Who Won the MLB All-Star Game?

my vote's for Bettie Page

The MLB baseball game was played a few nights ago.  I missed it.

I’ve been a huge baseball fan my whole life.  Still, I missed the MidSummer Classic this year.

I played a lot of baseball when I was young.  I was pretty good too.

Got to be part of a tryout for a Cincinnati Reds scout when I was 15.  Well, me and 20 other boys.

Still, it was one of the most exciting days of my youth.  Back before I truly discovered the joys of the bedroom.

I could make excuses about the game … In all honesty, I just forgot.  Perhaps I’m getting old? Yes, I suppose I am.

It may be July 14th on the calendar, but I’m still celebrating the 13th.  “Today” was my birthday.

I’ve got everything I might want.  Have been blessed with experience.

I’ve lived my life without many of the compromises other men make.  Perhaps I’ve made a few of my own that other’s didn’t.

That’s the cost of being individualistic.  It’s a price I’ll gladly pay.

And that’s my gift to you, dear reader.  Some birthday advice.

Endeavor to live your life without regrets.  Don’t be afraid to truly march to the beat of your own drum.  The things (and people) who stand between you and being authentic are likely not the most important things.  If they are, perhaps it’s time to re-examine your path.

And don’t forget to vote for Bettie Page on next year’s all-star ballot.

Happy Independence Day – Please Be Safe and Sane

holiday or not - always keep it consensual

It’s the 4th of July, which equates to Independence Day here in the USA.

The 1st of July was Canada Day. That’s a similar celebration without an armed revolution to motivate the festivities.

Fireworks are stunning displays.  Parades can be great fun.  Backyard barbecues are my favorite way to entertain, not just on holidays.

But, my thinking today is less about the holiday itself, and more about the tradition of telling folks to have a “safe and sane” 4th of July.  Yes, the BDSM community motto has been taken over by the holiday safety police.  Or perhaps, it’s vice versa.

My own memory seems to indicate that wishing folks a safe and sane 4th of July predated our community’s adaptation of the safe and sane motto.  But, I’m also aware of the frailties of human memory.  It’s easy to convince ourselves something happened a certain way, especially when it’s convenient for our own psyche and worldview.

On the topic of safe and sane, I personally believe that Safe, Sane and Consensual (SSC) is just as good a motto as Risk Aware Consensual Kink (RACK).  I tend to say I go by the latter, but it’s really a case of macht nichts, a German expression my Dad taught me that translates to mean – it doesn’t really matter.  One’s as good as the next.

Sanity and safety are both relative things.  So is responsibility.

Personally, I find fire play, knife play, suspension, and other edge play activities to be quite sane.  I’ve studied and practiced, those are techniques I am quite comfortable using.

But, you wouldn’t find me becoming a snake handler.

Snakes bite.  Some of them include poison as a part of that bargain. To me, handling snakes is neither safe, nor is it really a sane activity.  At least not to my way of thinking.

Obviously, though, your mileage may vary.

Awareness is a relative thing too. What I consider to be informed and aware may, or may not, meet your personal standards.  Your standards may not meet mine.  Who’s to say?

The one word in both definitions that should be without room for interpretation is consent.

Sadly, the human condition is full of frailties and greed.  Even a concept like consent is full of attempted interpretations designed to justify what is really nothing more than thinly disguised rape.  Like I said before, it’s easy for some to convince themselves that events happened a certain way, especially when it’s convenient for their psyche and worldview.

It’s rare to met a submissive woman in our community who’s consent has not be violated.  It’s a tragedy that stories of consent violations are rife within our community.

So please, have a safe and sane 4th of July.

And always remember – Consent Matters!

NOTE – A version of this post was originally from a previous date, July 4, 2014, on a version of MichaelSamadhi.com that no longer exists.  It’s been edited and amended for 2017.  The material may be rewritten, but the message is just as valid today as it was 3 years ago when the original was posted.


June is Pride Month

Celebrate with Pride!

June is Pride month!

It’s a time for celebration, education, and fellowship in the LGBT community . . .

It’s time to remember.   A time of remembrance for those lost to hate crimes and to HIV/AIDS.  A time to recognize the accomplishments of LGBT individuals from history, as well as the present.

And, it’s a time for parades!

Believe it or not, the Library of Congress provides one of the best succinct descriptions I’ve found of the history and meaning behind LGBT Pride Month.

Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender Pride Month (LGBT Pride Month) is currently celebrated each year in the month of June to honor the 1969 Stonewall riots in Manhattan. The Stonewall riots were a tipping point for the Gay Liberation Movement in the United States. In the United States the last Sunday in June was initially celebrated as “Gay Pride Day,” but the actual day was flexible. In major cities across the nation the “day” soon grew to encompass a month-long series of events. Today, celebrations include pride parades, picnics, parties, workshops, symposia and concerts, and LGBT Pride Month events attract millions of participants around the world. Memorials are held during this month for those members of the community who have been lost to hate crimes or HIV/AIDS. The purpose of the commemorative month is to recognize the impact that lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender individuals have had on history locally, nationally, and internationally.


In 1994, a coalition of education-based organizations in the United States designated October as LGBT History Month. In 1995, a resolution passed by the General Assembly of the National Education Association included LGBT History Month within a list of commemorative months.


LGBT History Month is also celebrated with annual month-long observances of lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender history, along with the history of the gay rights and related civil rights movements. National Coming Out Day (October 11), as well as the first “March on Washington” in 1979, are commemorated in the LGBT community during LGBT History Month.

So, today’s post comes on the traditional “Gay Pride Day”, the final Sunday in the month of June.

Pride Month is celebrated here in the Samadhi household as an important part of both our heritage and identity.

The history of the modern Leather and BDSM communities in North America begins with a generation of post-WorldWar, leather clad, hard riding, hard playing, and (presumably) hard fucking gay bikers.  These are the only folks who can accurately be called “Old Guard.”

This time in history was immortalized most famously by the movie The Wild One starring Marlon Brando.  Considered to be the original outlaw biker film, The Wild One offered a glimpse of some aspects of the biker subculture that bred modern Leather.

I also consider myself to be pansexual. In case you are not familiar with the term pansexual, a simple definition reads; not limited in sexual choice with regard to biological sex, gender, or gender identity. To my way of thinking pansexual is a more inclusive term than bisexual, but it has a similar meaning.

Pansexuality is an important part of my sexual identity. Perhaps it’s not as essential to my core identity as being a Master/Owner in the BDSM lifestyle, but it is still a critical portion.

Michael’s Annotated References

Symbols by ALGBTICAL – Listing of the various symbols adopted by the LGBT community to express pride and activism. By the Association for Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender Issues in Counseling of Alabama (ALGBTICAL).

About LGBT Pride Month – A Library of Congress resource. I took an extensive quote from the site, it’s practically the whole page.  So, I should warn you that if you read my post, it’s really only worth visiting the Library of Congress page to follow the links. Perhaps my quote was more than typical “Fair Use” might prudently allow, but being a Library of Congress resource, it’s real owner is We the People.

It’s International No Panties Day

celebrate today with style

Today is International No Panties Day.


I couldn’t make this stuff up!

Consider, if you will, that No Panties Day has a Facebook event page.  

It must be real!

Yes, I know some might consider it to be a crass and sexist “holiday”.

To a great extent, I’d agree with them.

But really, who am I to argue with an internationally celebrated event?

Especially one that brings such great joy to so many!

Anyway, I’m not the kind of person who waits for holidays to celebrate.

I”ve never waited for birthdays or other holidays to give presents. I’ve never needed Thanksgiving as a reminder to give thanks.

Our life on this mortal coil is just a brief ephemeral blink in time.

If we wait to express joy, share fellowship, or give thanks, the day we’ve waited for may never arrive.

So, using that philosophy, throwing caution (among other things) to the wind, I say let’s celebrate everyday!

I hereby decree that every day will be “No Panties Day” here at Samadhi Haus!

Michael’s Annotated References

Women as Commodities? | by Beverly Lopez — “First, it was “No Panty Day”. Then, it’s “No Bra Day”. Now I see circulating photos of “Naked Women Day” . . . Don’t you feel offended that women are easily discarded to fake “holidays” to what?” – I wanted to start my annotated references with this link, as my way of acknowledging that some folks are offended by fake holidays of this sort.

I’m not.  Neither is my nesting partner (and whether or not she’s my lifestyle submissive, her opinion does matter.)  I can be irreverent, my sense of humor is twisted. I openly admit who I am, and make no apologies. I just hope no one has told Beverly about “Steak and Blowjob Day” . . .

June 22nd Is ‘No Panty Day’ – If KLAQ 95.5 FM “El Paso’s Best Rock” says it’s news, it must be!

June 22 is ‘No Panty Day’? –  ABS-CBNnews.com MANILA, Philippines – “Don’t remove your underwear just yet, ladies.”

No Panties Day – June 22nd – “Official” Facebook page for No Panties Day.

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