
The primary assumption driving most “biological sex” myths is that there are two discrete mutually exclusive sexes that are immutable (i.e., once born into a sex, you will always be a member of that sex). While there are a number of sexually dimorphic traits — such as chromosomes, gonads, external genitals, other reproductive organs, ratio of sex hormones, and secondary sex characteristics — many times these traits do not all align (i.e., all male, or all female) within the same person, as is the case for intersex and many transgender people…
Between starting this news blurb, and completing it, I did order a paperback copy of Serano’s book, Whipping Girl.
It’ll likely take me a few weeks to absorb everything. So, you should look for an upcoming review of Whipping Girl: A Transsexual Woman on Sexism and the Scapegoating of Femininity at the Joy of Kink sometime after the New Year…
It’s going to take a lot of time, and a lot more articles like this, to fully uncover the toxic culture of sexual harassment that exists today. it’s long overdue if you ask me…
The Daily Beast talked to more than a dozen former and current employees about the culture for women inside Vice Media. They spoke of harassing behavior and company indifference.
A Navy pilot drew a penis in the sky.
It’s not the 1st time something like this has been investigated…
Residents of Washington state turned their eyes to a clear blue sky Thursday and found themselves staring at a cartoonish rendering of male genitalia, sketched in smoke by at least one Navy EA-18G Growler jet flying out of Naval Air Station Whidbey Island.The image stretched hundreds of feet high over the Okanogan highlands, based on photographs shared on social media.Lt. Cmdr. Leslie Hubbell, a Navy spokeswoman, called the incident “absolutely unacceptable,” saying it holds no training value and is under investigation.The unit involved, Electronic Attack Squadron 130, flies a two-person variant of the F/A-18 Super Hornet and specializes in electronic warfare.
Source: A Navy pilot drew a penis in the sky. It’s not the 1st time something like this has been investigated.
dildo flippin' fun
I saw this on Facebook today, and thought it was an absolute hoot!
Perhaps even better than the video itself, was the commentary offered by renowned BDSM author, Laura Antoniou.
Here. You wanna have a new freakin’ contest in the kink scene? This. I want to see the quarter-finals for this, and the grand…er…slam. I guess? I want to see folks going all balls to the wall while flinging their johnsons.
I want to hear announcers and color-folk and their coverage.
“And here’s Master Wolfdick, he surprised us all with that Triple Tallywhacker in Tulsa…”
“Oh, what a disappointment for Pup Waggletail! Her Bouncing Boner is *just* outside the target area. That’ll for sure put a knot in her plans to head for the final round.”
“Slave Stoneybutt approaches the line, eyes the course. Hey, is that the new Love Truncheon model from Dicks by Dykes, Sally?”
“It sure is, Jake, available in the vendor space for only $19.99 tonight…”
“Wow, look at that arc! This fucker really knows how to fly! And that’s one bounce – a flip – and it sticks the landing! Amazing!”
“Right on target! that’s some fast fascinus, for sure – I bet we’ll be seeing a lot more of those in future trials. Remember, the Love Truncheon is made in 16 colors and patterns by Dicks by Dykes, an official sponsor of the Northwest Goodfellow Games!”Laura Antoniou
Antoniou’s commentary was as much fun (for me) as the video itself.
Laura is, of course, the author of the Marketplace series, a true classic in kink literature.
And, she’s no stranger to writing comedy/satire either. Her book, The Killer Wore Leather, is a satirical classic in its own right.
I’d considered writing my own commentary, similar to Laura’s. But, when in the presence of a Master of their trade…
Anyway, I hope it’s all good, eliciting a giggle (or laughter) for you too.
their willingness to put themselves in harm's way somehow isn't enough?
Before any American points a finger at President Putin and calls him nasty names, they should recognize that a lot of Americans agree with Putin on his stance against homosexual and transgender people.Henry Rollins
It turns out the statement by Henry Rollins, a long-time human rights activist, was prescient.
There are indeed a lot of people whose beliefs are similar to Vladimir Putin when it comes to transgender and homosexual individuals.
Sadly, one of them is our own President.
