Who Won the MLB All-Star Game?

my vote's for Bettie Page

The MLB baseball game was played a few nights ago.  I missed it.

I’ve been a huge baseball fan my whole life.  Still, I missed the MidSummer Classic this year.

I played a lot of baseball when I was young.  I was pretty good too.

Got to be part of a tryout for a Cincinnati Reds scout when I was 15.  Well, me and 20 other boys.

Still, it was one of the most exciting days of my youth.  Back before I truly discovered the joys of the bedroom.

I could make excuses about the game … In all honesty, I just forgot.  Perhaps I’m getting old? Yes, I suppose I am.

It may be July 14th on the calendar, but I’m still celebrating the 13th.  “Today” was my birthday.

I’ve got everything I might want.  Have been blessed with experience.

I’ve lived my life without many of the compromises other men make.  Perhaps I’ve made a few of my own that other’s didn’t.

That’s the cost of being individualistic.  It’s a price I’ll gladly pay.

And that’s my gift to you, dear reader.  Some birthday advice.

Endeavor to live your life without regrets.  Don’t be afraid to truly march to the beat of your own drum.  The things (and people) who stand between you and being authentic are likely not the most important things.  If they are, perhaps it’s time to re-examine your path.

And don’t forget to vote for Bettie Page on next year’s all-star ballot.

Happy Independence Day – Please Be Safe and Sane

holiday or not - always keep it consensual

It’s the 4th of July, which equates to Independence Day here in the USA.

The 1st of July was Canada Day. That’s a similar celebration without an armed revolution to motivate the festivities.

Fireworks are stunning displays.  Parades can be great fun.  Backyard barbecues are my favorite way to entertain, not just on holidays.

But, my thinking today is less about the holiday itself, and more about the tradition of telling folks to have a “safe and sane” 4th of July.  Yes, the BDSM community motto has been taken over by the holiday safety police.  Or perhaps, it’s vice versa.

My own memory seems to indicate that wishing folks a safe and sane 4th of July predated our community’s adaptation of the safe and sane motto.  But, I’m also aware of the frailties of human memory.  It’s easy to convince ourselves something happened a certain way, especially when it’s convenient for our own psyche and worldview.

On the topic of safe and sane, I personally believe that Safe, Sane and Consensual (SSC) is just as good a motto as Risk Aware Consensual Kink (RACK).  I tend to say I go by the latter, but it’s really a case of macht nichts, a German expression my Dad taught me that translates to mean – it doesn’t really matter.  One’s as good as the next.

Sanity and safety are both relative things.  So is responsibility.

Personally, I find fire play, knife play, suspension, and other edge play activities to be quite sane.  I’ve studied and practiced, those are techniques I am quite comfortable using.

But, you wouldn’t find me becoming a snake handler.

Snakes bite.  Some of them include poison as a part of that bargain. To me, handling snakes is neither safe, nor is it really a sane activity.  At least not to my way of thinking.

Obviously, though, your mileage may vary.

Awareness is a relative thing too. What I consider to be informed and aware may, or may not, meet your personal standards.  Your standards may not meet mine.  Who’s to say?

The one word in both definitions that should be without room for interpretation is consent.

Sadly, the human condition is full of frailties and greed.  Even a concept like consent is full of attempted interpretations designed to justify what is really nothing more than thinly disguised rape.  Like I said before, it’s easy for some to convince themselves that events happened a certain way, especially when it’s convenient for their psyche and worldview.

It’s rare to met a submissive woman in our community who’s consent has not be violated.  It’s a tragedy that stories of consent violations are rife within our community.

So please, have a safe and sane 4th of July.

And always remember – Consent Matters!

NOTE – A version of this post was originally from a previous date, July 4, 2014, on a version of MichaelSamadhi.com that no longer exists.  It’s been edited and amended for 2017.  The material may be rewritten, but the message is just as valid today as it was 3 years ago when the original was posted.


June is Pride Month

Celebrate with Pride!

June is Pride month!

It’s a time for celebration, education, and fellowship in the LGBT community . . .

It’s time to remember.   A time of remembrance for those lost to hate crimes and to HIV/AIDS.  A time to recognize the accomplishments of LGBT individuals from history, as well as the present.

And, it’s a time for parades!

Believe it or not, the Library of Congress provides one of the best succinct descriptions I’ve found of the history and meaning behind LGBT Pride Month.

Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender Pride Month (LGBT Pride Month) is currently celebrated each year in the month of June to honor the 1969 Stonewall riots in Manhattan. The Stonewall riots were a tipping point for the Gay Liberation Movement in the United States. In the United States the last Sunday in June was initially celebrated as “Gay Pride Day,” but the actual day was flexible. In major cities across the nation the “day” soon grew to encompass a month-long series of events. Today, celebrations include pride parades, picnics, parties, workshops, symposia and concerts, and LGBT Pride Month events attract millions of participants around the world. Memorials are held during this month for those members of the community who have been lost to hate crimes or HIV/AIDS. The purpose of the commemorative month is to recognize the impact that lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender individuals have had on history locally, nationally, and internationally.


In 1994, a coalition of education-based organizations in the United States designated October as LGBT History Month. In 1995, a resolution passed by the General Assembly of the National Education Association included LGBT History Month within a list of commemorative months.


LGBT History Month is also celebrated with annual month-long observances of lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender history, along with the history of the gay rights and related civil rights movements. National Coming Out Day (October 11), as well as the first “March on Washington” in 1979, are commemorated in the LGBT community during LGBT History Month.

So, today’s post comes on the traditional “Gay Pride Day”, the final Sunday in the month of June.

Pride Month is celebrated here in the Samadhi household as an important part of both our heritage and identity.

The history of the modern Leather and BDSM communities in North America begins with a generation of post-WorldWar, leather clad, hard riding, hard playing, and (presumably) hard fucking gay bikers.  These are the only folks who can accurately be called “Old Guard.”

This time in history was immortalized most famously by the movie The Wild One starring Marlon Brando.  Considered to be the original outlaw biker film, The Wild One offered a glimpse of some aspects of the biker subculture that bred modern Leather.

I also consider myself to be pansexual. In case you are not familiar with the term pansexual, a simple definition reads; not limited in sexual choice with regard to biological sex, gender, or gender identity. To my way of thinking pansexual is a more inclusive term than bisexual, but it has a similar meaning.

