The Joy of Kink is Live!

The Joy of Kink is Live!

Joy of Kink! It’s Here

JoyOfKink.com Opens Primarily Due to Sinnjara’s Technical Work

The Joy of Kink is finally open!

I’ve still got months of work there restoring old articles going back to 2011 from both MichaelSamadhi.com and SpiritualBDSM.com.

Some will be completely rewritten, showing up at Joy of Kink completely transformed from their previous posting. Others will remain “as is”, outside of some loving restoration as they are transferred. Over time, many of the old articles will disappear from this site, redirected to the Joy of Kink.

Joy of Kink logo

Welcome to the Joy of Kink, a sex-positive website dedicated to exploring kink, BDSM, fetish, Tantra, and alternative sexuality in all its guises.

Source: Willkommen, Bienvenue, Welcome | Joy of Kink

By no means am I giving up on this domain.

This site -MichaelSamadhi.com- will be all about sharing the news and stories I’m reading. I have a few other purposes in mind too. Please bear with me as we clean up all the “virtual dust” from the construction.

There’s still a long way to go in the renovations behind the scenes for Samadhi Chateau’s virtual homes, but the Joy of Kink is up and looking good…

Transgender People and “Biological Sex” Myths – Julia Serano – Medium

Transgender People and “Biological Sex” Myths – Julia Serano – Medium

Julia Serano’s logic seems very sound to me. I think I’d like to read more of her writing. I’ve read a lot of Patrick Califia, but am not as well educated on Transgender issues as I’d like…

“The idea of two sexes is simplistic. Biologists now think there is a wider spectrum than that.”

note: The day this was published, H.R. 2796 — a U.S. congressional bill that would legally re-define “man” and “woman” based on an individual’s “genetic sex,” as a means to rollback transgender rights — started to garner news & media attention. While this essay was not intended to address that bill specifically, it thoroughly undermines its logical, legal, and scientific standing…

The primary assumption driving most “biological sex” myths is that there are two discrete mutually exclusive sexes that are immutable (i.e., once born into a sex, you will always be a member of that sex). While there are a number of sexually dimorphic traits — such as chromosomes, gonads, external genitals, other reproductive organs, ratio of sex hormones, and secondary sex characteristics — many times these traits do not all align (i.e., all male, or all female) within the same person, as is the case for intersex and many transgender people…

Source: Transgender People and “Biological Sex” Myths – Julia Serano – Medium

Between starting this news blurb, and completing it, I did order a paperback copy of Serano’s book, Whipping Girl.

It’ll likely take me a few weeks to absorb everything. So, you should look for an upcoming review of Whipping Girl: A Transsexual Woman on Sexism and the Scapegoating of Femininity at the Joy of Kink sometime after the New Year…

I Accidentally Fell Into the Feeder Fetish Community

I Accidentally Fell Into the Feeder Fetish Community

I wrote a little about food play at SpiritualBDSM.com all the way back in 2011.

While I would put all food-related fetishes into a single category together, there are actually many varied forms of “food play” …

The act of feeding and being fed elicits conversation, forges bonds, and creates community. Food is exciting. I, myself, am a cute fat girl who accidentally came into contact with my first ‘feeder’, a guy who experiences erotic pleasure from feeding.

Source: I Accidentally Fell Into the Feeder Fetish Community

I don’t have a feeder fetish. But, I do know and understand the power of feeding a kneeling submissive. I wrote a little teaser about it for Masturbation Monday over at the Joy of Kink called – The Naked Lunch.

I’m of the thought that it would be fun to write an entire series of posts about food-related fetishes.

Some, like splooshing, I’ve experienced. Others, like Nyotaimori, are still on my personal bucket-list.

 

Navy pilot draws a penis in the sky!

Navy pilot draws a penis in the sky!

A Navy pilot drew a penis in the sky.

It’s not the 1st time something like this has been investigated…

penis in the sky nacy jet

Penis in the Sky
 
A penis in the sky? Seriously?
 
I thought about making a bunch of dick jokes at the head of this post.
I decided not to bother, the joke is on the Navy.
One of their pilots creating a penis in the sky is more than enough…
Residents of Washington state turned their eyes to a clear blue sky Thursday and found themselves staring at a cartoonish rendering of male genitalia, sketched in smoke by at least one Navy EA-18G Growler jet flying out of Naval Air Station Whidbey Island.
The image stretched hundreds of feet high over the Okanogan highlands, based on photographs shared on social media.
Lt. Cmdr. Leslie Hubbell, a Navy spokeswoman, called the incident “absolutely unacceptable,” saying it holds no training value and is under investigation.
The unit involved, Electronic Attack Squadron 130, flies a two-person variant of the F/A-18 Super Hornet and specializes in electronic warfare.

