kink community comes of age - we're suing each other
I’ve always felt that the kink community in the United States was a microcosm of the rest of society. Our demographic is wildly diverse, coming in all shapes and sizes, from every possible political persuasion, all professions and socio-economic classes, as well as most any faith you might imagine.
It’s also true that we live in a very litigious society, lawsuits are more common than ever. According to Common Good, 15 million civil cases are filed in the U.S. every year. With that kind of volume to contend with, it should come as little surprise that as many as 80% of the world’s attorneys are also from the United States. Is it any wonder that we tell lots of lawyer jokes too?
Well, this is no joke, our country’s propensity of suing each other has carried over into the world of kink. Courthouse News Service reported earlier this month that a trademark infringement lawsuit filed by Kink Academy against Kink University will continue forward. (Attorneys for Kink University had asked for dismissal.)
For folks who aren’t familiar, I’ll try to provide a quick dramatis personae of the players in this real-life drama:
Kink Academy (aka Balance Studio) is the brainchild of owner Kali Williams (aka Princess Kali – aka Kali Kinke). Since 2009, kinkacademy.com has provided educational videos to it’s members on a wide variety of kink activities. Kali’s concept of “Erotication” sites for sexual education also includes PassionateU.com, targeted towards more a more general (less kinky) audience than the KinkAcademy.com site.
Heather Norton – attorney for Balance Studio aka Kink Academy.
Kink University is one part of the Kink.com empire owned by porn mogul Peter Acworth. Kink.com’s other offerings include Hogtied, Device Bondage, The Training of O, The Upper Floor, and many more. Starting in 1997 with hogtied.com, Acworth’s array of offerings grew over time to include a plethora of other sites, all under the kink.com banner. Kink University was added to Kink.com’s line-up in 2014.
Julian Swanson – attorney for Cybernet Entertainment aka Kink.com.
Judge Donna Ryu
U.S. District Judge Donna Ryu – from the Northern District of California. Judge Ryu ruled against Kink.com’s motion for dismissal on Thursday, June 8, 2017, allowing Kink Academy’s trademark infringement lawsuit to move forward.
The story goes that Kink.com started using KinkUniversity.com in 2014 and filed to trademark the term Kink University. The U.S. Patent and Trademark Office ultimately rejected Kink.com’s application. The office’s reasoning for refusing Kink.com’s request was the likelihood of confusion between “Kink Academy” and “Kink University.”
Things evolved from there . . .
The Kink University website is a pornography website that purports to offer educational information.
from Complaint for Damages and Injuctive Relief
Regardless of the merits of the case, it could be said that lawsuits like this signal a new era for kink (the community not the websites – kink.com is no stranger to the courtroom).
To the best of my knowledge, the folks at flogger.com have never sued the people behind floggers.com. I’ve never heard that Victor of Snakewhip.com ever sued Nancy of Snake-Pit Leatherworks (or vice-versa) saying they had the prior claim on the term Snake.
But, one of Kink.com’s arguments for dismissal was it’s prior claim to senior exclusive rights on the word “kink”. How about that for an attorney joke?
DISCLAIMER – I’m a prior long term subscriber KinkAcademy.com. I’ve met Princess Kali at a local kink education event, and I own her book Enough To Make You Blush: Exploring Erotic Humiliation. I watched most every video KinkAcademy.com produced thru 2014, when my most recent subscription expires.
DISCLAIMER – I’m also a prior long term subscriber to Kink.com. While I’ve never met Mr. Acworth, I’ve met well-known Kink.com educator Stefanos on several occasions at local events. My personal collection of Kink.com videos totals more than 5 Terabytes in size, including every offering from Kink University.
DISCLAIMER – While it’s not mentioned in any of the news articles, and it certainly may not be at all relevant in a court of law, I thought it’s interesting to note that Princess Kali starred in a handful of early Kink.com productions Whipped Ass and Men in Pain.
DISCLAIMER – It should also be noted that Kink University released it’s final class/episode close to a year ago (as of this writing) on July 4, 2016. Once again, that may (or may not) be relevant to the court case. When production ceased, I assumed it was a consequence of the changing economics of producing adult entertainment. Now, I have to wonder if this lawsuit was part of the cause.
Because of my familiarity with all the parties involved, not to mention their own shared history, this feels like a family fight.
It’s my experience that family fights don’t go to court unless there’s real money involved.
If becoming big enough business for there to be lawsuits over trademark infringement means that an industry has arrived in the “big leagues”, then the world of kink and the kink community are now officially big business.
Kink Academy v. Kink University trademark complaint – and actual PDF of the original complaint submitted by attorney Heather Norton on behalf of her client Kink Academy. I found this with a google search as I began to research the issues surrounding the complaint against Kink.com / Kink University.
Kink Academy & Kink University Are Going to Court – by Mark Kernes at Adult Video News (AVN – trade magazine for the adult video industry.) This explains the case more clearly and in somewhat better detail. Sadly I only found this article after my own writing was 99% finished.
This post has been lost among my drafts for some time now . . .
Waiting . . . just waiting . . .
The fiasco that was my experience for Kinky Kollege Spring Break 2014 has already been documented – Hidden Problems, the story I’d not usually tell. Of course, my issues were no fault of the organizers of the event, my Kinky Kollege experience was impacted by allergy problems caused by our room.
So, rather than the report I’d planned, detailing and reviewing the classes we attended, this post is really nothing more than a listing of the classes that were available at Kinky Kollege Spring Break 2014 as well as the event schedule, documented here for posterity.
