Introduction to 30 Days of Kink

Introduction to 30 Days of Kink

This entry is part 1 of 15 in the series 30 Days of Kink w/ Michael

I made it through the Blogging from A to Z Challenge back in April.  It was a lot of fun. I got to write some really nice essays for my site.  In fact, one of them – “O” is for Outlaw No More – was picked by the judges at e[lust] as one of the top three sex blogger posts for the month of April.

Without a doubt, the challenge was good inspiration.

And, it was a good intellectual exercise for me as well.  All in all, it was great fun and a good experience.  I even plan to do it again next year.

Of the four full months my blog’s been in existence, I’ve already had two full months with a daily meme.  Not only did I take part in the A to Z Challenge, I also was in on February Photo Fest.

Many of the folks who took part in the A to Z Challenge are taking a well deserved rest about now.  I mean, it’s a lot of work to create good content for a blog every day, week upon week without end.  It’s easy to burn out when blogging for that kind of schedule, especially when there’s also my real world business to run.

So, I’ve taken some time off too.  My own posting during the month of May has been a little bit sparse.  Some of that was recovering from the intensity of the Blogging from A to Z Challenge.  And, in part, I’ve been preoccupied by the blossoming relationship with Sinnja.

And, truth be told, Serafina is without a doubt the real priority in my life, this blog will always play second fiddle to her needs.  I mean this blog is quite important to me, but my slave/wife is IMPORTANT!  

With that said, we’ve cancelled all of our previous event plans for June.  Due to the burgeoning relationship with Sinnja, we re-prioritized some of our summer travel plans, and won’t be cavorting at Twisted Tryst in June, at least not this year.  So this appears to be an opportune time to undertake another significant writing project, and the 30 Days of Kink meme is a perfect fit.

And, as an added bonus, Serafina is planning to join in with her own 30 days of Kink too!  I’m creating a separate series for her, as a list containing 60 posts would get more than a little bit unwieldy to navigate.

The 30 Days of Kinkmichael-samadhi-004

  • Day 1: Dom, sub, switch? What parts of BDSM interest you? Give us an interesting in-depth definition of what that means to you. Basically define your kinky self for us.
  • Day 2: List your kinks.
  • Day 3: How did you discover you were kinky?
  • Day 4: Any early experiences that, in retrospect, hint at your kinks?
  • Day 5: What was your first kinky sexual experience? If you haven’t had one yet, talk about what you hope to have happen.
  • Day 6: Describe your weirdest/most interesting sexual fantasy.
  • Day 7: What’s your favorite toy?
  • Day 8: Post a kinky image you find erotic.
  • Day 9: Post a kink related song or music video you enjoy.
  • Day 10: What are your hard limits?
  • Day 11: What are your views on the ethics of kink?
  • Day 12: Tell us about a humorous BDSM/kink experience you’ve had. If you haven’t had one, talk about aspects of kink/BDSM you find funny.
  • Day 13: Explain as best you can what the appeal of kink/BDSM is to you? Why are you drawn to what you’re drawn to?
  • Day 14: How would you say real life BDSM/kink varies from fantasy BDSM/kink? If you haven’t experienced real life BDSM/kink how do you think it might differ?
  • Day 15: Post a BDSM/kink activity you’re curious about and would like to try.
  • Day 16: What are the most difficult aspects of having a sexuality that involves kink or BDSM for you personally?
  • Day 17: What misconception about kinky people would you most like to clear up?
  • Day 18: Any kinky/BDSM pet peeves? If so, what are they?
  • Day 19: Any unexpected ways kink has improved your life? If so, what are they?
  • Day 20: Talk about something within kink/bdsm that you’re curious about/don’t understand.
  • Day 21: Favorite BDSM related book (fiction or non-fiction)
  • Day 22: What do you think is important in keeping a BDSM relationship healthy? How does it differ from a vanilla relationship?
  • Day 23: Since you first developed an interest in kink, have your interests/perspectives changed? How so?
  • Day 24: What qualities do you look for in a partner?
  • Day 25: How open are you about your kinks?
  • Day 26: What’s your opinion on online BDSM play?
  • Day 27: Do your non-kink interests ever find their way into your kinky activities? If so, how?
  • Day 28: How do you dress for kink/BDSM play? What significance does your attire have to you?
  • Day 29: Do you have a BDSM title (e.g. mistress, master, slut, pig, whore, princess, goddess, ma’am, sir)? What is your opinion of the use of titles in general?
  • Day 30: Whatever BDSM/kink related thing you want to write about.
The Art of Slavery

The Art of Slavery

This entry is part 28 of 28 in the series February Photo Fest

I not only enjoy photography, I also enjoy playing with photographs . . .

By that, I mean I like to use image editors, illustrators, and the occasional Photoshop technique to turn my photography into something more akin to artist’s renditions.  I’ve always been better at using pen and ink to create imagery with words, rather than to try my hand at illustrating the visions that manifest themselves in my mind.

To be very honest, my best artwork was mixed media starscapes, imagining the chaos near the center of a galaxy.  The handful that I created we made under black light with paint, markers, and crayons (yes crayons) that glowed under a black light.  Shredded glowing crayon is an interesting media to work with, everyone should try it once.

But I digress . . .

That’s the way my art was made back in the age before computers.

