This entry is part 6 of 15 in the series 30 Days of Kink w/ Michael
  • Day 5: What was your first kinky sexual experience? If you haven’t had one yet, talk about what you hope to have happen.

Well, no worries here about not yet having my first kinky sexual experience!  At the very least, I’ve been doing this since 1980, and it might be argued that I’ve been kinky from my very first sex experience in 1976.

The only issue here for me is trying to decide how to define “kinky”.

I lost my virginity inside a chicken coop.  Is that kinky?

I had sex there despite the fact that I’m deathly allergic to chicken feathers. Does that up the ante a little in terms of kink factor?

I was only 13 years old at the time.  Perhaps not an unusual age among today’s precocious youth, but certainly an oddity for the mid 1970’s.

Heck, it might be considered to be a form of “edge play”, as I was certainly risking my health for the sexual experience.  And for some folks, chicken coop sex might very well be a kinky activity, I mean folks can fetishize most everything, tasty birds included.  Right?

Well, that’s not me.  I suppose it could be categorized that way, but I’ve never considered that to be a kinky experience.  To fit my own criteria there needs to be some traditional elements of BDSM included.  S0, I consider the first time I tied a woman up for sex to be my first kinky sexual experience.

It was the winter of 1980.  I was dating a young lady named Elise (she didn’t make my recently posted Dramatis personæ listing) – who I’d met at the restaurant where I worked.  We’d been dating for a few months, and things were going well, we were getting ready to take things to the “next level”.  That was going to be a pretty big step for us, because Elise was a virgin.

One night when quizzing Elise about sexual fantasies, she confessed to me that she’d always wondered what it would be like to be tied up.  I immediately asked if she’d like to be tied up for sex.  Her answer was affirmative.  In fact, she said she thought it would be fun to be tied up for her first time.

Oh my dear friends and readers, it was like a dream.  I couldn’t believe what I was hearing.  Could she really mean that?  Not only could I tie her up, but we could do that for her very first time?  Wow!  Fucking mind blowing.

And I have to tell you, it was a special experience.  At the time I would have told you it was mind blowing, but it should probably be noted that the mind of a 17 year old boy isn’t exactly a difficult thing to blow.

I’ve actually written about the experience before, here in the blog’s initial Welcome! post.

I began my journey into the world of Kink back in 1980, just a few months shy of my 18th birthday. The inaugural event, starting my own explorations of the joys of kink, was the occasion of tying my girlfriend up for the first time. By a strange twist of fate, the date was forever etched in my memory – Monday, December 8, 1980.

After I’d trussed my girlfriend up spread eagled with some cotton clothesline, but not long after I’d initiated the actual sex act, an announcement came over the radio that was playing in the background . John Lennon had just been shot and killed. As I sit writing this early on New Year’s eve, the last day of 2013, I realize the 33rd anniversary of that occasion has just passed, less than a month before.

What was your first kinky sexual experience?

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