EVENT SCHEDULE – Kinky Kollege Spring Break 2014
2 pm to 6:30 pm
9 am to 6:30 pm
9:30 am to 2:30 pm
2 pm to Midnight
10 am to Midnight
9:30 am to 2:30 pm
BDSM FILMS (XXX THEATER)
2 pm to 2 am
9:30 am to 2 am
9:30 am to 2:30 pm
2 pm to 12:00 am
9:30 am to 12 am
9:30 am to 2:30 pm
1 pm to 12:00 am
9:30 am to 12 am
12 am to 1 am
9:30 am to 11 am
4 pm to 5:15pm
9 am to 10:15 am
10:30 am to 11:45 am
12 pm to 1:15 pm
3 pm to 4:45 pm
10 am to 11:15 am
11:30 am to 12:45 pm
1 pm to 2:15 pm
3 pm to 5:30 pm
FRIDAY NIGHT ENTERTAINERS
“Oh No!” Variety Show
9 pm to 2 am
9 pm to 2 am
CLASS LISTING – Kinky Kollege Spring Break 2014
BIG BAD JIM
Jim is a Poly Leather Top that prides himself on giving back to the community. Having been an active member of the Edmonton community since 2000; Jim has always been there to lend a hand whenever needed. Jim is the type of person that when he sees a need for something, he makes it happen. He is one of the founding members of COPE; an Edmonton group that puts together a monthly play party and educational events. Jim created and produced Primal Pain; an outdoor weekend spiritual retreat, Jim saw the need for an event that brought people together for something more than just kink. Jim was also the Chair of Lupercalia for several years. Jim identifies as a sadist. Like any sadist he derives pleasure from inflicting pain. Whether he is using “Boris” his trusty sidekick, or as the painfully talented “Dixie Normous”. With a black hankie in his back left pocket there is no question he loves what he does. Jim has always had a passion for sharing his knowledge and wisdom with those in and out of the lifestyle. Others have commented on his classes as “fun” as well as “intense” learning experiences. Jim has spoken at the University of Alberta sharing our lifestyle with their students. Jim has presented workshops at Southwest Leather Conference, Beat Me in St. Louis, Portland Kinkfest, Leather Reign, Spanksgiving, Mr. Leatherman Toronto, Madtown Kinkfest, Twisted in Tulsa, Folsom Fringe, Winter Wickedness, Sagacity, Kinky Karnival, Beyond Closed Doors, Westcoast Bound,, and twice Jim has been named the People’s Favorite Presenter at Northern Exposure in Anchorage, Alaska
CANING: TURNING RED TO GREEN
So many bottoms yell out red at the mere mention of canes. I know one sub that claims an allergy to wood. Canes can produce a wide variety of sensations depending on size, material and how they are used. In this class Jim will bring his collection of canes, crops and sticks and welcomes you to do the same. You will learn not only the care and use of canes but also how to prepare the bottom for a caning scene. Hopefully by the end of this workshop we will turn some reds into greens.
HOW TO BEAT THE CRAP OUT OF SOMEONE AND HAVE THEM COME BACK FOR MORE
So you’ve learned how to punch and kick. In martial arts and other combative sports the purpose is to make your opponent believe that an injury in inevitable. In the dungeon we want to hurt, not harm our partner. Takedowns, Resisting, Rape Fantasies, Wrestling, and good old fashion body on body beatings can all happen without the need for a toy bag. It is important to prepare yourself for each scene. In this workshop Jim will show you how to have a very powerful, bonding scene. Starting with preparation straight thru to the very important aftercare you will learn how to keep them coming back for more.
LEATHER IN THE 21st CENTURY
What is this Leather lifestyle I keep googling? Is it some secret society? Is it that pompous ass that goes on and on about how everyone else is beneath him? Or maybe it’s the kinky gays? Our world is changing in the 21st century and Leather/BDSM/Kink is changing with it. In our time together I want to dispell some of the myths about the Leather lifestyle, discuss the differences between kinky and Leather and talk about your experiences and mine.
DAN & DAWN
Alternative Lifestyle and Alternative Spirituality Presenters – Dan and dawn, a lifestyle couple of many years – as well as authors, educators and co-producers of two annual events, The Power eXchange Summit & Beyond The Love: Polyamory Summit – bring their diverse backgrounds and experiences to each presentation and workshop they lead. With their blend of training and experience in Sacred Sexuality, BDSM, M/s & energy work, they offer a unique perspective to their audience. Although they have presented hundreds of workshops at dozens and dozens of events over the past 10 years, they continue to bring great enthusiasm and energy to each presentation. They are the authors of Living M/s: A book for Masters and slaves and their relationships and Sex, Stories, and Power Exchange, as well as the creators of the widly popular Kink Starter cards! They are also the co-hosts of the Erotic Awakening internet radio show, an educational podcast that explores “all things erotic”; Great Lakes region Master & slave title holders (2010); creators of the Scarlet Sanctuary and Path of the Qadishti (sacred sexuality spaces); featured educators on both Kink Academy and Creative Sexuality; and mentioned in a number of books, articles, and other media.
WHAT’S LOVE GOT TO DO WITH M/s?
Love has everything – or is it nothing? – to do with it
Dan and dawn, Great Lakes region Master & slave (2010), leaders of the House Metta power exchange tribe, and authors of the book Living M/s – A book for Masters, slaves, and Their Relationships, as well as a happily married couple of a decade – lead a workshop on love and M/s. Loving M/s is a style of Master/slave relationship that can bring a number of powerful emotions to the table that can appear to conflict with the power exchange. They give examples on how to navigate through jealousy, a desire to please, fears of co-dependence, and other powerful emotions so that the primary foundation of the relationship continues to be a healthy M/s one – and that foundation in turn feeds emotional solidity.
MINDFULNESS OF A SLAVE
The most powerful tool of any slave (or Master)
Dan and dawn, Great Lakes region Master & slave (2010), leaders of the House Metta power exchange tribe and authors of the book Living M/s – A book for Masters, slaves, and Their Relationships, lead a workshop on the most powerful and sought after aspect of a slaves service. It isn’t how good you can clean, or how hot you look or how well you suck cock. Instead, it is the mindfulness that needs to be developed that allow you to flow seamlessly as a slave in and around your Master’s needs, while at the same time finding an authentic slave heart. And…it is worth noting that the methods taught in this workshop will assist you in becoming a better cleaner, be more attractive, and give better head.
ADVANCED M/s RELATIONSHIPS: BECOMING A MASTER
Becoming a Master is more than just a title
Join Dan and dawn, an M/s couple for the past 10+ years and authors of the book Living M/s – A book for Masters, slaves, and Their Relationships, for an advanced class on the foundation and advanced aspects of what it takes to be a Master (or Mistress) in a full time 24/7 relationship. This class addresses decision making, self-confidence, ego, identifying strengths, becoming vulnerable to your weaknesses, and assisting a slave into transforming into someone completely living up to their full potential. Create in yourself that kind of person who belongs in the seat of power.
