There are times when I just want to walk through a room, grab that girl, slap her hard and make her cry. Push her down and fuck her mind over twice as hard as her body. Sometimes, I want to be that girl.Laura Antoniou
dildo flippin' fun
I saw this on Facebook today, and thought it was an absolute hoot!
Perhaps even better than the video itself, was the commentary offered by renowned BDSM author, Laura Antoniou.
Here. You wanna have a new freakin’ contest in the kink scene? This. I want to see the quarter-finals for this, and the grand…er…slam. I guess? I want to see folks going all balls to the wall while flinging their johnsons.
I want to hear announcers and color-folk and their coverage.
“And here’s Master Wolfdick, he surprised us all with that Triple Tallywhacker in Tulsa…”
“Oh, what a disappointment for Pup Waggletail! Her Bouncing Boner is *just* outside the target area. That’ll for sure put a knot in her plans to head for the final round.”
“Slave Stoneybutt approaches the line, eyes the course. Hey, is that the new Love Truncheon model from Dicks by Dykes, Sally?”
“It sure is, Jake, available in the vendor space for only $19.99 tonight…”
“Wow, look at that arc! This fucker really knows how to fly! And that’s one bounce – a flip – and it sticks the landing! Amazing!”
“Right on target! that’s some fast fascinus, for sure – I bet we’ll be seeing a lot more of those in future trials. Remember, the Love Truncheon is made in 16 colors and patterns by Dicks by Dykes, an official sponsor of the Northwest Goodfellow Games!”Laura Antoniou
Antoniou’s commentary was as much fun (for me) as the video itself.
Laura is, of course, the author of the Marketplace series, a true classic in kink literature.
And, she’s no stranger to writing comedy/satire either. Her book, The Killer Wore Leather, is a satirical classic in its own right.
I’d considered writing my own commentary, similar to Laura’s. But, when in the presence of a Master of their trade…
Anyway, I hope it’s all good, eliciting a giggle (or laughter) for you too.
"Life itself is a quotation"-- Jorge Luis Borges
The wisdom of the wise, and the experience of ages, may be preserved by quotation.Isaac D'Israeli
quote of the day
I’m sure you’ve noticed my Quote of the Day feature.
It’s rather hard to miss.
A friend of mine asked the other day why I was cluttering up my blog with all the quotes.
Their point was that the blog is called Michael’s Way. Not DeSade’s way. Nor Antoniou’s way. Not Califia’s way either.
So why? Why are there all those damned quotes?
Bear with me please, I’ll answer that question in a moment.
But, right now, I must admit that quotes make up about 60% of the posts. That’s a ratio that certainly won’t get any lower as long as I post daily quotes. And, you should know, the percentage of quotes might go higher still.
Creating good content takes time. It takes inspiration. It’s not likely I’ll keep up with the nearly post a day pace I’ve set so far. At least not for long.
So, no matter how well I do with writing, the Quote of the Day feature will always be the (numerically) greatest part of Michael’s Way.
Perhaps life itself really is a quotation.
A fine quotation is a diamond in the hand of a man of wit and a pebble in the hand of a fool.Joseph Roux
I’ve been collecting quotes since I turned 21.
That’s more than 30 years (and counting.)
Back in the day, as I read, I would fill notebooks with quotes. Everything was “fair game”. Anything I poked my nose into.
From Dumas’ Three Musketeers, to Thoreau’s Walden, on to No One Here Gets Out Alive, and Up and Down With the Rolling Stones.
Anytime I found a tidbit of wisdom (or perhaps obvious stupidity) I’d grab a notebook and pen, and faithfully copy the quotation.
I always felt that this practice made my reading more mindful.
It seemed that reading carefully enough to cull good quotes also facilitated better comprehension.
Well, the notebooks are long gone. I think they disappeared during a big move.
But, the passion for collecting quotes remains.
Your host, Michael Samadhi
Every man is a quotation from all his ancestors.Ralph Waldo Emerson
about Quote of the Day
My hope is, when I share each Quote of the Day, that the words will have potential meaning for somebody. Anybody.
I expect that the original author’s message will strike a chord.
That’s exactly what the quotes do for me.