Pansexuality is an important part of my sexual identity. Perhaps it’s not as essential to my core identity as being a Master/Owner in the BDSM lifestyle, but it is still a critical portion.

Michael’s Annotated References

Symbols by ALGBTICAL – Listing of the various symbols adopted by the LGBT community to express pride and activism. By the Association for Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender Issues in Counseling of Alabama (ALGBTICAL).

About LGBT Pride Month – A Library of Congress resource. I took an extensive quote from the site, it’s practically the whole page.  So, I should warn you that if you read my post, it’s really only worth visiting the Library of Congress page to follow the links. Perhaps my quote was more than typical “Fair Use” might prudently allow, but being a Library of Congress resource, it’s real owner is We the People.

It’s International No Panties Day

celebrate today with style

Today is International No Panties Day.


I couldn’t make this stuff up!

Consider, if you will, that No Panties Day has a Facebook event page.  

It must be real!

Yes, I know some might consider it to be a crass and sexist “holiday”.

To a great extent, I’d agree with them.

But really, who am I to argue with an internationally celebrated event?

Especially one that brings such great joy to so many!

Anyway, I’m not the kind of person who waits for holidays to celebrate.

I”ve never waited for birthdays or other holidays to give presents. I’ve never needed Thanksgiving as a reminder to give thanks.

Our life on this mortal coil is just a brief ephemeral blink in time.

If we wait to express joy, share fellowship, or give thanks, the day we’ve waited for may never arrive.

So, using that philosophy, throwing caution (among other things) to the wind, I say let’s celebrate everyday!

I hereby decree that every day will be “No Panties Day” here at Samadhi Haus!

Michael’s Annotated References

Women as Commodities? | by Beverly Lopez — “First, it was “No Panty Day”. Then, it’s “No Bra Day”. Now I see circulating photos of “Naked Women Day” . . . Don’t you feel offended that women are easily discarded to fake “holidays” to what?” – I wanted to start my annotated references with this link, as my way of acknowledging that some folks are offended by fake holidays of this sort.

I’m not.  Neither is my nesting partner (and whether or not she’s my lifestyle submissive, her opinion does matter.)  I can be irreverent, my sense of humor is twisted. I openly admit who I am, and make no apologies. I just hope no one has told Beverly about “Steak and Blowjob Day” . . .

June 22nd Is ‘No Panty Day’ – If KLAQ 95.5 FM “El Paso’s Best Rock” says it’s news, it must be!

June 22 is ‘No Panty Day’? –  ABS-CBNnews.com MANILA, Philippines – “Don’t remove your underwear just yet, ladies.”
No Panties Day – June 22nd – “Official” Facebook page for No Panties Day.


Where We Come From @ MAsT: Davenport’s May Meeting

Where We Come From @ MAsT: Davenport’s May Meeting

Where We Come From @ MAsT: Davenport’s May Meeting

a discussion on “old guard” traditions and history of the leather community

08aae1b0-e50b-4fa7-a885-d9e8d3fa32dcIf you’ve ever hear the word “Old Guard” – this is what the word refers to – the individuals who are the original ancestors of the North American leather community.  That’s the topic of the MAsT: Davenport’s May 6th discussion – “old guard” traditions and the history of the North American leather community.  

How did it all get started?

What are the real roots of the leather and M/s community in North America?

Where did our community come from?

Is talk of an old guard” just the endless repeating of an urban myth?

Are there really “Old Guard traditions”, or is this a myth too?

Do the so-called “Old Guard traditions” still have meaning in the modern BDSM community?

What was the community like before the Internet?

Are books like “50 Shades of Grey” doing a disservice to the long history and traditions of our community?

Is the influx of new people into our community, inspired by books like “50 Shades of Grey” a danger to “Old Guard” traditions?

Has our community evolved to the point where “Old Guard” perspectives and values are meaningless?

I’m an amateur historian, and this is a topic that resonates for me, not to mention a topic I’ve researched extensively.  Having been involved in BDSM since the 1980’s, I’ll bring my own “middle guard” perspective to the discussion.

Regardless of whether you have 30 years (or more) of experience, or are totally new to the scene and just want to learn, you are welcome to come and share MAsT; Davenport’s May discussion on the History of the BDSM community, and the “Old Guard” . . .








Kinky Kollege Spring Break 2014 – Event Report

Kinky Kollege Spring Break 2014 – Event Report

This post has been lost among my drafts for some time now . . .

Waiting . . . just waiting . . .
The fiasco that was my experience for Kinky Kollege Spring Break 2014 has already been documented – Hidden Problems, the story I’d not usually tell.  Of course, my issues were no fault of the organizers of the event, my Kinky Kollege experience was impacted  by allergy problems caused by our room.
So, rather than the report I’d planned, detailing and reviewing the classes we attended, this post is really nothing more than a listing of the classes that were available at Kinky Kollege Spring Break 2014 as well as the event schedule, documented here for posterity.

EVENT SCHEDULE – Kinky Kollege Spring Break 2014




VENDORS MARKET 2 pm to 6:30 pm 9 am to 6:30 pm 9:30 am to 2:30 pm
PROFESSIONAL PHOTOGRAPHER 2 pm to Midnight 10 am to Midnight 9:30 am to 2:30 pm
BDSM FILMS (XXX THEATER) 2 pm to 2 am 9:30 am to 2 am 9:30 am to 2:30 pm
EXHIBITS 2 pm to 12:00 am 9:30 am to 12 am 9:30 am to 2:30 pm
LEATHER ROAD 6:00 pm 6:00 pm
SILENT AUCTION 1 pm to 12:00 am 9:30 am to 12 am
AUCTION PICKUP 12 am to 1 am 9:30 am to 11 am
CLASSES 4 pm to 5:15pm 9 am to 10:15 am
10:30 am to 11:45 am
12 pm to 1:15 pm
3 pm to 4:45 pm
10 am to 11:15 am
11:30 am to 12:45 pm
1 pm to 2:15 pm
TAPAS 3 pm to 5:30 pm
“Oh No!” Variety Show
PLAY PARTY 9 pm to 2 am 9 pm to 2 am