Eid is a hot-wax/heat sensation and rough/tumble player. Originally from Great Britain, Eid now lives in Milwaukee and practices around the mid-west. His fondness for temperature play manifests in various forms: Hot Wax, Fire play, Branding and cell-popping, cigar ash, ice, ect…
While often on the receiving end of these sensations, Eid concurrently tops and teaches these skills to others with his lady Ms_J. He loves to work with all types, from large regional events or local munches, to private one-on-one. Sensational fun is Eid’s style of play.
HOT WAX PLAY
Eid brings a bottom’s perspective (or his “ass-ended view”) to this Wax skills class: meaning focus is paid to the sensation received rather than any showmanship.
This class flows rapidly through all the nuances of heat sensations from hot wax, paying particular focus to various styles and techniques employed for those goals.
Wax play can be akin to warm relaxing therapy that soothes, but also quickly heated up for stinging endorphin rushes. Wax can be caring or sadistic, part or all of a scene, and always fun.
Designed as a class to get you started waxing, Eid will present different approaches based upon your desired goals as giver or receiver. Are you going for aesthetic colors and shapes, or are tingling sensations the most important? We explore various methods of accomplishing either a warm relaxing glow, or an escalating ladder towards endorphin giggles. We deal with issues of layering, pooling, temperature controls, and the debate about color and scent usage. Learn the techniques and practicalities from the candle to the crock-pot of molten sweltering Wax!
Leon MonkeyFetish is an international presenter, performer and artist. He started his public kink life in the Chicago kink community at one of the munches and quickly progressed to being president of the local TNG chapter. He first presented rope at a local BDSM club in 2002 and has presented on rope, rough body play, D/s dynamics and other kink topics in the years since.
He currently travels the North American continent teaching and performing rope throughout the year. He’s happy to share with anyone willing to listen to his particular brand of deviance and to spend as much time as necessary working on those who don’t.
He serves as Secretary of the Leather Archives & Museum and encourages you to ask about the organization and spend time perusing their website in your free time.
You find out more about Leon, his classes, performances and artwork at http://www.monkeyfetish.com
The BDSM world is filled with fetishes. Stockings, High-Heels, Fishnets, Corsets, Latex…Need we go on? There is a fine art to fetish; an art that involves everything from fit to finish. In an era where we live with mass produced items bought over the internet with no ability to test before we get our items, it is a hit and miss (mostly miss) proposition to truly fulfill your fetishes. This class will cover what makes a fetish, how to feed your fetish, and some of the finer points of the above-mentioned fetishes, which Leon holds quite dear to his heart.
ROUGH BODY PLAY
Kicking, punching, slapping and tossing your partner around like a rag doll can be great fun. The physicality of the experience can be a great release for both parties as the whole body is involved in a play that can range from passive for the bottom to a knock down drag out fight. This class will cover basic safety as well as be interactive. Audience participation is encouraged but not required.
Breathplay is hot and sexy. Rope is hot and sexy and, as much as we advise the newbies “no rope around the neck”, we still do it because it is amazingly hot. This will be an intermediate hands-on class that will teach safe rope breathplay techniques.
Bill has been an active participant in the Los Angeles, San Francisco and Chicago BDSM communities for over ten years, regularly attending kink and play events globally, including Kinky Kollege. His passion for tactile play surfaced at the start of his BDSM journey and he has presented this workshop for various clubs nationally. DMs often spend considerable time circling his scenes, eagerly watching and taking notes.
Tactile Torture Workshop
You are bound, gagged, blindfolded, immobilized. You are eager, excited, afraid, dripping.
Will it be scratchy, soft, prickly, penetrating, hot, rough? Yes!!! And you will come. But not for a long, long time. You are frustrated. You want more.
Tactile play creates a heightened sense of anticipation and sensory pleasure using common household items. We’ll explore how to use our skin, our largest organ, as an extension of erotic expression. Bring your warped mind and come see for yourself what pleasures lie around your house, just collecting dust. You’ll never see your kitchen utility drawer the same way again.
KEN MELVOIN-BERG & SUNNY MEGATRON
Ken Melvoin-Berg is a Chicago based author, writer, adult sexuality and BDSM educator. He has lectured about sex, relationships, and kink for over a decade all around the World. Ken has been featured in Sunny Megatron, Huffington Post, AVN Magazine, The Good Men project, Kinkly, Playboy as well as numerous podcasts and blogs. He also writes for Stockroom, Stormy Leather, Syren Latex, Sex and Metal, Daedalus Publishing, and White Chapel Press.
He lectures alone and with his beautiful better half, Sunny Megatron and is her co-host for “Outside the Box”. His largest claim to fame (shame?) was the infamous Fucksaw event at Northwestern University. Ken is the owner and chief Weirdo of Weird Chicago Tours.
Sunny Megatron is sex and BDSM educator, blogger, and pleasure advocate. She teaches sexuality, relationship, and kink workshops across the U.S. with her partner and fiancé, Ken Melvoin-Berg.
Sunny has been featured in Huffington Post, AVN Magazine, XBIZ, as well as numerous sexuality blogs. Her most current project is host of the sexual health and wellness web series “Outside the Box” on the Inside Adult Network.
DOWN ON YOUR KNEES, NOW HOW MAY I SERVE YOU/ SERVICE TOPS AND INVERSE POWER EXCHANGES
Sunny and Ken present a lecture on BDSM theory and inverse power exchanges. It offers insight into consent, safewords, and the core elements of how we define ourselves, no matter what our role is. The essence of being a Service Top or topping from the bottom, and why these sometimes frown upon roles aren’t necessary a bad thing, is the main focus here.
HOW TO GIVE THE WORLD’S BEST BLOWJOB
Join Sunny and Ken for a memorable afternoon of fun and fellatio! Unlike other blowjob classes, this one is taught from both a giver and receiver’s perspective. We’ll go over anatomy, technique, safer sex tools, the etiquette of swallowing vs. spitting plus extras like incorporating the act into your scenes. We’ll also talk about what goes through your head while giving or getting head: get tips on how to get into the right headspace (<– not so accidental pun), how to give a confident blow job, how to battle a sore jaw, how to compensate for a small mouth, how to figure out what your partner likes best, gagging and a lot more.
