- Introduction to 30 Days of Kink
- Dom, sub, switch? What parts of BDSM interest you?
- List Your Kinks!
- How did you discover you were kinky?
- Any early experiences that, in retrospect, hint at your kinks?
- What was your first kinky sexual experience?
- Describe Your Most Interesting Sexual Fantasy
- What’s Your Favorite Toy?
- Post A Kinky Image You Find Erotic
- Post a Kink Related Song You Enjoy
- What are your hard limits?
- What are your views on the ethics of kink?
- Tell Us About A Humorous Kink Experience
- What is the appeal of BDSM? Why am I drawn to kink?
- How Does Real Life BDSM Differ From Fantasy?
- List your kinks.
In my first post for this meme I stated:
“My interest in BDSM is wide ranging. It’s my intent that my education, as well as my scope of knowledge, be as comprehensive as possible for one man.”
Did I really say that?
Fuck . . . That’s a lot to live up to!
Me and my big mouth. One of these days I’m going to talk myself into trouble, no doubt about it1.
Not to mention the fact that I think this is going to be a very looooooong list! In fact it would be far more expedient to simply list my hard limits. Unfortunately, listing hard limits is question #10.
I’d have to say my primary kink is dominance. Followed closely by sadism. In all things regarding BDSM I also work to achieve some level of mastery. I covered all that on Day 1.
I’m also an active practitioner of polyamory. While Serafina is truly my beloved wife, I also love Sinnja, a love that’s growing stronger with every passing day. I’m a truly blessed man in oh so many ways. We’ve formed a beautiful triad, committed to each others happiness. We are just now getting started making long term plans together.
I’ve also been exploring Tantra for close to two decades now. It’s not the overpowering great passion I find for BDSM / kink, but it does touch a core within me. I find that tehre is a strong relationship/similiarity between some of the headspace created by Tantra and BDSM, as both are prone to creating altered states of consciousness. Tantric practices strike a thread that reverberate strongly, so Tantra will be something I continue to explore as a tangent from practicing the art of BDSM.
Bondage itself a wonderful art, as well as and a great turn on for me. As usual, I’m a generalist here rather than a specialist. Rope is wonderful, but I’m not any sort of exclusive Shibari artist. Restraints of all types rock, whether they are leather or cold steel. Handcuffs are classic for some forms of uniformed role play, not to mention as simple down and dirty restraint for those times when there just isn’t any time. It’s not the most common fetish item in terms of restraint, but I even have a lovely spandex sleep sack that’s useful for longer term bondage and confinement.
Orgasm control is another facet of kink I love exploring. Serafina hasn’t had an orgasm without asking permission first since 2005, and we’re starting the same sort of training with our new love Sinnja. There’s something very powerful and primal about controlling most submissive’s favorite reward, holding the power to ultimately grant or deny them the peak of sexual pleasure. In the end, all dominance is about control, orgasm control seems to take the whole concept to it’s ultimate sexual peak. Hot, hot stuff indeed.
I do have a bit of a fetish for blindfolds, gags, and hoods. In my mind, these are yet another form of bondage. I view them as simply another way to make my submissive feel restrained, vulnerable, and helpless. I like gags so much that I wrote a 9 part (and counting) series of posts on gags at my SpiritualBDSM.com blog – Guide to Gags (keeping her quiet).
Impact play is another passion. I love to create interesting ranges of sensations for Serafina and Sinnja using floggers, canes, rods, paddles, straps, belts, crops, whips, quirts, wooden spoons, hairbrushes, bare hand etc. Of the various “implements of instruction” I’m probably most adept with floggers and single-tail whips, but can use most any impact play tool with confidence and skill.
Yet, another passion of mine is sensation play of all kinds. This can range (and usually does) from sensuous to sadistic in intensity. Tools used for this kind of play include clips, clamps, chopsticks, rubber bands, fingers, feathers, brushes, fur, etc. Almost anything imaginable with an interesting texture can be used for sensation play.
Knife play is an art unto itself, an art I’ve been exploring for a while now. The latest innovation is using machetes and swords to strip a submissive. Stripping with swords and big knives puts on a great show, and is unbelievable amounts of fun for everyone involved. But, as with all forms of edge play, it is not something to approach lightly, in person training in such an art is always highly advisable.
I’ve not ever been a big role-player, at least not in sexual terms. There was a time when I played more than my share of Dungeons and Dragons, but that’s not the kind of roleplay I’d list as a kink. I have enjoyed playing interrogator in a scene, as well as kidnapper/abductor, but this isn’t an arena I’ve explored yet with any great depth. There’s so much kink to explore, where do I find time for this one?