CLASS LISTING – Kinky Kollege Spring Break 2014


Big_Bad_JimJim is a Poly Leather Top that prides himself on giving back to the community. Having been an active member of the Edmonton community since 2000; Jim has always been there to lend a hand whenever needed.
Jim is the type of person that when he sees a need for something, he makes it happen. He is one of the founding members of COPE; an Edmonton group that puts together a monthly play party and educational events. Jim created and produced Primal Pain; an outdoor weekend spiritual retreat, Jim saw the need for an event that brought people together for something more than just kink. Jim was also the Chair of Lupercalia for several years.
Jim identifies as a sadist. Like any sadist he derives pleasure from inflicting pain. Whether he is using “Boris” his trusty sidekick, or as the painfully talented “Dixie Normous”. With a black hankie in his back left pocket there is no question he loves what he does.
Jim has always had a passion for sharing his knowledge and wisdom with those in and out of the lifestyle. Others have commented on his classes as “fun” as well as “intense” learning experiences. Jim has spoken at the University of Alberta sharing our lifestyle with their students. Jim has presented workshops at Southwest Leather Conference, Beat Me in St. Louis, Portland Kinkfest, Leather Reign, Spanksgiving, Mr. Leatherman Toronto, Madtown Kinkfest, Twisted in Tulsa, Folsom Fringe, Winter Wickedness, Sagacity, Kinky Karnival, Beyond Closed Doors, Westcoast Bound,, and twice Jim has been named the People’s Favorite Presenter at Northern Exposure in Anchorage, Alaska


So many bottoms yell out red at the mere mention of canes. I know one sub that claims an allergy to wood. Canes can produce a wide variety of sensations depending on size, material and how they are used. In this class Jim will bring his collection of canes, crops and sticks and welcomes you to do the same. You will learn not only the care and use of canes but also how to prepare the bottom for a caning scene. Hopefully by the end of this workshop we will turn some reds into greens.


So you’ve learned how to punch and kick. In martial arts and other combative sports the purpose is to make your opponent believe that an injury in inevitable. In the dungeon we want to hurt, not harm our partner. Takedowns, Resisting, Rape Fantasies, Wrestling, and good old fashion body on body beatings can all happen without the need for a toy bag. It is important to prepare yourself for each scene. In this workshop Jim will show you how to have a very powerful, bonding scene. Starting with preparation straight thru to the very important aftercare you will learn how to keep them coming back for more.


What is this Leather lifestyle I keep googling? Is it some secret society? Is it that pompous ass that goes on and on about how everyone else is beneath him? Or maybe it’s the kinky gays? Our world is changing in the 21st century and Leather/BDSM/Kink is changing with it. In our time together I want to dispell some of the myths about the Leather lifestyle, discuss the differences between kinky and Leather and talk about your experiences and mine.


dan_dawn_300Alternative Lifestyle and Alternative Spirituality Presenters – Dan and dawn, a lifestyle couple of many years – as well as authors, educators and co-producers of two annual events, The Power eXchange Summit & Beyond The Love: Polyamory Summit – bring their diverse backgrounds and experiences to each presentation and workshop they lead. With their blend of training and experience in Sacred Sexuality, BDSM, M/s & energy work, they offer a unique perspective to their audience. Although they have presented hundreds of workshops at dozens and dozens of events over the past 10 years, they continue to bring great enthusiasm and energy to each presentation.
They are the authors of Living M/s: A book for Masters and slaves and their relationships and Sex, Stories, and Power Exchange, as well as the creators of the widly popular Kink Starter cards!
They are also the co-hosts of the Erotic Awakening internet radio show, an educational podcast that explores “all things erotic”; Great Lakes region Master & slave title holders (2010); creators of the Scarlet Sanctuary and Path of the Qadishti (sacred sexuality spaces); featured educators on both Kink Academy and Creative Sexuality; and mentioned in a number of books, articles, and other media.


Love has everything – or is it nothing? – to do with it

Dan and dawn, Great Lakes region Master & slave (2010), leaders of the House Metta power exchange tribe, and authors of the book Living M/s – A book for Masters, slaves, and Their Relationships, as well as a happily married couple of a decade – lead a workshop on love and M/s. Loving M/s is a style of Master/slave relationship that can bring a number of powerful emotions to the table that can appear to conflict with the power exchange. They give examples on how to navigate through jealousy, a desire to please, fears of co-dependence, and other powerful emotions so that the primary foundation of the relationship continues to be a healthy M/s one – and that foundation in turn feeds emotional solidity.


The most powerful tool of any slave (or Master)

Dan and dawn, Great Lakes region Master & slave (2010), leaders of the House Metta power exchange tribe and authors of the book Living M/s – A book for Masters, slaves, and Their Relationships, lead a workshop on the most powerful and sought after aspect of a slaves service. It isn’t how good you can clean, or how hot you look or how well you suck cock. Instead, it is the mindfulness that needs to be developed that allow you to flow seamlessly as a slave in and around your Master’s needs, while at the same time finding an authentic slave heart. And…it is worth noting that the methods taught in this workshop will assist you in becoming a better cleaner, be more attractive, and give better head.


Becoming a Master is more than just a title

Join Dan and dawn, an M/s couple for the past 10+ years and authors of the book Living M/s – A book for Masters, slaves, and Their Relationships, for an advanced class on the foundation and advanced aspects of what it takes to be a Master (or Mistress) in a full time 24/7 relationship. This class addresses decision making, self-confidence, ego, identifying strengths, becoming vulnerable to your weaknesses, and assisting a slave into transforming into someone completely living up to their full potential. Create in yourself that kind of person who belongs in the seat of power.


Eid_Photo_smallEid is a hot-wax/heat sensation and rough/tumble player. Originally from Great Britain, Eid now lives in Milwaukee and practices around the mid-west. His fondness for temperature play manifests in various forms: Hot Wax, Fire play, Branding and cell-popping, cigar ash, ice, ect…

While often on the receiving end of these sensations, Eid concurrently tops and teaches these skills to others with his lady Ms_J. He loves to work with all types, from large regional events or local munches, to private one-on-one. Sensational fun is Eid’s style of play.


Eid brings a bottom’s perspective (or his “ass-ended view”) to this Wax skills class: meaning focus is paid to the sensation received rather than any showmanship.

This class flows rapidly through all the nuances of heat sensations from hot wax, paying particular focus to various styles and techniques employed for those goals.

Wax play can be akin to warm relaxing therapy that soothes, but also quickly heated up for stinging endorphin rushes. Wax can be caring or sadistic, part or all of a scene, and always fun.