PROSTATE MILKING FOR BEGINNERS
These pipes are clean! Ken and Sunny guide you through the act of prostate massage for fun and good health. Although this class is for everyone, we’ll focus on men with concerns about anal play. Of course we will address anatomy, biological processes, relaxation, arousal, and ejaculation. If you have a prostate, this act will not only double your orgasms, it can also reduce your rate of prostate cancer.
She is a multipartenered bisexual beast/toy/slave. She has been married to Phantom for almost 25 years. She also was very blessed to be partnered with Jeff Gord of HouseofGord.com for 10 years. She was underneath his desk at his passing, exactly where she was destined to be from the moment they met. She is now venturing out and telling his story/their story because that was one of his last wishes, that he live on and be remembered through her and through others.
She loves to wallow fully in the experiences life brings to her … the joys and the horrors… the pleasures as well as the suffering. She feels, in fact, that the universe is her spirit’s playground … and that there are magic and miracles every where if you only allow yourself to see them and, of course, if you are willing to take the risks in creating them.
Her center in D/s revolves around ego exposure and ego bashing and being USED. Always using the tool of objectification to get there. She is not a physical masochist but instead a self proclaimed emotional masochist … a term that she has defined and redefined for herself and others over the years… because, of course, as soon as you believe that you know yourself the universe tips a little and makes you embrace another aspect…Again and again and again. She is at peace most when wallowing in the mire, compelled often to endure experiences that she genuinely fears and dislikes. Or, to quote FemCar, “The more I dread it, the more I NEED it, and the more I know it is what I eventually have to do.” She has been in the lifestyle for 20 years and has been smashing the boundaries of acceptable and politically correct forms of play ever since she crawled in. She began to educate about degradation play about 16 years ago … because people were alarmed at her need without understanding the why behind it. Now it is a rather common form of play but only because she and others like her wouldn’t let others stop her…and she STILL won’t.
She is an advocate for growth and enlightenment, sometimes in the form of controversy, sometimes in the form of activism; but always with an undercurrent of spirituality. Good thing for her that her spiritual path absolutely is through her CUNT. So don’t be too surprised if you see her touching herself at any given moment. She is out to change the world…one cock one cunt at a time and SOMETIMES she is really lucky and can grab MORE than one at a time, and it is in this type of experience that she truly revels. You can voyeur her on twitter and fetlife under femcar if you want to watch the train wreck as it happens.
THE PASSING OF A LEGEND: GORD AND FEMCAR … WHAT DREAMS ARE MADE OF
The most amazing transcendental experiences are when you open up SO wide that reality steps into your “play”.
Oh I have stories, and pictures, and videos.. and the LAST machine he finished, custom made just for me. This is a story of destiny, magic, and miracles and absolutely that ANYTHING is possible. This is the first time I am telling this story like this since he passed so I will probably be very emotional. This is when the real sadist come out I reckon.
He told me he wanted his work to live on so I am doing that as best as I can with telling his and our story, sharing his art, and also keeping the light of his baby houseofgord.com shining as bright as we can, although impossible to his degree. He always said there is an R in Gord. Not anymore.
OH, I DID NOT JUST SEE THAT! PLAYING IN PUBLIC!
This will be a discussion on different levels of public play. Certainly not everybody agrees on what is appropriate and not appropriate in certain situations. Lets discuss what your experiences and opinions are and also share tips on keeping safe and hopefully not getting arrested. Well unless ya wanna…but pssst…I don’t think its very fun.
Ya put your hand inside a cunt and ya have an IMMEDIATE puppet to play with! Lets discuss procedure, safety… but more importantly lets do some fisting! Definitely the easiest way to learn is by HANDS-IN! I can’t promise I will take everybody on… but I will SCREAM trying!
Lochai has been a student of Japanese inspired rope bondage since a very early age. He has been educating the rope bondage minded across the country for the past 15 years. He is the director of the only international munch, Rope Bite & runs Bondage Club Baltimore. He can be found on occasion binding beauties and creating living art at local fetish events as well as major exhibitions across the country. “I use the body as a canvas & rope as the medium in creating my art” It’s no surprise that in August of 2008, he was picked by kink.com to spearhead their flagship site, hogtied.com and to create EverythingButt.com.
His lifestyle experiences extend to many aspects of the bdsm world including but not limited to age play, pony/puppy play, corporal, humiliation and impact play. He has given talks on many topics that included both hands on classes as well as photography slide shows & demos. A full listing of his desires can be found @ http://lochaistine.com.
Lochai is also an award winning photographer who’s work appears on gallery walls as well in fine art publications & coffee table books. He “shoots for the walls & not the computer screen”. Overall Photography winner with his iconic image “Beach Bound” of Erotic Signature’s “The Worlds Greatest Erotic Art of Today”. Presently he has his work on permanent display at the Leather Archive & Museum in Chicago & World Erotic Art Museum in Miami, for sale in brick & mortar galleries from Key West Florida to Cyber fine art galleries based out of London as well on many private collectors walls. His images, rope art & interviews have been published in The British Journal of Photography, Secret, Skin Two, Bizarre, Prometheus, Cherry, A Magazine, Fetish Anthology, Extreme Anthology, New Times and in his own fine art books. His work can also be found on numerous websites from around the world.
AIRBARI: THE ART OF AIR TYING
The power of movement, suggestion and intention in rope bondage
This is a class for all levels regardless of personal knowledge or experience. Learn how to REALLY connect with your partner through movement, suggestion and intention. Learn how to create your own “secrets” of connection by learning more about how you do your own ties. Used as a way to exercise, refine and expand your technique as well as experience rope in a new way. Many people think “self bondage” is only putting ropes on themselves, come explore doing self-bondage as a way to top without bottoming at the same time.
As a top, you gain a different perspective on hand placement, speed, rope handling and tension. Without the visual and tactile aspects of tying with rope, you need to be more aware of what your body is doing and where your hands are as you go through each aspect of a tie. As a bottom, you learn to feel the movements of your top and not just the rope being placed on your body. You open yourself up to more sensations and connections then ever thought possible.