Reacting to Trump’s Transgender Twitterstorm
I’m sure you’ve already heard about Donald Trump’s twitterstorm…
OK. Considering the frequency with which “the Donald” tweets, I should probably be more specific.
I’m referring to the three tweets from July 26th, 2017. The tweets where he announced a ban on transgendered individuals serving in the armed forces.
It’s pretty clear, from all indications, that this is a political move on Trump’s part.
This is an issue that was already settled for our armed forces. Transgendered people are currently serving in the military.
As many as 15,000 patriotic transgendered citizens currently serve in the military. The sky hasn’t fallen. National defense has not been compromised.
no reason… none
Trump’s tweets seemingly jumped the gun on this issue too, catching military leadership unprepared.
Only a month ago, Defense Secretary James Mattis called for a six-month study of armed services policies regarding transgendered persons. Action on the issue was to be deferred until the study’s completion.
For those who believe the real reason was cost, check again. The US military spends more on Viagra/Cialis alone than it costs to support their transgendered population.
After consultation with my Generals and military experts, please be advised that the United States Government will not accept or allow……
— Donald J. Trump (@realDonaldTrump) July 26, 2017
….Transgender individuals to serve in any capacity in the U.S. Military. Our military must be focused on decisive and overwhelming…..
— Donald J. Trump (@realDonaldTrump) July 26, 2017
….victory and cannot be burdened with the tremendous medical costs and disruption that transgender in the military would entail. Thank you
— Donald J. Trump (@realDonaldTrump) July 26, 2017
There are already 15,000 patriotic, transgender Americans serving in our military, and this ban will cause a huge disruption. Furthermore, this puts the careers of patriotic transgender Americans on the line who want nothing more than to serve their country.Gay & Lesbian Alliance Against Defamation (GLAAD)
Our armed forces are 100% volunteer.
That means the brave transgendered who are in the military stepped forward for duty. They chose to serve in defense of their country.
There is no good reason to deny them that opportunity.
The counter reaction to Trump’s tweets was swift and vigorous.
Chelsea Manning (perhaps a catalyst for Trump’s move) replied quickly. So did Caitlyn Jenner (who had been a vocal Trump supporter.)
The United States armed forces even pushed back.
I know there are questions about yesterday’s announcement on the transgender policy by the President. There will be no modifications to the current policy until the President’s direction has been received by the Secretary of Defense and the Secretary has issued implementation guidance.Marine General Joseph Dunford
Admittedly, the President does have his defenders.
They are the people referred to by Henry Rollins. They are the people who voted for Trump.
Because of their religious beliefs and/or conservative values, they refuse to accept the transgendered.
Not in their schools. Not in their churches. And certainly not in their military.
It’s that political constituency the twitterstorm plays towards.
But it’s not what it seems.
so, biggest baddest most $$ military on earth cries about a few trans people ? but funds the F-35? ? sounds like cowardice ??? #WeGotThis
— Chelsea E. Manning (@xychelsea) July 26, 2017
There are 15,000 patriotic transgender Americans in the US military fighting for all of us. What happened to your promise to fight for them? https://t.co/WzjypVC8Sr
— Caitlyn Jenner (@Caitlyn_Jenner) July 26, 2017
— Moola (@MooPersists) July 27, 2017
Trump’s tweets are not meant to give our country a better military. No, they are meant to paint the Democrats into a corner in the rust-belt states. Places where supporters of transgender rights are not the majority.
The whole thing is designed to put Trump’s opponents on the defensive. It’s all political…
As a veteran, Senator Ernst served alongside fellow service members from all different backgrounds and parts of the country. While she believes taxpayers shouldn’t cover the costs associated with a gender reassignment surgery, Americans who are qualified and can meet the standards to serve in the military should be afforded that opportunity.Senator Joni Ernst (R-Iowa)
I never imagined I’d feel a great need to write about our armed forces.
Perhaps a special greeting on Veteran’s Day and Memorial Day. But, that’s about it.
It’s not a topic that generally jives well with a sexuality blog.
I want to say up front, that it absolutely sucks to have to put anything dealing with politics here on my blog.
I didn’t want to do it.