Designed as a class to get you started waxing, Eid will present different approaches based upon your desired goals as giver or receiver. Are you going for aesthetic colors and shapes, or are tingling sensations the most important? We explore various methods of accomplishing either a warm relaxing glow, or an escalating ladder towards endorphin giggles. We deal with issues of layering, pooling, temperature controls, and the debate about color and scent usage. Learn the techniques and practicalities from the candle to the crock-pot of molten sweltering Wax!


LeonLeon MonkeyFetish is an international presenter, performer and artist. He started his public kink life in the Chicago kink community at one of the munches and quickly progressed to being president of the local TNG chapter. He first presented rope at a local BDSM club in 2002 and has presented on rope, rough body play, D/s dynamics and other kink topics in the years since.

He currently travels the North American continent teaching and performing rope throughout the year. He’s happy to share with anyone willing to listen to his particular brand of deviance and to spend as much time as necessary working on those who don’t.

He serves as Secretary of the Leather Archives & Museum and encourages you to ask about the organization and spend time perusing their website in your free time.

You find out more about Leon, his classes, performances and artwork at http://www.monkeyfetish.com


The BDSM world is filled with fetishes. Stockings, High-Heels, Fishnets, Corsets, Latex…Need we go on? There is a fine art to fetish; an art that involves everything from fit to finish. In an era where we live with mass produced items bought over the internet with no ability to test before we get our items, it is a hit and miss (mostly miss) proposition to truly fulfill your fetishes. This class will cover what makes a fetish, how to feed your fetish, and some of the finer points of the above-mentioned fetishes, which Leon holds quite dear to his heart.


Kicking, punching, slapping and tossing your partner around like a rag doll can be great fun. The physicality of the experience can be a great release for both parties as the whole body is involved in a play that can range from passive for the bottom to a knock down drag out fight. This class will cover basic safety as well as be interactive. Audience participation is encouraged but not required.


Breathplay is hot and sexy. Rope is hot and sexy and, as much as we advise the newbies “no rope around the neck”, we still do it because it is amazingly hot. This will be an intermediate hands-on class that will teach safe rope breathplay techniques.


Bill_Pic3Bill has been an active participant in the Los Angeles, San Francisco and Chicago BDSM communities for over ten years, regularly attending kink and play events globally, including Kinky Kollege. His passion for tactile play surfaced at the start of his BDSM journey and he has presented this workshop for various clubs nationally. DMs often spend considerable time circling his scenes, eagerly watching and taking notes.

Tactile Torture Workshop

You are bound, gagged, blindfolded, immobilized. You are eager, excited, afraid, dripping.
Will it be scratchy, soft, prickly, penetrating, hot, rough? Yes!!! And you will come. But not for a long, long time. You are frustrated. You want more.

Tactile play creates a heightened sense of anticipation and sensory pleasure using common household items. We’ll explore how to use our skin, our largest organ, as an extension of erotic expression. Bring your warped mind and come see for yourself what pleasures lie around your house, just collecting dust. You’ll never see your kitchen utility drawer the same way again.


ken_sunny_smallKen Melvoin-Berg is a Chicago based author, writer, adult sexuality and BDSM educator. He has lectured about sex, relationships, and kink for over a decade all around the World. Ken has been featured in Sunny Megatron, Huffington Post, AVN Magazine, The Good Men project, Kinkly, Playboy as well as numerous podcasts and blogs. He also writes for Stockroom, Stormy Leather, Syren Latex, Sex and Metal, Daedalus Publishing, and White Chapel Press.

He lectures alone and with his beautiful better half, Sunny Megatron and is her co-host for “Outside the Box”. His largest claim to fame (shame?) was the infamous Fucksaw event at Northwestern University. Ken is the owner and chief Weirdo of Weird Chicago Tours.

Sunny Megatron is sex and BDSM educator, blogger, and pleasure advocate. She teaches sexuality, relationship, and kink workshops across the U.S. with her partner and fiancé, Ken Melvoin-Berg.

Sunny has been featured in Huffington Post, AVN Magazine, XBIZ, as well as numerous sexuality blogs. Her most current project is host of the sexual health and wellness web series “Outside the Box” on the Inside Adult Network.


Sunny and Ken present a lecture on BDSM theory and inverse power exchanges. It offers insight into consent, safewords, and the core elements of how we define ourselves, no matter what our role is. The essence of being a Service Top or topping from the bottom, and why these sometimes frown upon roles aren’t necessary a bad thing, is the main focus here.


Join Sunny and Ken for a memorable afternoon of fun and fellatio! Unlike other blowjob classes, this one is taught from both a giver and receiver’s perspective. We’ll go over anatomy, technique, safer sex tools, the etiquette of swallowing vs. spitting plus extras like incorporating the act into your scenes. We’ll also talk about what goes through your head while giving or getting head: get tips on how to get into the right headspace (<– not so accidental pun), how to give a confident blow job, how to battle a sore jaw, how to compensate for a small mouth, how to figure out what your partner likes best, gagging and a lot more.


These pipes are clean! Ken and Sunny guide you through the act of prostate massage for fun and good health. Although this class is for everyone, we’ll focus on men with concerns about anal play. Of course we will address anatomy, biological processes, relaxation, arousal, and ejaculation. If you have a prostate, this act will not only double your orgasms, it can also reduce your rate of prostate cancer.


FemCarShe is a multipartenered bisexual beast/toy/slave. She has been married to Phantom for almost 25 years.  She also was very blessed to be partnered with Jeff Gord of HouseofGord.com for 10 years.  She was underneath his desk at his passing, exactly where she was destined to be from the moment they met.  She is now venturing out and telling his story/their story because that was one of his last wishes, that he live on and be remembered through her and through others.

She loves to wallow fully in the experiences life brings to her … the joys and the horrors… the pleasures as well as the suffering.  She feels, in fact, that the universe is her spirit’s playground … and that there are magic and miracles every where if you only allow yourself to see them and, of course, if you are willing to take the risks in creating them.

Her center in D/s revolves around ego exposure and ego bashing and being USED.  Always using the tool of objectification to get there. She is not a physical masochist but instead a self proclaimed emotional masochist … a term that she has defined and redefined for herself and others over the years… because, of course, as soon as you believe that you know yourself the universe tips a little and makes you embrace another aspect…Again and again and again. She is at peace most when wallowing in the mire, compelled often to endure experiences that she genuinely fears and dislikes. Or, to quote FemCar, “The more I dread it, the more I NEED it, and the more I know it is what I eventually have to do.”  She has been in the lifestyle for 20 years and has been smashing the boundaries of acceptable and politically correct forms of play ever since she crawled in. She began to educate about degradation play about 16 years ago … because people were alarmed at her need without understanding the why behind it. Now it is a rather common form of play but only because she and others like her wouldn’t let others stop her…and she STILL won’t.