Join us as we explore ropeless ties as a way to enhance our love of rope bondage. This is an experience not to be missed.
BONDAGE FOR SEX
The name says it all… For some, tying itself is sex and for others rope is a way to keep your partner in the positions you want to use them in. Learn how to bind your partner for maximum exposure. This class is not only for the beauty of the ties but for the raw exposure for your partner’s sexual use. Learn how to bind your partner in positions that will give access & comfort for the down & dirty. We will also go over some self bondage techniques to use to surprise your “soon to be home” Top. In this class we will discuss single, double, triple & even quad appendage ties. This class is for everyone.
SEE HOW EASY THAT WAS? DECONSTRUCTION OF BONDAGE TIES
We have all looked at photos, presentations, performances and others around us playing and said in one way or another, “How do they do that”? “I wish I could do that”, “I’ll never tie like that”. This class is for everyone, no matter what level of skill who want to be the person others look at and say the same.
We will be looking at the standard ties, TK, chest ties, wrist/ankle ties, karada’s and the like & deconstructing them down to their basic components and foundation ties. We will also look at suspensions and partial suspensions and break them down into their basics. If we stop looking at only the end result to base our skill level & start looking at ties from all directions, we will all grow more quickly in our skills and realize that rope bondage is simple.
This class is for you if you want to learn why ties work, what they are made of & how they create a sense of comfort with a partner.
Professional bullwhip artist and internationally noted whip expert Robert Dante is a 4-time Guinness World Record holder, author of “Let’s Get Cracking! The How-To Book of Bullwhip Skills,” and producer/performer in the DVD, ” Bullwhip: Art of the Single Tail Whip.” Dante is assisted by his wife/slave/performing partner mary. He has been featured on such programs as HBO’s Real Sex, Playboy’s Night Calls, among others.
LET’S GET CRACKING! WHIPS 101
Get a strong foundation in whip basics and then use that knowledge to continue to learn and get better indefinitely into the future.
BULLWHIP: THE EPITOME OF SM
The real-world SM applications of whip skills gained in Whips 101.
DANTE MASTER CLASS
Learning is collaborative as I work intensively with several people as others watch so that many can learn from the experience of one.
Miss Isis has been involved in the BDSM community since early 2000. After becoming a certified hypnotist, she experienced firsthand how enjoyable erotic hypnosis can be — both as a hypnotist and as a subject. Miss Isis enjoys sharing her passion with others in the lifestyle, showing them how much fun they can have with erotic hypnosis, and how hypnosis can enhance BDSM play.
She currently leads a monthly gathering, often opening up her home to provide a safe space where people can come together to learn, ask questions, and discover how they can add the magic of erotic hypnosis to their lives.
Currently, Miss Isis is working with other hypnotists in the community to plan an “Erotic Hypnosis Unconference” in the Chicago area in the summer.
ENHANCING SUBMISSION USING ORGASM THROUGH HYPNOSIS
Is there something your submissive has been wanting to experience, but maybe was a little apprehensive about trying? You could “force” them, but sometimes that backfires. Forcing can sometimes cause you a whole lot more work, and the possibility of resentment. There is a better way in which your submissive’s desires to please you will be so strong, she will be begging you to experience what she was apprehensive about. This presentation will discuss using hypnosis, anchoring, and pleasure conditioning to help your submissive overcome their inhibitions. This class is open to all.
Crimson has been a professional dominatrix and fetish provider in Chicago for fourteen years. She also teaches classes on BDSM and kink for Early to Bed in Chicago and lectures nationally on topics around sex work, S/M and feminism for private groups and universities, including Seattle University and Northeastern Illinois University. In addition to her work in the kink world, Crimson is a certified rape and domestic violence crisis counselor.
BDSM FOR SURVIVORS
When the statistics on sexual assault are that, in America, 1 in 6 women and 1 in 33 men will be the victim of an attempted or completed sexual assault, it is likely that many members of the kink community have experience with sexual violence. This class will provide a discussion of ideas to help survivors of violence bring kink back into their lives (or start to explore kink for the first time), as well as tips for partners of survivors. This workshop is intended for those who are ready to begin venturing back into BDSM, and will contain potentially triggering conversation. It is not intended to be therapy of any kind, or replace working with a trained mental health professional.
No biography provided.
THE RESTRAINT IS THE SCENE
Tying your partner down doesn’t have to be a prelude to a good scene; it can be the scene itself. Course covers basic safety issues, types of rope, definition of different rope bondage styles, negotiation, and several basic shibari techniques (aka, “katas”). (Introductory, Hands On)
PLAY IN FIVE ACTS
If lovemaking is a performance, then there is much we can learn from the theatre. Apply literary and stage techniques to make better scenes. Particularly sexy to all you Aristotle fetishists. (All Levels, Hands On)
INVENTING THE QUAD COIN HARNESS
First demonstrating the Quad Coin Hip Harness, invented by Boss Mason (and taught with his permission), these principles are then applied to the chest in an exploration of stylistic harness invention. This class explores the principles of harness composition/development through a specific application, and is unsuitable for beginners. (Intermediate, Hands On)
Ms. J is a sensual, sadistic, fireplaying, hand-turkey giving, hair pulling, biting, toppy kind of girl. Laughing and giggling in the dungeon gives her great joy. Since 2004, friends and mentors educated her on various facets of BDSM, but Fire-Play quickly be-came her true calling. Ms. J honed her Fireplay skills over years of continuous experimentation. She first taught fire to friends; gradually moving to larger munches, and now presents classes throughout Wisconsin, northern Illinois, Chicago and Ohio. Impassioned by all manner of flame, Ms. J is always thrilled to “burn’inate the villagers”, and to inspire her baby dragons!
BASIC FIRE PLAY
Do you want to learn fireplay instead of just watching it? Ms. J will take you from fearful fire novice to enthusiastic pyromaniac safely. The intent of this class is to have you watch, learn, and try some hands-on fireplay yourself.
The class begins with an explanation of general preparation and fire safety for you, your bottom and the venue. Suggestions as to the equipment you should have in your kit. Ms. J will demonstrate how to warm up your fire bottom, by starting small and increasing the amount of flame applied. As time permits, with hands-on practice, Ms. J will show your how to start small, before you move to on to bigger fire.