And, I still don’t want to get political. Life, however, doesn’t always present easy choices. This is one of those times.
I’ve been inside politics.
Worked as a press secretary, campaign manager, a Chief of Staff. Even managed to get myself elected once. Before that, I spent close to a decade as a community organizer.
Then, close to ten years ago, I walked away from it all. Left in disgust.
All too often, politics these days involves betrayal. I was having none of that. It was all making me ill.
Wanting no part of that circus anymore, politics was dead to me. And, I swore not to drag that carcass here.
Whether you’re transgender or not, most of us get to a point in our lives where we can no longer lie to ourselves.Laverne Cox
Then the realization hit. Sometimes staying silent would be a greater injustice than sullying my blog with politics.
In this case, the topic intersects with the blog’s mission anyway.
I’m here to write about kink. Fetish. BDSM. Exploring paganism. Tantra.
I want to explore all things sexual. Revel in the exotic and the erotic.
I’d like to pass on some of what I’ve learned about kink. And, share a little bit of the history of sexuality that I’ve studied. Perhaps pass along relevant news from time to time.
I want my words to paint pictures in your mind. I hope my illustrations and pictures can speak to you like words.
In order to explore these topics, I need to work from a place of sexual freedom. I have to strive for an atmosphere of tolerance and acceptance.
I loathe the thought of making politics a regular part of Michael’s Way. But, there’s no escaping the topic.
Political issues and decisions affect the atmosphere I work in. They impact my sexual freedoms. Ultimately, the laws of the land even determine my ability to be a sex blogger.
With that in mind, I cannot afford to be silent. None of us can…
You know, gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender – people are people.Judith Light
absolutely awesome activism!
“How will the Potty Police know I’m transgender if the Governor doesn’t?”
Sometimes you have to fight for what you know is right.
Ashley Smith knows that. And, she really is fighting the good fight.
I have to say, she’s doing it very well!
In my 20’s and 30’s, I spent ten years as a community organizer. Looking back, it might very well have been the best years of my life.
It’s a great feeling, fighting for a good cause. When it’s done right, it can change society.
That’s the road Ashley Smith is on.
Ashley created a wonderful message. It’s brilliant really.
A picture can say a thousand words.
A great caption is the icing on the cake.
I don’t need to explain the wrong headed Texas “bathroom bill” to you.
She summed it up quite well in a single sentence.
I don’t need to detail how wrong it is for Texas Governor Greg Abbott to support such foolishness.
She took care of that too.
Brilliant work Ashley … You go girl!
American Airlines understands consent about as well as Christian Grey
The key to our success as a company is being an airline customers want to fly, where employees want to work and shareholders want to invest. It’s about being an airline that embraces diversity and creates an environment of mutual respect.American Airlines
American Airlines has worked hard to present themselves as both a patriotic company and a pioneer in having enlightened attitudes.
On the patriotic side, they created the AA “Flagship Freedom”. It’s a Boeing 757-200, labeled with a “yellow awareness ribbon” symbol.
The special paint job represents support of United States Armed Forces operations overseas.
In terms of equality and diversity, American was the first major U.S. airline to include sexual identity and orientation in its nondiscrimination policies.
According to an email statement AA made to the Charlotte Business Journal in 2015:
“For nearly two decades, American has been a pioneer in its fair-minded policies and practices for its lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) customers and employees. The key to our success as a company is being an airline customers want to fly, where employees want to work and shareholders want to invest. It’s about being an airline that embraces diversity and creates an environment of mutual respect.”
The airline even made a BDSM innuendo in a recent Twitter post, referencing 50 Shades of Grey.
That all sounds very good.
American Airlines would seem to well positioned to capture plenty of business from the LGBT and kink communities.
Unfortunately, even the most broad-minded corporate attitudes won’t help a company if their employees aren’t enlightened.
American Airline’s recent problem began when one of their flight crews grossly mishandled a sexual assault complaint.
Here’s the story as it’s told by Chloe King. (A Social Media Manager for a luxury goods store on Manhattan’s Fifth Avenue in New York City.)