She is an advocate for growth and enlightenment, sometimes in the form of controversy, sometimes in the form of activism; but always with an undercurrent of spirituality. Good thing for her that her spiritual path absolutely is through her CUNT. So don’t be too surprised if you see her touching herself at any given moment. She is out to change the world…one cock one cunt at a time and SOMETIMES she is really lucky and can grab MORE than one at a time, and it is in this type of experience that she truly revels. You can voyeur her on twitter and fetlife under femcar if you want to watch the train wreck as it happens.


The most amazing transcendental experiences are when you open up SO wide that reality steps into your “play”.

Oh I have stories, and pictures, and videos.. and the LAST machine he finished, custom made just for me. This is a story of destiny, magic, and miracles and absolutely that ANYTHING is possible. This is the first time I am telling this story like this since he passed so I will probably be very emotional. This is when the real sadist come out I reckon.

He told me he wanted his work to live on so I am doing that as best as I can with telling his and our story, sharing his art, and also keeping the light of his baby houseofgord.com shining as bright as we can, although impossible to his degree. He always said there is an R in Gord. Not anymore.


This will be a discussion on different levels of public play. Certainly not everybody agrees on what is appropriate and not appropriate in certain situations. Lets discuss what your experiences and opinions are and also share tips on keeping safe and hopefully not getting arrested. Well unless ya wanna…but pssst…I don’t think its very fun.


Ya put your hand inside a cunt and ya have an IMMEDIATE puppet to play with! Lets discuss procedure, safety… but more importantly lets do some fisting! Definitely the easiest way to learn is by HANDS-IN! I can’t promise I will take everybody on… but I will SCREAM trying!


Lochai_rope1Lochai has been a student of Japanese inspired rope bondage since a very early age. He has been educating the rope bondage minded across the country for the past 15 years. He is the director of the only international munch, Rope Bite & runs Bondage Club Baltimore. He can be found on occasion binding beauties and creating living art at local fetish events as well as major exhibitions across the country. “I use the body as a canvas & rope as the medium in creating my art” It’s no surprise that in August of 2008, he was picked by kink.com to spearhead their flagship site, hogtied.com and to create EverythingButt.com.

His lifestyle experiences extend to many aspects of the bdsm world including but not limited to age play, pony/puppy play, corporal, humiliation and impact play. He has given talks on many topics that included both hands on classes as well as photography slide shows & demos. A full listing of his desires can be found @ http://lochaistine.com.

Lochai is also an award winning photographer who’s work appears on gallery walls as well in fine art publications & coffee table books. He “shoots for the walls & not the computer screen”. Overall Photography winner with his iconic image “Beach Bound” of Erotic Signature’s “The Worlds Greatest Erotic Art of Today”. Presently he has his work on permanent display at the Leather Archive & Museum in Chicago & World Erotic Art Museum in Miami, for sale in brick & mortar galleries from Key West Florida to Cyber fine art galleries based out of London as well on many private collectors walls. His images, rope art & interviews have been published in The British Journal of Photography, Secret, Skin Two, Bizarre, Prometheus, Cherry, A Magazine, Fetish Anthology, Extreme Anthology, New Times and in his own fine art books. His work can also be found on numerous websites from around the world.


The power of movement, suggestion and intention in rope bondage

This is a class for all levels regardless of personal knowledge or experience. Learn how to REALLY connect with your partner through movement, suggestion and intention. Learn how to create your own “secrets” of connection by learning more about how you do your own ties. Used as a way to exercise, refine and expand your technique as well as experience rope in a new way. Many people think “self bondage” is only putting ropes on themselves, come explore doing self-bondage as a way to top without bottoming at the same time.

As a top, you gain a different perspective on hand placement, speed, rope handling and tension. Without the visual and tactile aspects of tying with rope, you need to be more aware of what your body is doing and where your hands are as you go through each aspect of a tie. As a bottom, you learn to feel the movements of your top and not just the rope being placed on your body. You open yourself up to more sensations and connections then ever thought possible.

Join us as we explore ropeless ties as a way to enhance our love of rope bondage. This is an experience not to be missed.


The name says it all… For some, tying itself is sex and for others rope is a way to keep your partner in the positions you want to use them in. Learn how to bind your partner for maximum exposure. This class is not only for the beauty of the ties but for the raw exposure for your partner’s sexual use. Learn how to bind your partner in positions that will give access & comfort for the down & dirty. We will also go over some self bondage techniques to use to surprise your “soon to be home” Top. In this class we will discuss single, double, triple & even quad appendage ties. This class is for everyone.


We have all looked at photos, presentations, performances and others around us playing and said in one way or another, “How do they do that”? “I wish I could do that”, “I’ll never tie like that”. This class is for everyone, no matter what level of skill who want to be the person others look at and say the same.
We will be looking at the standard ties, TK, chest ties, wrist/ankle ties, karada’s and the like & deconstructing them down to their basic components and foundation ties. We will also look at suspensions and partial suspensions and break them down into their basics. If we stop looking at only the end result to base our skill level & start looking at ties from all directions, we will all grow more quickly in our skills and realize that rope bondage is simple.
This class is for you if you want to learn why ties work, what they are made of & how they create a sense of comfort with a partner.


DanteProfessional bullwhip artist and internationally noted whip expert Robert Dante is a 4-time Guinness World Record holder, author of “Let’s Get Cracking! The How-To Book of Bullwhip Skills,” and producer/performer in the DVD, ” Bullwhip: Art of the Single Tail Whip.” Dante is assisted by his wife/slave/performing partner mary. He has been featured on such programs as HBO’s Real Sex, Playboy’s Night Calls, among others.


Get a strong foundation in whip basics and then use that knowledge to continue to learn and get better indefinitely into the future.


The real-world SM applications of whip skills gained in Whips 101.


Learning is collaborative as I work intensively with several people as others watch so that many can learn from the experience of one.