This second class will include tips for bottoms to include communicating with your top, a breathing technique to process the sensation. We will then move onto use of the fire glove, playing with mousse, flash cotton and fireballs. Each of these topics will include their own safety tips. It is not a requirement to attend Basic Fire Play, but if you are new to any type of fire play, it is highly suggested, as safety tips in the second class will pertain to the specifics of each item demonstrated. As time permits, a hands-on portion will be included.
Mostly the doer of things, The Kitty works, lives and plays somewhere between the ridiculous and the macabre. With a day job in the medical field and a background in scouts, she is prepared and knowledgeable of how to hurt folks, while being safe and reverent about it. She lives an open polysomething lifestyle and has been in the public kink scene since 2006.
Besides sharing her kinky knowledge with the local Chicago community, The Kitty has presented throughout the Midwest at events such as MadTown KinkFest, Twisted Tryst, and PEEK. She spends her free time as a fetish model, burlesque performer, and working on her sharpshooter merit badge.
DUNGEON DEPOT – POWER TOOL PLAY
(Co-Presented with Jsin) Ever wondered about some of the more aggressive toys out there? Are you curious about making a fucksaw? Do you see a drill or angle grinder just collecting dust? Have you always felt that a chainsaw would add the perfect touch to your scenes? We agree! From your workshop to your toy bag, heavy grit sandpaper, staple guns, and a world of fun toys can be found at your local hardware store. There are risks, of course, but a little time and effort can make fun toys out of things you’ve never imagined. Safety will be strongly addressed from both the tools and the people’s point of view.
THE CARE AND FEEDING OF STRAP-ONS
Whatever your gender or orientation, you can add a strap-on to your sex. But (or butt) with so many options how do you chose? Come and see a variety of harnesses, dildos and accessories and learn the basics on how to use them. We will discuss health and safety issues unique to this kind of play, and also include few tips and tricks to help shake off the first time jitters! There will be plenty of time for Q&A, so bring your questions.
HITTING BELOW THE BELT – CBT
Oh the jewels, how we love them! There are many levels of cock and ball torment, from a simple smack to an electrified sound, and I’m gonna show you them all. We don’t want to break our pretty toys, but it’s fun to get them right up to the edge where they think we might. So much fun to hit, twist, pull and pinch! Boys make amazing sounds with only a little flick of the wrist. Now let’s add some clothespins and a few weights!
Sir Wieland (The Craftsman) got his kinky start thru a desire to make kinky furniture. That journey started in 2007 and he has been evolving ever since. His passion for rope may be influenced by over two decades of rock climbing and swiftwater rescue. His creativity and love of teaching, has inspired others to explore with rope. Sir Wieland also has a love for floggers and is often seen using floggers that he has made. He enjoys helping others to learn a variety of techniques, including Florentine. He is a sensual player whether with impact play or sliding a rope across a body. He and his partner, cat in milw, are co-facilitators of two SWIPE (Southern WI Power Exchange) groups in Milwaukee and Madison. They are also involved in many groups in Madison, Milwaukee and around the state. And yes, Sir Wieland is still making kinky toys and furniture
Rope made easy
This is an entertaining class for those that say they can’t tie knots and that rope takes too long. This is a hands-on class that shows how easy it can be. We will be showing you how to tie a simple cuff (boola boola), a couple arm ties, a basic chest tie, and a simple karada (body tie). With these concepts, you can be creative and develop your own ties and styles. We will talk briefly about safety, materials, and lengths and quickly get the rope in your hands. If you are unpartnered we will pair people up so everyone gets a chance to tie. If you have rope, bring 2- 20-30 ft. pieces, I will bring rope for folks to use. After learning a few ties, you will have a better idea of the lengths you may want to have.
This is a hands-on class where we take your basic ties and add some decorative twists and turns, to add more beauty. The ties we will work on include some chest tie variations, Karada variations, ankle cuff, and toe ties. Bring rope and a 20 ft. piece of paracord if you have it. We will also have rope and paracord to use.
We will discuss, materials, lengths, and different styles of floggers, safety, care and cleaning of your floggers. What makes it stingy vs. thuddy. We will show how to get different feels out of the same flogger and different ways to throw a flogger. Bring your floggers and try new techniques.
ROPE RAIDEN AND TWISTED PHOENIX
Rope Raiden and Phoenix hail from the Midwest and are experienced in many forms of BDSM play. While into a variety of BDSM play, their passion and love is rope, rope bondage and energy. Raiden is a switch that has excelled in the rope art community. Phoenix is a female dominant who happens to love being a rope bottom as well as an accomplished rope top in her own right. Their perspectives from both the top and bottoms sides make classes fun and informative! Together since 2004, married at a national rope event in 2008, they have studied and learned from some of the best rope masters in the United States and the world. They bring their unique style of humor, humility, and personality to many different events across the US. Their teaching and performance resume includes Exotica, RMR, Deviations, Dark Nirvana, GLLA, Galleria Domain 2, Shibaricon and Kinky Kollege to name a few. They are very happy to be back in Chicago at Spring Break sharing and educating.
The hogtie is probably one of the most famous ties in the bondage world. But when is a hogtie a HOGTIE? We have been in many different hogtie classes and while we typically pick things up, we have not seen a class that covers the variety of hogties that our class does. In 90 min, we cover 10+ different variations on the hogtie, a couple specific to male bottoms. Let us share with you some of our many variations on the hogtie – Hands up, hands down, legs together, legs apart, using double column ties in a hogtie among other variations. It happens to be one of our favorite ties. The hogtie can be versatile and fun allowing for tight bondage, sadistic play, sensual touching, and it can be great for teasing and orgasm. This hands-on class will lead you though a variety of ties to achieve different positions and results depending how you want to use it.
CHI OF ROPE – ENHANCING YOUR ENERGY PLAY
Rope is a dance, typically a beautiful dance of two people, a wonderful energy experience. People feel energy, want to play with energy and want to experience but do not understand it. This class demystifies energy and teaches people to connect with their own energy to enhance the energy experience of a partner. This is a hands-on class so bring your rope, a blanket, and a partner if you have one. We teach you how to balance your energy and focus your energy to play with someone else. The class will discuss energy, chakras, sensual uses of rope, the energy the rope can carry, teach people to connect with their partner, and teach them how to be more intimate with each other. We discuss energy orgasms, grounding and shielding in the class as well. As a married couple with extensive energy experience, we offer a unique perspective talking from both sides of the rope, top and bottom.