In fact, I’ll share a little secret with you — the quotes really aren’t for my readers.
While I happily share them with my friends, their real purpose is more personal.
Most of the quotes have some kind of unique meaning to me.
Perhaps it’s a special memory surrounding me from when the quote was discovered.
It’s may be that the quote is a signpost, or remembrance, from my journey.
Sometimes a quote serves more as a reminder.
Maybe of something I hope to change in my own life.
Or something I know, but hope to reinforce.
Really, my personal purpose in sharing a quote could be almost anything.
Regardless of whatever they might do for me, I hope the quotations I share do something for you too.
Getting fucked and being owned are inseparably the same.Andrea Dworkin
Believe it or not, Dworkin’s quotation (above) was the original inspiration for this post. My writing took on an unanticipated direction from there.
That happens. When words start getting transferred from my brain through the keyboard, intent and direction will sometimes shift.
But, there’s no escaping that this post was inspired by Dworkin. It was originally intended to explain why I’d quote someone I do not respect.
My feelings about her run strong and deep. Saying, “She was not my cup of tea,” would be a serious understatement. Andrea’s an individual I never met, never would have wished to meet.
Sat down, alone in a room with her when she was still alive, I’d call a safeword within moments. Yes, it’s really that bad.
You see then, perhaps, why I’m just not comfortable quoting Andrea Dworkin without significant explanation.
A post was necessary to explain the context of her statement. A disclaimer was needed to assure readers I don’t agree.
Andrea is a warrior from the “porn wars” days that I mentioned in my review for The Price of Pleasure. She’s anything but sex positive.
Seen through her eyes, sex is always about … Violence. Oppression. Rape.
She once wrote that intercourse is a – “Means of physiologically making a woman inferior.”
Before learning of Dworkin, I never imagined anyone could make the “religious right” seem tolerant and sex-positive by comparison. She makes it look easy.
Did I say, “Wow!”? Yes, I certainly meant it.
I clearly don’t agree with her. So, I quote Andrea Dworkin, not to give traction to her words. Instead, they are here for education and discussion. In order to grapple with a mindset like Andrea’s, we first must examine it.
Yes, there really are people out there who think that sex is violent, oppressive, and never joyful.
I can’t help telling them how wrong they really are.
I’m not a fan of Dworken, which should come as no surprise. She always was, it seems, anything but sex positive. For instance, she once wrote that intercourse is a – “means of physiologically making a woman inferior” – a statement with which I would strongly disagree. I’d argue that intercourse is a means of making a woman physiologically superior, as no man alive is capable of having ten orgasms in a single lovemaking session.
As I’ve alluded to before, in the mindset of spiritual sex, we become God and Goddess incarnate when we make love. Yes, I desire to captivate my partner. I wish to enthrall and engage, excite and delight, and yes, of course, possess her too. But the idea of making her mine isn’t to diminish her in any manner. Instead, it’s meant to elevate us both!Michael Samadhi
Before a show, I’ll go backstage and everyone’s getting dressed, and everything else, and you know, no men are anywhere, and I’m allowed to go in because I’m the owner of the pageant and therefore I’m inspecting it.
You know, I’m inspecting because I want to make sure that everything is good.
You know, they’re standing there with no clothes.
‘Is everybody okay?’
And you see these incredible looking women, and so, I sort of get away with things like that.
Donald Trump’ is another individual I wouldn’t dream of quoting without explanation.
I’ve wanted to post this particular quote for some time. But, I just couldn’t do so without a note explaining my thoughts on the quotation.
Yes, what the Donald said is despicable. Deplorable. Unjustifiable. Wrong in so very many ways.
With all of that said, if we set aside the revulsion many people feel towards Trump. If we set aside the non-consensual nature of his peep show behavior. And, we pretend for just a moment that his behavior wasn’t predatory.
We view his words from a different angle …
What he’s describing is pure voyeurism.
And, it’s also a very good metaphor for the inequalities and injustices of society in the United States. If a poor person confesses to being a peeping tom, they get a trip to the big house. They are suddenly registered as a sex offender.
When Donald Trump makes a similar confession, he gets a trip to the White House. Not fair!
his harem fantasy
Looking at it from yet another perspective, the quote transforms into something different still.