Miss-Isis-Photo_Sq_SmallMiss Isis has been involved in the BDSM community since early 2000. After becoming a certified hypnotist, she experienced firsthand how enjoyable erotic hypnosis can be — both as a hypnotist and as a subject. Miss Isis enjoys sharing her passion with others in the lifestyle, showing them how much fun they can have with erotic hypnosis, and how hypnosis can enhance BDSM play.

She currently leads a monthly gathering, often opening up her home to provide a safe space where people can come together to learn, ask questions, and discover how they can add the magic of erotic hypnosis to their lives.

Currently, Miss Isis is working with other hypnotists in the community to plan an “Erotic Hypnosis Unconference” in the Chicago area in the summer.


Is there something your submissive has been wanting to experience, but maybe was a little apprehensive about trying? You could “force” them, but sometimes that backfires. Forcing can sometimes cause you a whole lot more work, and the possibility of resentment. There is a better way in which your submissive’s desires to please you will be so strong, she will be begging you to experience what she was apprehensive about. This presentation will discuss using hypnosis, anchoring, and pleasure conditioning to help your submissive overcome their inhibitions. This class is open to all.


Miss-Crimson-PhotoCrimson has been a professional dominatrix and fetish provider in Chicago for fourteen years. She also teaches classes on BDSM and kink for Early to Bed in Chicago and lectures nationally on topics around sex work, S/M and feminism for private groups and universities, including Seattle University and Northeastern Illinois University. In addition to her work in the kink world, Crimson is a certified rape and domestic violence crisis counselor.


When the statistics on sexual assault are that, in America, 1 in 6 women and 1 in 33 men will be the victim of an attempted or completed sexual assault, it is likely that many members of the kink community have experience with sexual violence. This class will provide a discussion of ideas to help survivors of violence bring kink back into their lives (or start to explore kink for the first time), as well as tips for partners of survivors. This workshop is intended for those who are ready to begin venturing back into BDSM, and will contain potentially triggering conversation. It is not intended to be therapy of any kind, or replace working with a trained mental health professional.


master-sonsoNo biography provided.


Tying your partner down doesn’t have to be a prelude to a good scene; it can be the scene itself. Course covers basic safety issues, types of rope, definition of different rope bondage styles, negotiation, and several basic shibari techniques (aka, “katas”). (Introductory, Hands On)


If lovemaking is a performance, then there is much we can learn from the theatre. Apply literary and stage techniques to make better scenes. Particularly sexy to all you Aristotle fetishists. (All Levels, Hands On)


First demonstrating the Quad Coin Hip Harness, invented by Boss Mason (and taught with his permission), these principles are then applied to the chest in an exploration of stylistic harness invention. This class explores the principles of harness composition/development through a specific application, and is unsuitable for beginners. (Intermediate, Hands On)


Ms.J_Prhoto_squareMs. J is a sensual, sadistic, fireplaying, hand-turkey giving, hair pulling, biting, toppy kind of girl. Laughing and giggling in the dungeon gives her great joy.
Since 2004, friends and mentors educated her on various facets of BDSM, but Fire-Play quickly be-came her true calling. Ms. J honed her Fireplay skills over years of continuous experimentation. She first taught fire to friends; gradually moving to larger munches, and now presents classes throughout Wisconsin, northern Illinois, Chicago and Ohio.
Impassioned by all manner of flame, Ms. J is always thrilled to “burn’inate the villagers”, and to inspire her baby dragons!


Do you want to learn fireplay instead of just watching it? Ms. J will take you from fearful fire novice to enthusiastic pyromaniac safely. The intent of this class is to have you watch, learn, and try some hands-on fireplay yourself.
The class begins with an explanation of general preparation and fire safety for you, your bottom and the venue. Suggestions as to the equipment you should have in your kit. Ms. J will demonstrate how to warm up your fire bottom, by starting small and increasing the amount of flame applied. As time permits, with hands-on practice, Ms. J will show your how to start small, before you move to on to bigger fire.


This second class will include tips for bottoms to include communicating with your top, a breathing technique to process the sensation. We will then move onto use of the fire glove, playing with mousse, flash cotton and fireballs. Each of these topics will include their own safety tips. It is not a requirement to attend Basic Fire Play, but if you are new to any type of fire play, it is highly suggested, as safety tips in the second class will pertain to the specifics of each item demonstrated. As time permits, a hands-on portion will be included.


Miss-Kitty_squareMostly the doer of things, The Kitty works, lives and plays somewhere between the ridiculous and the macabre. With a day job in the medical field and a background in scouts, she is prepared and knowledgeable of how to hurt folks, while being safe and reverent about it. She lives an open polysomething lifestyle and has been in the public kink scene since 2006.

Besides sharing her kinky knowledge with the local Chicago community, The Kitty has presented throughout the Midwest at events such as MadTown KinkFest, Twisted Tryst, and PEEK. She spends her free time as a fetish model, burlesque performer, and working on her sharpshooter merit badge.


(Co-Presented with Jsin) Ever wondered about some of the more aggressive toys out there? Are you curious about making a fucksaw? Do you see a drill or angle grinder just collecting dust? Have you always felt that a chainsaw would add the perfect touch to your scenes? We agree! From your workshop to your toy bag, heavy grit sandpaper, staple guns, and a world of fun toys can be found at your local hardware store. There are risks, of course, but a little time and effort can make fun toys out of things you’ve never imagined. Safety will be strongly addressed from both the tools and the people’s point of view.


Whatever your gender or orientation, you can add a strap-on to your sex. But (or butt) with so many options how do you chose? Come and see a variety of harnesses, dildos and accessories and learn the basics on how to use them. We will discuss health and safety issues unique to this kind of play, and also include few tips and tricks to help shake off the first time jitters! There will be plenty of time for Q&A, so bring your questions.


Oh the jewels, how we love them! There are many levels of cock and ball torment, from a simple smack to an electrified sound, and I’m gonna show you them all. We don’t want to break our pretty toys, but it’s fun to get them right up to the edge where they think we might. So much fun to hit, twist, pull and pinch! Boys make amazing sounds with only a little flick of the wrist. Now let’s add some clothespins and a few weights!