SIDEWAYS SUSPENSION TO INVERSION
This is one of our favorite suspensions and used a lot in our performances. We teach a sideways suspension then move the body to an inversion. We discuss safety, nerve compression, and harnesses for the two positions. This is one technique for going from sideways to inversion. We will cover safely tying the Takata Kote and the bowline to successfully get the bottom to the sideways suspension. We will end by playing with the bottom in the sideways position, tying the inversion harness and getting the bottom inverted and then safely back to the ground.
a) fresh from the bath and perfumed?
b) fresh from the bath without perfume?
c) clean but not right from the tub or shower?
d) slightly sweaty (or musky)?
My answer is all but a) fresh from the bath and perfumed? Cleanliness is all important. I do like perfumed scents, however it has to be just a HINT and not a strong scent. Nothing is yummier to me than a freshly cleaned body bathed or showered. I do enjoy scents especially when going out for dinner, etc, and there is nothing wrong with musky and sweaty, but I personally need a clean cock for a blow-job.
2. Do you maintain your body for sex with respect to facial hair, body hair, pubic hair, fingernails or toenails?
I love well-groomed facial hair on a man, I love an unshaven man below the belt too!
Yes, I epilate frequently- probably once a week, as hairs are slower to return and there is no razor burn, or sharp whiskers to deal with. A fine down grows back in and they are too soft and short before a week at least. Often a 2 week interval is more likely. Underarms- more frequently for sure.
I am fortunate to have very little body hair and since I have always been a true blond, it has never been an issue for me. All the other girls were complaining about shaving their legs in High School at that time.
My hands are a mess- I get very bad split and bleeding cuticles and hang-nails regardless of consistently using water barrier creams and lotions. I am constantly in and out of water and messes as I clean and go about my day. Master sends me to a nail salon for any occasion he chooses for a pedi and mani-cure. It makes me feel very special to have nice looking hands for a few days. ( I think my hands are the least attractive part of me.) From time to time I attempt my own- but it never comes out as nice and it takes hours!
3. Do you maintain/prepare according to your lover’s preferences?
There are times when Master tells me that I am to refrain from removing body hair for some time. Once in a while he lets me know he is due to arrive in a specific time frame and I will wait at the door until Master arrives. Sometimes I have enough time to change into something more attractive which pleases Master.
4. Do you have body adornments such as piercings or tattoos for sexual reasons? Does your lover?
I have a nose piercing that was the very first mark Master made to lay claim on me when we first met. It was something I had already considered and Master seized the opportunity to make that event his own. At the same time he had his left nipple pierced for me.
5. Do you choose any cosmetics, lubes, condoms or other sexually relevant items according to how they taste? Do you not use them because of the taste?
In short no- most cosmetics I buy do not have scents, nor do I want them there due to allergy concerns. We are fluid-bonded so we don’t use condoms as we are beyond the ability to conceive. If ever we play with people we don’t know we always use protection
6. Is there a taste or aroma that turns you on or that you can use to turn on your lover?
I have come to appreciate the value of coconut oil as a lube that is perfectly fine for oral uses as well. and the hint of coconut is quickly becoming my favorite!
Bonus: Do you prepare a room for sex–mood music, candles, scent, cleaning it or anything? Tell us about it.
Oh yes! A room cleared of clutter, and clean is an invite all to it’s own. Music background or a Kink.com film can inspire. Candles, a snack and beverage all set the stage. Toys surround us; from floggers, whips to clips, clamps and and spiky things all within reach. And of course most importantly to be in a good place mentally.
And I’ve had more than my share of sexual escapades.
Many more than my share!
Among the rare kinky sexual activities I’ve had the opportunity to take part in (the kind of thing that folks see in specialized porn but can rarely try at home) one of the most unique in my experience is water bondage.
Let me start off by saying that water bondage isn’t for everyone, and it shouldn’t be. Water bondage is a form of edge play, as even a strong swimmer may easily succumb to drowning when bound. Frankly, it’s something to partake in only in the hands of trained lifesaving professionals, not to mention people very experienced with bondage.
My ex-wife and former submissive, BlissfulTorment, was exactly that. She had the highest possible lifeguard/lifesaving certifications with the Red Cross, she was a personal trainer, not to mention a certified pool operator. She was also a nude model, but that’s a different story for another time, I digress.
While I didn’t hold all the certifications, I’d sat in on many of her classes, and reviewed all the source material. I didn’t bother to pay to get the certifications official, as it wasn’t my profession. I was always a stronger swimmer still than Bliss, so lifesaving techniques employed by lifeguards came easily to me.
When we took folks for fun and games at the pool Bliss operated and worked from, they were in safe hands, with not just one,l but two people trained in proper lifesaving techniques.
The other really cool thing about our situation at that time, was that the pool she operated was a therapy pool. It was kept at a higher temperature than most aquatic environemnts, so the water was always comfortably warm for the arthritis foundation classes Blissy taught.
Among other things, Blissy was trained and certified to work with paraplegics in the pool for water therapy. Lowering a body immobilized by bondage into the water with a Hoyer lift wasn’t much different than working with disabled individuals. I’m guessing the biggest difference was that therapy patients weren’t sporting a huge hard-on as they were lowered into the water.
Opportunities for that kind of play were always limited, the only time Blissy had a truly legitimate excuse to tend to the pool was at 3 AM was during periods of pool maintenance, when water had been drawn down and needed to be refilled overnight.
The most memorable session I remember at the pool, was a scene involving Blissy and a (mostly) gay guy named Larry who just loved her dominance. That was back in the days before digital cameras, so I spent most of the night wandering around the edges of the pool, looking to get good angles and lighting.
Well, that and trying to keep myself from getting distracted by the scene and accidentally falling into the pool. But, there was little actual time shooting pictures, especially compared to today. Film was expensive, so was developing, so I couldn’t shoot hundreds of photos like I might for a similar scene in 2014.