Source: A Navy pilot drew a penis in the sky. It’s not the 1st time something like this has been investigated.

I know that the individuals serving in our military face great pressures. These Navy pilots are portrayed pretty realistically in Top Gun. They are alpha males under extreme pressure to excel. it’s a matter of survival.
 
But, a penis in the sky? C’mon man!
 
The Navy invests vast resources to train pilots. It could be argued that Navy pilots trained to operate from aircraft carriers are among the most highly trained individuals in our military
 
It’s understandable that they occasionally blow off some steam. Pull some pranks. A little of that is inherent in the position these young men fill.
 
But there have to be limits. As in the kink community, some of those limits have to be hard limits.
And, when a hard limit is broken there are consequences. We may never know what discipline the young men who drew a penis in the sky face. Undoubtedly, this will impact their career. It should…

Recipe for Michael’s Smile | Smutober Day 8

Michael’s Recipe for Gastronomical Satisfaction | Smutober Day 8

It really doesn’t get any better than this

Recipe for a Simple Man?

What is the perfect recipe for Michael? Despite some rumors to the contrary, I’d like to believe that I’m really a simple man. Perhaps that leads to a simple recipe?

Truth be told, I’m more than a little bit of a hedonist. At the same time, I ascribe to Buddhist beliefs. They are traditions that seem to hold opposing viewpoints on life.

Most Buddhists are vegetarian. I’m a confirmed meatasaurus. Of course, I’m a non-traditional Tantric Buddhist/pagan. That makes a difference, I suppose.

Hedonists are known, in many cases, for their excesses. Buddhism teaches moderation. I tend to ascribe to the Buddhist side of the equation here. With that said, you don’t often hear that living a BDSM lifestyle is a path of moderation…

Perhaps I’m not so simple after all?

A Tantric Recipe?

When it comes to the ideal meal, a Tantric ritual called Panchamakara comes to mind. Essentially, it’s a ritual meal accompanied by intercourse. Also known as the “Five M’s”, Panchamakara is a Tantric term referencing the five substances used as part of the ritual.

  • madya (wine)
  • māṃsa (meat)
  • matsya (fish)
  • mudrā (parched grain)
  • maithuna (sexual intercourse)

As I noted above, the taboo-breaking elements of this ritual (the consumption of meat etc.) are only literally practiced by “left-hand path” Tantrics (vāmācārin), whereas “right-hand path” Tantrics (dakṣiṇācārin) oppose that interpretation of this ritual.

Obviously then, I follow the left-hand path…

These functions are the subject of the Panchatattva or Panchamakara (“five Ms”), as they are vulgarly called–viz.: Madya (wine), Mangsa (meat), Matsya (fish), Mudra (parched grain), and Maithuna. In ordinary parlance, Mudra means ritual gestures or positions of the body in worship and Hatha Yoga but as one of the five elements it is parched cereal and is defined as ‘Bhrishta-danya dikang yadyad chavya-niyam prachaks-hate, sa mudra kathita devi sarvves-hang naganam-dini’. The Tantras speak of the five elements as Panchatattva, Kuladravya, Kulatattva and certain of the elements have esoteric names, such as Karanavari or Tirtha-vari, for wine, the fifth element being usually called Lata-sadhana (Sadhana with woman or Shakti). The five elements, moreover have various meanings, according as they form part of the Tamasika (Pashvachara), Rajasika (Virachara) or Divya or Sattvika sadhanas respectively.

Arthur Avalon (Sir John Woodroffe)

Mahanirvana Tantra

Recipe for Kink

If you didn’t fully understand Woodroffe’s quote, that’s ok. It makes my eyes blur a little too.

I included it, not only to describe the five M’s, but also to illustrate how difficult it was to study Tantra before it was popularized in the West during the sexual revolution. I only know a small handful of Sanskrit terms, and I’ve been following my own Tantric path since the mid-1990’s.

I’m not a very good Buddhist, to be quite honest. I lost my spiritual mentor something like 15 years ago. Even then, it wasn’t a simple path I chose for myself.

Without his wisdom, my personal path combining BDSM and Tantra has gravitated more and more towards the kink side of the equation. I haven’t truly practiced the Tantric ritual of Panchamakara for more than a decade…

Recipe for Smiles – Michael’s Edition

Perhaps I really am a simple man after all.

Give me a nice ribeye steak, a side of good vegetables, and I’m thrilled. A glass of wine is nice, but I’m a Type II diabetic, I’d probably prefer a cup of coffee or a diet soft drink. That’s really all it takes.

And, that’s my recipe for you too – pure simplicity. No courses. No sauces or glazes. Nothing marinated.

Sometimes it’s just the simple things in life…