Sir-WielandSir Wieland (The Craftsman) got his kinky start thru a desire to make kinky furniture. That journey started in 2007 and he has been evolving ever since.
His passion for rope may be influenced by over two decades of rock climbing and swiftwater rescue. His creativity and love of teaching, has inspired others to explore with rope.
Sir Wieland also has a love for floggers and is often seen using floggers that he has made. He enjoys helping others to learn a variety of techniques, including Florentine.
He is a sensual player whether with impact play or sliding a rope across a body.
He and his partner, cat in milw, are co-facilitators of two SWIPE (Southern WI Power Exchange) groups in Milwaukee and Madison. They are also involved in many groups in Madison, Milwaukee and around the state.
And yes, Sir Wieland is still making kinky toys and furniture

Rope made easy

This is an entertaining class for those that say they can’t tie knots and that rope takes too long. This is a hands-on class that shows how easy it can be. We will be showing you how to tie a simple cuff (boola boola), a couple arm ties, a basic chest tie, and a simple karada (body tie). With these concepts, you can be creative and develop your own ties and styles. We will talk briefly about safety, materials, and lengths and quickly get the rope in your hands. If you are unpartnered we will pair people up so everyone gets a chance to tie. If you have rope, bring 2- 20-30 ft. pieces, I will bring rope for folks to use. After learning a few ties, you will have a better idea of the lengths you may want to have.

Decorative Rope

This is a hands-on class where we take your basic ties and add some decorative twists and turns, to add more beauty. The ties we will work on include some chest tie variations, Karada variations, ankle cuff, and toe ties. Bring rope and a 20 ft. piece of paracord if you have it. We will also have rope and paracord to use.

Flogging 101

We will discuss, materials, lengths, and different styles of floggers, safety, care and cleaning of your floggers. What makes it stingy vs. thuddy. We will show how to get different feels out of the same flogger and different ways to throw a flogger. Bring your floggers and try new techniques.


Rope-Raiden_squareRope Raiden and Phoenix hail from the Midwest and are experienced in many forms of BDSM play. While into a variety of BDSM play, their passion and love is rope, rope bondage and energy. Raiden is a switch that has excelled in the rope art community. Phoenix is a female dominant who happens to love being a rope bottom as well as an accomplished rope top in her own right. Their perspectives from both the top and bottoms sides make classes fun and informative! Together since 2004, married at a national rope event in 2008, they have studied and learned from some of the best rope masters in the United States and the world. They bring their unique style of humor, humility, and personality to many different events across the US. Their teaching and performance resume includes Exotica, RMR, Deviations, Dark Nirvana, GLLA, Galleria Domain 2, Shibaricon and Kinky Kollege to name a few. They are very happy to be back in Chicago at Spring Break sharing and educating.


The hogtie is probably one of the most famous ties in the bondage world. But when is a hogtie a HOGTIE? We have been in many different hogtie classes and while we typically pick things up, we have not seen a class that covers the variety of hogties that our class does. In 90 min, we cover 10+ different variations on the hogtie, a couple specific to male bottoms. Let us share with you some of our many variations on the hogtie – Hands up, hands down, legs together, legs apart, using double column ties in a hogtie among other variations. It happens to be one of our favorite ties. The hogtie can be versatile and fun allowing for tight bondage, sadistic play, sensual touching, and it can be great for teasing and orgasm. This hands-on class will lead you though a variety of ties to achieve different positions and results depending how you want to use it.


Rope is a dance, typically a beautiful dance of two people, a wonderful energy experience. People feel energy, want to play with energy and want to experience but do not understand it. This class demystifies energy and teaches people to connect with their own energy to enhance the energy experience of a partner. This is a hands-on class so bring your rope, a blanket, and a partner if you have one. We teach you how to balance your energy and focus your energy to play with someone else. The class will discuss energy, chakras, sensual uses of rope, the energy the rope can carry, teach people to connect with their partner, and teach them how to be more intimate with each other. We discuss energy orgasms, grounding and shielding in the class as well. As a married couple with extensive energy experience, we offer a unique perspective talking from both sides of the rope, top and bottom.


This is one of our favorite suspensions and used a lot in our performances. We teach a sideways suspension then move the body to an inversion. We discuss safety, nerve compression, and harnesses for the two positions. This is one technique for going from sideways to inversion. We will cover safely tying the Takata Kote and the bowline to successfully get the bottom to the sideways suspension. We will end by playing with the bottom in the sideways position, tying the inversion harness and getting the bottom inverted and then safely back to the ground.


Marketplace @ IML2014

Marketplace @ IML2014

This entry is part 3 of 3 in the series Event Reports

Memorial Day weekend is one of my favorite holidays, mostly because of IML.

IML stands for International Mr Leather.  And, although it’s not an event my leather family would participate in, the vendors drawn to the event create the most extensive selection of BDSM products I’ve ever seen under a single roof.

Here’s the list of vendors with associated links, so even if you can’t attend in person, you can virtually peruse the various toy offerings to be found at this world class BDSM even held here in the midwest.