Seen through the eyes of an unrepentant kinkster, without the predatory context, Trump’s recounting is essentially a harem fantasy.
I touched on those briefly while discussing Jean-Léon Gérôme’s exotic art. It’s a relatively common male fantasy. Harmless as long as it remains a fantasy.
He’s not a sultan by any means, but Trump did have the resources to purchase a beauty pageant. That bought him access. Donald’s one of the few individuals on the planet with the revenue to live out even a portion of the harem fantasy.
Still, it’s despicable that he gave into the temptation to walk into the woman’s changing area. Deplorable that he acted on the impulse. Worse still that he bragged about it after the fact. Obviously, Donald’s behavior was anything but harmless.
He victimized an entire room of young women. Bad. Very bad.
But, as a quote, it was hard to pass up …
Don’t worry, ladies, I’ve seen it all before.Donald Trump
it’s still Michael’s Way
Hopefully, my friend (if they read this) now realizes that quoting Antoniou or Califia doesn’t make this blog about their way.
Afterall, I found and selected the quotes.
Their messages all have significant meaning to me. For some of the quotations, that meaning is very profound.
And, in one way or another, they are relevant to my journey.
I often deliberately interpret the quotes, at least in my mind, through the eyes of an unrepentant kinkster.
I’m not always interested in the author’s intent when posting the quotation. I find my own.
If you are willing to look deep enough, you may also find the quotes are relevant (and have meaning) for your journey too.
Quotation, n: The act of repeating erroneously the words of another.Ambrose Bierce
A quotation in a speech, article or book is like a rifle in the hands of an infantryman. It speaks with authority.Brendan Behan
An apt quotation is like a lamp which flings its light over the whole sentence.Letitia Elizabeth Landon
When one begins to live by habit and by quotation, one has begun to stop living.James A. Baldwin
A facility for quotation covers the absence of original thought.Dorothy L. Sayers
Quotation is a serviceable substitute for wit.Oscar Wilde
slave auctions, harems, hookahs
Jean-Léon Gérôme is not a name I knew.
Not before a few years ago.
I’m no art critic. Art is not a subject where I’m inherently knowledgeable.
I was a science guy.
I’m the only person to ever graduate from a certain college prep school without a single art class.
Art was a prerequisite for graduation. Not just a semester, or two. The requirement was two full years of art classes.
I was inherently strong in the natural sciences. A perfect ACT score on that subject.
So the art requirement was waived. Not at my request. I wanted the art classes.
The school, however, wanted me taking science.
Harem Pool by Jean-Léon Gérôme
art of the odalisque
A gentleman named Tanos, a well-known figure in the BDSM community, initially turned me onto Gérôme.
I don’t know him personally. Tanos hails from across the pond in England. But, going back for 20 years, he’s developed websites on some serious BDSM related topics.
I’ve read his writing on a concept called ‘Internal Enslavement‘. Ideas there influenced my own thinking about M/s relationships.
He also has a serious interest in odalisques.
Perhaps you don’t know what an odalisque is? Neither did I before I first ran across an entire website centered around the concept.
On Odalisques.com, Tanos says:
This site explores the imagined world of the Near East, especially of Ottoman Turkey and Egypt, created by mostly western painters and writers and centered on the figure of the odalisque – a female slave in a harem, trained to serve her Master’s pleasure, and assigned to sexual rather than domestic duties. Rather than a faithful record of these Near Eastern cultures, it was a deep and penetrating reflection of often unacknowledged desires in Western audiences connecting sex, power and sensual pleasures.
This Odalisquian world has many elements which we would now identify with BDSM, especially D/s, M/s or O&P relationships, and this appreciation of Odalisquian imagery lives on within the modern BDSM scene.
I really enjoy the fantasy. I also have a great appreciation of odalisquian imagery.
Obviously then, it was on Tanos’ site devoted to female harem slaves that I discovered the art of Jean-Léon Gérôme.
Selling Slaves in Rome by Jean-Léon Gérôme
Jean-Léon Gérôme the man
I’m told that Gérôme was a French painter and sculptor who lived from 1824 until 1904.
Born in Vesoul, a modest size town in eastern France, not far from the Swiss and German borders. He died in Paris.