The current ultimate for the entertainment of the water bondage aficionado is Kink.com’s site Water Bondage. It’s not been “active” for some time, in other words new shoots aren’t being added, but many of the old episodes are classic. I know that Lew Reubens was the site’s primary director throughout the majority of it’s existence, so I’d think that much of the site’s flavor and appeal are due to his vision and direction. Regardless, it’s a great site for seeing more about this kind of play, and can be more than a little bit helpful to decide if it’s for you.
For those who are as at home in the water as they are outside it, water bondage has natural appeal. Blissy spent dozens of hours every week in the pool, teaching classes and giving private lessons. It was natural for her to want to play there too.
Water bondage also has great appeal to some breath play aficionados. It’s very simple for a dominant to control a submissive’s breath inside a pool or tank of water. Dangerously simple. And, that’s perhaps the appeal to some others who indulge in water bondage, the fear factor. Water bondage is edge play, have no doubt about it.
File it under “don’t try this at home”. Be aware that water bondage is a dangerous activity that has the potential to cost a life. Consider water bondage to be a form of play that’s restricted to being done only in the alert presence of a trained lifeguard/lifesaving professional. But, working within those strict restrictions, please do consider water bondage.
Playing in water can can transport us to simpler times, it can have a primal effect. Water bondage can be fearful, exciting, enervating, and a host of other things. Just make sure that safety is always the first consideration! Now go get wet!
She was known for most of her life as Dominique Aury, a name she may have first assumed while working in the French Underground. A graduate of the Sorbonne, Anne Desclos helped to distribute a subversive magazine named Lettres Françaises during the Nazi occupation of France. The editor of Lettres Françaises was Jean Paulhan, her lover.
My favorite description1 of Anne Desclos comes from a British journalist, who wrote:
Aury was an eminent figure in literary France . . . A translator, editor and judge of literary prizes, for a quarter of a decade, Aury was the only woman to sit on the reading committee of publishers Gallimard (a body that also included Albert Camus) and was a holder of the Légion d’Honneur. She could scarcely have been more highbrow, nor, according to de St Jorre, more quietly and soberly dressed, more ‘nun-like’.
~ Geraldine Bedell | I wrote the story of O
It must have been a fascinating life, living that particular exterior, yet underneath it all, the quiet, soberly dressed, nun-like creature was also the author of the Story of O.
Anne Desclos aka Dominique Aury aka Pauline Réage
Anne Desclos will be forever known to the BDSM community as Pauline Réage. If you aren’t familiar with the Story of O, you really must read it, it’s classic literature. Portions of it can be disturbing, some of the pictures it paints aren’t the prettiest. Yet, it’s an absolute staple of 20th century BDSM culture.
I can’t help but think of the Story of O every time I see rings in a pussy. The Upper Floor, Kink.com’s attempt to portray a highbrow BDSM culture, is another continual reminder of the Story of O‘s influence. My first exposure to objectification and the concept of “sharing” a submissive came from the book as well.
The Story of O will forever be a classic of BDSM literature, the influence it’s had on our community is the most obvious reason. And, it will also be a classic of sexual literature in general. not only was it penned by a famous literary figure, it was, most importantly, written by a woman. In that sense, it was the first of it’s kind!
At some point in time, I’d like to put together a proper biography of this fascinating women. Until then, here is Anne Desclos aka Dominique Aury aka Pauline Réage, in her own words.
Who I am finally, if not the long silent part of someone, the secret and nocturnal part which has never betrayed itself in public by any thought, word, or deed, but communicates through subterranean depths of the imaginary with dreams as old as the world itself?
I wasn’t young, I wasn’t pretty, it was necessary to find other weapons.
I think that submissiveness can [be] and is a formidable weapon, which women will use as long as it isn’t taken from them.
Is O used by René and Sir Stephen, or does she in fact use them, and…all those irons and chains and obligatory debauchery, to fulfill her own dream—that is, her own destruction and death? And, in some surreptitious way, isn’t she in charge of them? Doesn’t she bend them to her will?
Debauchery conceived of as a kind of ascetic experience is not new, either for men or for women, but until Story of O no woman to my knowledge had said it.
I think I have a repressed bent for the military, I like discipline without question, specific schedules and duties.
By my makeup and temperament I wasn’t really prey to physical desires. Everything happened in my head.
Story of O is a fairy tale for another world, a world where some part of me lived for a long time, a world that no longer exists except between the covers of a book.
I wrote it alone, for him, to interest him, to please him, to occupy him. I wasn’t young, nor particularly pretty. I needed something which might interest a man like him.
I found that stiffly saluting member, of which he was so proud, rather frightening, and to tell the truth I found his pride slightly comical. I thought that that must be embarrassing for him, and thought how much more pleasant it was to be a girl. That, by the way, is an opinion I still hold today.
To love is to live on the precipice.
Keep me rather in this cage, and feed me sparingly, if you dare. Anything that brings me closer to illness and the edge of death makes me more faithful. It is only when you make me suffer that I feel safe and secure. You should never have agreed to be a god for me if you were afraid to assume the duties of a god, and we know that they are not as tender as all that. You have already seen me cry. Now you must learn to relish my tears.
To say that from the moment her lover had left, O began to await his return would be an understatement. She turned into pure vigil, darkness in waiting expectation of light.
The fact that he gave her was to him a proof, and ought to be one for her as well that she belonged to him: one can only give what belongs to you.
As a matter of fact,” the other voice went on, “if you do tie her up from time to time, or whip her just a little, and she begins to like it, that’s no good either. You have to get past the pleasure stage, until you reach the stage of tears.
O was infinitely more moving when her body was covered with marks, of whatever kind, if only because these marks made it impossible for her to cheat and immediately proclaimed, the moment they were seen, that anything went as far as she was concerned. For to know this was one thing, but to see the proof of it, and to see the proof constantly renewed, was quite another.
O felt that her mouth was beautiful, since her lover condescended to thrust himself into it . . .
Lovers and mystics are familiar with this sense of grandeur, this taste of joy – in abandoning oneself to the will of others.
The voluntary captive The speechless the prisoner Which I hide in my very depths…
Dominique Aury aka Pauline Réage at work (pencil drawing conversion from old photograph)