IML 2014 Current Vendor List

Company Name Location Website
Acme Toy Company.com Evanston, IL www.theacmetoycompany.com
Adonis Leathercrafters Indian Rocks Beach, FL www.adonisleathercrafters.com
Alt. Kilt Madison, WI www.altkilt.com
Atomic Jock Chatsworth, CA www.oxballs.com
B.Rustik Chicago, IL www.b-rustik.com
Balls and Chains Hollywood, CA www.ballsandchains.com
BearGearusa.com Indianapolis, IN www.beargearusa.com
BearTshirts.com Indianapolis, IN www.beartshirts.com
Bijou Chicago, IL www.bijouworld.com
Boot Werks Fort Lauderdale, FL www.leatherwerks.com
Bootleg Life Berwyn, IL
Boy Butter New York, NY www.boybutter.com
BURLYSHIRTS / Shane Ruff Studios Eliot, ME www.burlyshirts.com
C3 Casual Clothing Indianapolis, IN www.beargearusa.com
Cheaplubes.com Portage, IN www.cheaplubes.com
CHEZ Priape Montreal, Quebec www.CHEZPriape.com
Chicago Hellfire Club Chicago, IL www.helfire13.org
City of Chicago Department of Health Chicago, IL www.facebook.com/ChicagoPublicHealth
CJ’s Leather Denver, CO www.cjsleather.com
Classic Erotica Chatsworth, CA www.classicerotica.net
Dr. Clockwork’s Home for Electrical and Medical Oddities Lebanon, NJ www.drclockwork.com
Dungeon Beds San Francisco, CA www.dungeonbeds.com
E-7 Gear Yonkers, NY www.e7gear.com
Exotic-Erotics Shelbyville, KY www.exotic-erotics.com
Fetiche Armada Montreal, Quebec www.fetichearmada.com
Folsom Street Events San Francisco, CA www.folsomstreetevents.org
Fort Troff Atlanta, GA www.forttroff.com
Gear Essentials Minneapolis, MN www.gearessentials.com
Got Kilt White Lake, MI www.got-kilt.com
Greater Miami Convention & Visitors Bureau Miami , FL www.miamiandbeaches.com
Hands for Hire Chair Massage Niles, IL
Hardpoints@GreyCat Workshop Madison, WI www.hardpoints.greycatworkshop.com
Howard Brown Health Center Chicago, IL www.howardbrown.org
ID Lube Santa Ana, CA www.idlube.com
Industrial Disease Toys LLC Madison, WI www.idetoys.com
InsideOutShirts.net Radford, VA www.insideoutshirts.net
Jams Jewels Germantown, WI www.jamsjewels.com
Jewelry by Ponce Palm Springs, CA
Killerbob Graphics San Francisco, CA www.killerbob.com
Kinky Bitch Morristown, N.J. www.kinky-bitch.com
Kinky Spirits West Milford, N.J. www.kinky-spirits.com
KJ Canes Perryville, MD www.kjcanes.com
Le Chateau Exotique & LCE Ltd Yardley, PA www.fetishwear.com
Leather Archives & Museum Chicago, IL www.leatherarchives.org
Leather Bonding North Miami, FL www.leatherbonding.com
Leather Masters Dallas, TX www.leathermasters.com
Leather Werks Fort Lauderdale, FL www.leatherwerks.com
Lockergear Pittsburgh, PA www.lockergear.com
Lucas Entertainment New York, N.Y. www.lucasentertainment.com
Lucom USA Miami Beach, FL www.pjurusa.com
MAFIA Chicago, IL www.mafiaff.org
Male Power , www.malepower.com
Man2Man Leather Castaic, CA www.man2manleather.com
ManSkins and FMLeatherDesign New York City, N.Y. www.manskins.com
Marvelous Mayhem Snellville, CA www.marvelousmayhem.com
MISTER APP New York, NY www.misterapp.com
Mr-S-Leather San Francisco, CA www.mr-s-leather.com
Mr. Friendly Kalamazoo, MI www.MrFriendly.info
Nasty Pig New York, NY www.nastypig.com
NKPS Media San Bernardino, CA www.nastykinkpigs.com
Northbound Leather Toronto, Ontario www.northbound.com
NS Novelites Chatsworth, CA www.nsnovelties.com
NYJox North Bergen, NJ www.nyjox.com
Obscure Belts Kenosha, WI www.obscurebelts.com
Off Ramp Leathers Palm Springs, CA www.offrampleathers.com
Oxballs Chatsworth, CA www.oxballs.com
Paddlewerks Fort Lauderdale, FL www.paddlewerks.com
Pallay Craft Chicago, IL
Passional Boutique Philadelphia , PA www.passionalboutique.com
Pjur Group USA Miami Beach, FL www.pjurusa.com
Poetic Earth Leather Works Syracuse , NY www.poeticearth.com
Rainbow Rope/Kinky Medical Oceanside, NY www.rainbowrope.com
Raw Candles Madison, WI www.rawcandles.com
Rough Trade Los Angeles, CA www.roughtradegear.com
Rubio Leather New York, NY www.rubioleather.com
Ruff Rider Bayshore, NY shop.theruffrider.com
Semmerling & Schaefer Mask Studios Chicago, IL www.maskartists.com
SI Novelties Englewood, CO
Sportsheets Huntington Beach, CA www.sportsheets.com
Square Peg Portland, OR www.squarepegtoys.com
Steamworks San Francisco, CA www.steamworksbaths.com
Steve Leather New York, NY
Stompers Boots San Francisco, CA www.stompersboots.com
The Black Party New York, NY www.blackpartyexpo.com
The Kink Shop Shreveport, LA www.thekinkshop.com
The Stockroom Los Angeles, CA male.stockroom.com
Tiger Lubricant Atlanta, GA www.tigerlubricant.com
TLS RubberGear / Midnight Blues The Woodlands, TX www.tlsrubbergear.com
Toolworks Chicago Willowbrook, IL www.floggers.com
Tribal Son Fort Lauderdale, FL www.tribalson.com
Twin Cities Leather Minneapolis, MN www.twincitiesleather.com
Uncutt Leather Design Cologne, Westphalia www.uncutt.net
Utilikilts Seattle, WA www.utilikilts.com
White Worm Gary, IN www.whiteworm.me
XR Brands Huntington Beach, CA www.xrbrands.com


Kinkstock – Tonight

Kinkstock – Tonight

This entry is part 2 of 3 in the series Event Reports

It was my stated goal for 2014 for Serafina and I to attend as many kink/BDSM events as we possibly could.

It turns out that we’ll be able to attend about one event a month (not including local play parties) for the better part of the year.  March was Kinky Kollege Spring Break, and now April brings Kinkstock.

May will feature Mischief in May, June is Twisted Tryst South, July is Thunder in the Mountains, and August brings Twisted Tryst North.  I’m not sure about September’s agenda, but October is Kinky Kollege Homecoming, and November is Spanksgiving in St Louis.

So, without further ado, I’d like to introduce April’s event – Kinkstock.

Saturday, April 05, 2014 · 8:00 PM – 1:00 AM
Quad Cities
exact directions sent prior to event @ map
Cost: $10 in advance
Dress code: Street legal on the outside – whatever you want once you’re indoors
Come join us for an event created with the purpose of bringing together the kink community throughout the area for a night of debaucherous fun!

This is an invitation only event. You must be 21 or over to attend.

What to expect:
*Safe, secure location
*Fully equipped dungeon
*Complimentary snacks and refreshments

– If we already know each other, please send me your email address to be added to the RSVP list.
– If we’ve never met, please send me your email address and the name of any well established member of our community who will vouch for you.
– An invitation with a link to registration will be sent by email.
– Directions sent following registration.

New to the scene?
This is not an entry level event. If you’re new and have never been to a play party, please check out Riverbound [https://fetlife.com/groups/37788], CROP [https://fetlife.com/groups/11820], or whichever group is local to you, and attend some of their events first.

It’s the first of it’s kind for our area, so we hope it goes well!