Jean-Léon was a very prominent figure in the art movement known as academicism.
I could try and explain what that means, but folks who have had an art appreciation course already know better than myself.
From my research, I know that a vase he painted was offered to Prince Albert by Emperor Napoleon III.
I assume that sort of gift not only honors the recipient, but also the artist.
The vase hasn’t been discarded by any means. It’s now a part of the Royal Collection at St. James’s Palace in London.
I also understand that Jean-Léon Gérôme’s influence extended far beyond his own work.
A good number of students, from his time teaching at the prestigious Ecole des Beaux-Arts, rose to prominence on their own merits.
In 1856, Gérôme visited Egypt for the first time. This trip became a major influence.
Hereafter, one of the important artistic styles he adopted was Orientalism.
Individuals with a simple art appreciation course under their belts can probably explain that style better than I.
It’s said, at least in some art circles, that Jean-Léon Gérôme’s greatest works are from his Orientalist period.
That’s also the area where Tanos’ interests seem to intersect with the artist’s.
Gérôme created many paintings that I most of them displayed here.
While not all of them had an Eastern influence, I would tend to agree about the period of his greatest creations – Orientalism.
To my eye, his best erotic masterpieces are depictions of harems.
I have to add, I’m also quite struck by his portraits of slave girls on the auction block.
As I’ve already pointed out, I’m no art critic. I have no formal training in understanding or appreciating art.
I’m just a man who knows what he likes.
I get the feeling that Mr. Gérôme certainly knew what he liked too.
Allumeuse de Narghilé (The Teaser of the Narghile) by Jean-Léon Gérôme
do not misunderstand
For folks who might be reading this that don’t already understand BDSM.
Or harem fantasies.
Or, who are perhaps horrified that an individual like myself might enjoy the spectacle of a slave auction?
It can’t be stressed strongly enough that everything I do is 100%, without question, totally consensual.
I only do what I do with the willing.
I also cannot stress this point strongly enough — I find no excitement in the specter of real life human trafficking.
It’s difficult for me to watch television shows, or movies, that include women being trafficked as sex slaves.
Those kinds of themes upset my delicate sensibilities.
The mere thought is absolutely abhorrent to me.
Slave Market (or For Sale) by Jean-Léon Gérôme
The Serpent Charmer by Jean-Léon Gérôme
When you draw, form is the important thing. But in painting the first thing is to look for the general impression of color … Always paint a direct sketch from nature every day.Jean-Léon Gérôme
it’s fantasy (a good one)
On the other hand …
The fantasy of having a slave auction involving consensual slaves who are willingly put on the auction block – that’s hot!
Under those conditions …
Don’t believe me?
Ask Laura Antoniou.
Laura’s Marketplace series of books is based entirely on the fantasy of slaves being trained for service.
Having dreamed of willingly, even enthusiastically, puting themselves on the auction block.
In the Marketplace, slaves are valued quite highly.
But their terms of service are not unlike a strict business contract.
Albeit, a contract with corporal, rather than corporate, punishment.
To my mind, Antoniou is by far the most successful BDSM author of my generation.
By success, I mean greatness.
In the end, however, it’s all a fantasy.
An excellent one.
But, just a fantasy.
Moorish Bath by Jean-Léon Gérôme
Jean-Léon Gérôme – kinkster?
For reasons already explained, I can’t speak intelligently about Gérôme in terms of art criticism.
Understanding and analyzing fine art isn’t part of my personal skill set.
I am who I am.
My knowledge is concentrated around the interests I’ve decided to pursue.
But I do know kink. I know it well.
I understand people with a kinky bent.
Folks with fetishes. Perversions.
In Jean-Léon Gérôme I sense a kindred spirit.
Jean-Léon certainly had a great appreciation for the feminine form.
His portrayals of women are beautiful. Sometimes stunning.
an artist’s fetishes
I get the feeling Gérôme has more than a little fetish for bathing women.
That particular subject is revisited time and again in his work.
How advantageous must it have been to be a renowned artist?
“Hello, my name is Jean-Léon Gérôme. Yes, the celebrated artist.”