I was the victim of a sexual crime on a recent international American Airlines flight. I woke up right before landing to have a flight attendant call me to the back of the plane and inform me that the man sitting next to me had been masturbating beside me while I slept. The woman to his other side saw it happen and asked to be moved, and the French Police had been notified to arrest the man upon landing — they just wanted to let me know.
What they didn’t do was wake me up and move me to a safe place. What they didn’t do was accommodate my request — after informing me of the assault — to sit anywhere else on the plane for landing. Instead, they made me climb back over the sex offender, trapped between him and the window for the rest of the flight. I was shaking and crying and trying not to get sick.
Chloe King – re-seated next to masturbator on flight
I have had it with these motherfuckin’ snakes on this motherfuckin’ plane!
Let’s be clear. Chloe King was a victim. Several times over.
Airline seating demands close proximity. It feels to me as though flying today already forces a kind of “near intimacy” with our seatmates. Then, imagine something sexually intimate happening. Almost in your lap …
Regardless of whether gendarmes arrested the masturbating man from Chloe’s American Airlines flight to Paris. Regardless of his eventual conviction in a French court for his actions. There’s no escaping that a public sex act was reported to airline staff.
Chloe became a victim while she was asleep. A public sex act occurred in the next seat. Chloe King could not, and did not, consent to masturbation occurring. Not anywhere in such close proximity to her person.
When Chloe was returned to her seat, it would seem that American Airlines compounded the damage.
What kind of fool tells a woman she must return to a seat next to a man who’s going to be arrested? What kind of idiot makes a woman crawl back over that man on the return to her seat?
Were they actively trying to give him more jerk-off material? (Facepalm.)
I do know I’ll never feel completely safe flying again. Add an American Airlines airplane to the long list of places where, as a woman, I will feel anxious and vulnerable.Chloe King
Fly Michael’s Way
Come on now, American Airlines …
There had to be another seat where Chloe could have been placed.
Lacking that, logic would dictate that they place a different passenger on the aisle seat next to the man.
Perhaps AA could have seated a big burly man who can’t be traumatized by the sight of a cock.
You know, should the masturbating man dare to whip it out again.
Someone who has read Hardy Haberman’s books on cbt.
Someone like me!
I would claim self-defense for the damage I’d inflict …
I thought I saw a motherfucking snake on that motherfucking plane!
my vote's for Bettie Page
The MLB baseball game was played a few nights ago. I missed it.
I’ve been a huge baseball fan my whole life. Still, I missed the MidSummer Classic this year.
I played a lot of baseball when I was young. I was pretty good too.
Got to be part of a tryout for a Cincinnati Reds scout when I was 15. Well, me and 20 other boys.
Still, it was one of the most exciting days of my youth. Back before I truly discovered the joys of the bedroom.
I could make excuses about the game … In all honesty, I just forgot. Perhaps I’m getting old? Yes, I suppose I am.
It may be July 14th on the calendar, but I’m still celebrating the 13th. “Today” was my birthday.
I’ve got everything I might want. Have been blessed with experience.
I’ve lived my life without many of the compromises other men make. Perhaps I’ve made a few of my own that other’s didn’t.
That’s the cost of being individualistic. It’s a price I’ll gladly pay.
And that’s my gift to you, dear reader. Some birthday advice.
Endeavor to live your life without regrets. Don’t be afraid to truly march to the beat of your own drum. The things (and people) who stand between you and being authentic are likely not the most important things. If they are, perhaps it’s time to re-examine your path.
And don’t forget to vote for Bettie Page on next year’s all-star ballot.
cops wound Aussie cosplayers at sex party
Cosplayers are generally fun and adventurous individuals.
Downunder in Australia, they may be more adventurous than most.
At Melbourne’s Inflation Nightclub, cosplay and sex play have been combined to create a weekly party called Saints and Sinners.
It’s billed as “world’s raunchiest party where just about anything goes.”
Last weekend, the swinger’s party was crashed by a group of individuals wearing police tactical gear. Complete with riot shields and ballistic helmets.
They weren’t cosplayers.
They were local law enforcement.
The result was nearly fatal for one man dressed as the Joker. He was shot in the torso. He was also zapped with a Tazer.