Digital photography, along with the wide variety of image editors available, has allowed me to become a bit different kind of artist.  It’s nothing serious, just something I play with.

In the end, that’s all my previous attempts at artistic creation were anyway.  Just something I played with from time to time.

Back at the start of the 28 Days of Serafina, I decided to attach one of my artistic impressions to each post as a feature image.  Occasionally, I included the artwork in a posts photo gallery, but often I did not.

So it seems fitting, as a final part of this series, and as an homage to my wonderful partner/wife/submissive/slave to have a mosaic gallery of the different artistic impressions that accompanied the posts of this series. The “Art of Slavery”.

And, to conclude my writing for this series, I’d like to simply include a short heartfelt note.

When I look back, it’s a marvel that we ever became a couple. Yet, at the same time, it all seems preordained, like it was completely inevitable.
From the first day we met, it seems I’ve loved you with all my heart. You compassion, poise, and grace impressed me long before we ever actually met. I think I knew it was real before we even made it home from the airport. We went thought so much the first few years together, it seems as though the reality we share today is our reward. We certainly don’t have everything we could ever want, but there’s no doubt in my mind we already have everything we’ll ever need – each other.
You are everything to me, everything I could have hoped for in a partner and wife, and far more than I’d ever dared dream as my playmate. You are the one I will always come home to. In fact you are my home, it’s simply a shelter over our heads, because my home is in your heart.
I love you, and don’t be surprised if someday there’s a bit more than just 28 days of Serafina – next time I do this it’ll be 365!

the art of slavery


The Joy of Kink is joining Molly’s Daily Kiss in posting at least one image every day on our blog for the entire month of February – the February Photo Fest!

Bend Over Backwards To Please . . .

Bend Over Backwards To Please . . .

This entry is part 27 of 28 in the series February Photo Fest

Today is the 27th day of my 28 day tribute to my wonderful slave (and wife) Serafina.

To be honest, I’ve probably got another solid month or two of great photos in my archives.  Photography is a favorite hobby of mine, especially since I purchased a Nikon D7000 a couple of years ago, my first digital SLR.

Between the slave and I, we’ve shot 7000 images over a 2 year period.  Although they all aren’t sexy, the vast majority are of the erotic variety.

And, I could probably wax poetic about her for at least a few more weeks.  Serafina is a wonderful erotic slave, she’s really grown into the role.

But, I fear that I’m getting a bit repetitive.  What more can I really say that I haven’t already?

I guess I could tell you that she’ll literally bend over backwards to please!

Really, what more can I say than that?

bend over backwards to please


The Joy of Kink is joining Molly’s Daily Kiss in posting at least one image every day on our blog for the entire month of February – the February Photo Fest!

Sweet Surrender

Sweet Surrender

This entry is part 26 of 28 in the series February Photo Fest

Lost and alone on some forgotten highway
Traveled by many, remembered by few
Lookin’ for somethin’ that I can believe in
Lookin’ for somethin’ that I’d like to do with my life

There’s nothin’ behind me and nothin’ that ties me
To somethin’ that might have been true yesterday
Tomorrow is open, right now it seems to be more
Than enough to just be here today

And I don’t know what the future is holdin’ in store
I don’t know where I’m goin’, I’m not sure where I’ve been
There’s a spirit that guides me, a light that shines for me
My life is worth the livin’, I don’t need to see the end

Sweet, sweet surrender, live, live without care

~ Henry John Deutschendorf, Jr. | Sweet Surrender

 sweet surrender

sweet surrender

The Joy of Kink is joining Molly’s Daily Kiss in posting at least one image every day on our blog for the entire month of February – the February Photo Fest!

Corset Cutie

Corset Cutie

This entry is part 25 of 28 in the series February Photo Fest

I’m sure that everyone who’s been following along with my February Photo Fest entries knows by now that I dote on my slave.

Serafina truly spoils me, that I cannot deny.  I rule the roost, and she empowers it all with her service.  So, to my eye, it’s only right that she’s spoiled in return.

One way I spoil her is with corsets.  The running joke, started by my friend Alpha, is that I’ll only stop buying corsets when my slave/wife has a different one for every day of the month.

In my defense, I’m only a little over a third of the way there.  A quick accounting of Serafina’s wardrobe found a baker’s dozen, thirteen corsets in all.

I also indulge her in her training and play.  As Serafina was transitioning from being my submissive to being my slave, I brought in my friend Alpha to lend a hand in her training.  Alpha is a true gentleman dominant, as well as being a great friend.

Yes, he’s an invaluable aid in her training, but to be honest she’s already a very good slave.  She’s grown and learned so much over the last couple of years, it’s sometimes hard to say where she can still realistically improve.

So, if for no other reason than the fact that we enjoy inviting Alpha to be an accomplice in my plans for Serafina, he’s a regular guest in our adventures.  What are good friends for, right?

I’d like to add that the pose in today’s feature photo isn’t posed at all.  The downward cast of her eyes, the hands clasped behind her back, that’s not something she puts on for show, it’s just classic Serafina.  The picture’s a candid shot.

The coy/demure smile my slave flashes in the gallery (left) is classic Serafina too.  What can I say?  My wife’s a corset cutie!

corset cutie


The Joy of Kink is joining Molly’s Daily Kiss in posting at least one image every day on our blog for the entire month of February – the February Photo Fest!