I’m seriously into kinky photography, at least as a part of our scenes. We don’t light the scenes specifically for our photographs, but we do like to document our fun, at least before it gets too serious. So you won’t find an array of studio lighting here, but those who follow me at Fetlife see even more photographs than are found here. I’m not photographic professional but I am competent and prolific.
My newest kink is probably cuckolding. Blame my friend Alpha, if any blame needs be assigned, he’s the one who really helped to increase my interest in this particular kink. Our new love Sinnja is married to a submissive man, so obviously there is opportunity to explore here if I wish. In the end, the deciding factor will be how much it would complicate the relationship we’ve already built. Sinnja’s ultimate goal, as it currently stands, is to be slave to both Serafina and myself. In the end, that’s far more important to me than fulfilling a cuck fantasy, so exploring this one is on hold while I ponder it all.
The longer I sit and think, the more fun things I want to list. There’s more, oh so much more, but there’s only so many hours in the day, and so many days in the month, so I have to call an end to it somewhere.
I’ll end this all with a listing of my “fetishes” from Fetlife. Obviously, some are more than a little bit tongue in cheek, but the list exists, so why not bring it over here to my blog . . .
Into: “a knife? are you flirting with me?”, “skirts with no panties” (watching others wear), 10-9-8-7-6-5-4-3-2-1 cum you slut, 1950s household,24/7 access to her body, abduction play (giving), abrasion play (giving), anal(giving), anal hooks (giving), anal sex, armbinders (watching others wear), ass play (giving), bald girls, ball gags, bare bottom spanking (giving), bare handed spanking (giving), bastinado (giving), bdsm (everything to do with it),begging (receiving), belly dance (watching), belt spanking (giving), biting,blindfolds (giving), blow jobs (receiving), bondage (giving), boss/secretary,breast bondage (giving), breast spanking (giving), breast whipping (giving),breast/nipple torture (giving), breath play, burlesque (watching),caging/confinement (giving), candle wax (giving), chains, chakra energy play,chastity devices, claire adams, cling film, clit pumping (giving), clit spanking(giving), clit torture (giving), cock worship (receiving), collar and lead/leash(giving), controlling how she dresses, controlling when she orgasms, corset training (giving), corsets (watching others wear), costumes/dressing-up(everything to do with it), cunnilingus (everything to do with it), damsels in distress, deep throating (receiving), dildos (giving), discipline (giving),domination (giving), e-stim, electrical play, electrotorture, erotic literature,erotic photography, exhibitionism, fishnets (watching others wear), flaming kevlar bullwhips/fire whips, flogger (giving), flogging (giving), gagging you with your own dirty panties, garter belt (watching others wear), grand canyon,hair pulling (giving), handcuffs, harem fantasy, harem girls, high heels(watching others wear), hot oil massages (everything to do with it), humiliation(giving), hunting split tail doe, intelligence (everything to do with it), knife play(giving), leather, leaving marks, light bastinado (giving), lingerie (watching others wear), locking collars, masks (everything to do with it), master/slave,mind fucks, multiple orgasms (giving), oral sex (everything to do with it),orgasm control (giving), owning a slave/slaves, pinching, power exchange,predator/prey, pursuit, take-down & capture, real handcuffs, restraints(giving), rimming, role play, rope bondage/suspension (giving), sadism(giving), sensory deprivation, sex in public (everything to do with it), spanking(giving), spiritual bdsm (everything to do with it), spreader bars, stockings and garter belt (watching others wear), strap-ons (watching others wear), talking dirty(everything to do with it), tearing off clothing, threesomes, toys, toys under clothing in public (watching), training, verbal humiliation and degradation(giving), vibrators, vintage porn (watching), voyeurism, wartenberg pinwheels(giving), wax, whips.
Curious about: “actually reading people’s profiles!”, ballet boots/shoes(watching others wear), bimboification, bukkake (giving), chain flogging, corset piercing (watching others wear), directing gang bangs, doctor/nurse play,equine necroflagellation, erotic hypnosis, fisting, foot/feet, fucking in an elevator, fucking machines (watching), gangbangs, gorean slave positions,having chains inserted into my pussy (giving), latex, making home movies,nun/priest play, nyotaimori, play rape (giving), so, whereabouts in antarctica do you live?, sybian, will the feed ever be up?.
list your kinks!
- as you may have guessed, it’s already happened on more than one occasion ↩