His partner in “crime”, Harley Quinn, was also wounded. Shot in the leg.
The shooting occurred just moments after the police entered the nightclub. A mere 32 seconds elapsed between the time law enforcement entered the club and when they employed lethal force.
Venue staff have stated that the male victim was not holding anything in his hand but rather he was in a compromising position with his female partner, which is a normal activity with the nature of this event.Martha Tsamis
From the size of the police response, you might have thought the Joker was some real life villain. A nefarious character like the one found in comic books.
More than 40 officers of the Critical Incident Response Team were involved in the raid.
They were heavily armed. Some carried semi-automatic weapons.
This tactical team rushed into a sex club at 3:53 am. Less than a minute later, there were two victims of the police shooting. One with a leg wound, the other shot in the back.
Remember, just about anything goes … there are open areas where people are talking, dancing, drinking, meeting, feeling and… there are more secluded areas where people can play a little more discreetly.
Despite the fact that two unarmed individuals were wheeled out of the club on stretchers (one in critical condition,) the police seem satisfied with the outcome.
Their justification for the shooting?
They claim the Joker waved a weapon in their direction, drawing their gunfire.
“If you look at all the circumstances when a gun is aimed at you, and you ask somebody to drop the gun and that does not occur, you need to make a split-second decision to protect yourself,” Police Superintendent Lisa Hardeman explained.
“The public expects a prompt and appropriate response by police to calls such as this, particularly in our heightened security environment,” said Wayne Gatt, secretary of the local Police Association.
Gatt continued to say that police were, “Trained to take and act on threats at their highest potential.”
But club patrons and staff don’t report feeling protected by this paramilitary police presence.
And, they report the Joker was brandishing a different kind of “gun”.
Those witnesses say he was involved in an intimate act with his partner as police stormed the club.
kinky lives matter?
Several hours after the event, police seized the hard drive containing records of the incident from the club’s internal security cameras.
In those video records, police officers are shown first arriving at the club over an hour before the shooting occurred. Footage from those security cameras shows them on the scene at 2:52 am.
Yes, those officers were responding to reports that a patron at the Saints and Sinners Ball was armed with a gun. But, camera footage shows those officers calmly interacting with security guards and patrons, not rushing in to save innocent lives.
In the hour between their arrival and the shooting, police are also said to have watched the Joker from one of Inflation’s in-house monitors.
Law enforcement was told by a security guard that the gun was a plastic replica. Security inspects props of that kind upon entry to the club, it’s part of their standard protocols.
Club security also reports that police ignored their suggestion to have an undercover officer enter the club to assess the scene.
Besides the fact that law enforcement wounded two individuals, one critically.
Beyond the fact that a paramilitary team of 40 heavily armed officers, dressed in all triot gear, stormed a sex club just before 4 am.
Ignoring the fact that law enforcement was told in advance that the gun was a fake. A replica. A toy.
This still stinks.
There’s bad history here that makes this story smell like an open-air fish market at closing on a hot summer day.
Police recently tried to have the club restricted, wanting it to close by 1 am. They failed.
Law enforcement recently raided Inflation, on a busy night, alleging rampant drug trafficking. Drug dogs were brought in. Every patron of the club was searched.
Local media was tipped off in advance of that drug raid. Of course, that meant all patrons of Inflation who were attending that evening’s party were filmed leaving the venue after the raid.
Would it surprise you to learn that no drugs were found? No weed. No cocaine or smack. No pills. Nothing.
This is a playbook version of how law enforcement harasses adult businesses.
It’s not every day that they get to call out the tactical response team. Granted, they usually don’t go to the length of shooting anyone.
Please do not misunderstand. I love the police when they are protecting me from violent crime or robbery. Perhaps less so when they are doing speed enforcement and the like, but I know it’s necessary.
If a sex club needs a police presence, they will quickly call you. OK?
Otherwise, can you just stay the fuck out of sex clubs, BDSM parties, and the like?
We are kinky, not criminal.
Please, “Just say NO!” to harassing kinky folk.
You know, it’s not even our choice to be kinky. We were born this way!