“I need access to your harems, and private baths, so that I might record their majesty for posterity … “
Obviously, something like that worked for Jean-Léon. He accessed locations entirely forbidden to most men.
Gérôme’s also repeatedly chooses slave auction themes for his paintings. Those subjects cross multiple cultures and eras.
With that in mind, it’s not hard for me to believe Jean-Léon had some sort of slave auction fantasy at work.
Pygmalion and seraglios
There is no escaping Jean-Léon Gérôme’s love of the harem as subject matter for his paintings.
Called the seraglio, serail, or zenana in some cultures; harems are a specialized form of women’s quarters.
Considered a sacred inviolable place, harems house a man’s concubines (and wives) away from the gaze and desires of other men.
As I said before, I will always be astounded at Jean-Léon’s continual ability to access such private areas for his work.
It must be a great honor to be invited for a glimpse of an empty harem bath, let alone to be allowed to stay and paint.
For men, having a harem, or some sort of facsimile, is a relatively common fantasy.
It’s also one of those things that are easier said than done.
Even if it were possible to build a harem in this modern day; it would be a rare man with the money, power, and appetites necessary to keep it in place.
Still, it’s another nice fantasy. And, it’s one I have to believe I share with Jean-Léon.
statues come to life
Here was an individual who worked as both a painter and a sculptor. In combining his love for both mediums, Gérôme returned time and time again to a classic tale from mythology.
It’s a story with some serious legs.
Dating back to Greek mythology, told most famously in Ovid’s Metamorphoses, it’s been portrayed in a variety of forms.
For instance, Disney’s Pinocchio is little more than a bowdlerized and embellished retelling of Pygmalion.
Disney couldn’t have a sculptor feeling romantic love for his work in a G-rated movie for kids. (We were thankfully spared that kind of romance for an inanimate object until Andrew McCarthy in Mannequin.)
So, Pygmalion morphed into Mister Geppetto. Romantic love for a statue was switched off in favor of fatherly love for a puppet.
It’s a sweet story either way. And it’s a story that clearly fascinated Jean-Léon Gérôme.
Was he fascinated to the point of fetishizing statues? Perhaps his dream was a harem of statues coming to life?
Those questions will likely remain forever unanswered.
narghiles and hookahs oh my
Jean-Léon was a 19th-century man with more than enough fetishes to flesh out a FetLife profile.
With as many seeming fetish interests as I’ve already covered, I can see one more potential kinky interest for our friend, Jean-Léon Gérôme.
It certainly could be argued, from the frequent appearance of hookahs in his paintings, that the renowned French artist may have had a touch of a smoking fetish.
Granted, narghiles are relatively common in a good number of Orientalist paintings.
Certainly, the appearance of a hookah immediately identifies a painting as portraying a scene from the East.
Perhaps Gérôme was intrigued by the culture surrounding drugs like hashish?
Perhaps he was enthralled with seeing beautiful harem ladies smoking?
I’ll never know for sure. But, it’s just one more potential kink to add to Jean-Léon’s list.
The Slave For Sale by Jean-Léon Gérôme
As a very unorthodox academic painter, Gérôme knew how to represent history as a dramatic spectacle and, by creating particularly convincing images, could make the spectator an eyewitness to events ranging from Classical antiquity to his own times.Musée d'Orsay
I have to think, that in today’s day and age, Jean-Léon Gérôme’s primary profession would be fetish photography.
Of course, that’s pure supposition.
But, it seems to be a fairly well-educated guess.
During his lifetime, Gérôme expressed admiration for, and great confidence in, the photographic medium.
Although it was in relative infancy at the end of Jean-Léon’s life, he envisioned photography completely overtaking his style of realistic painting.
He was quite correct on that point.
It would be perfectly natural for a man of Jean-Léon Gérôme’s talents to adopt the photographic arts.
Fetish photography would well suit his artistic eye.
And, it would give him potential access to the secret places that exist in the modern world.
After all, the man would have to fulfill all those fetishes somehow.
So, I see a modern day Jean-Léon Gérôme as something like a supercharged Eric Kroll.
However, I’m not sure that working exclusively thru the lens of a camera would be enough to satisfy a man like Gérôme.
A man with so many talents.
He would need more.
I think a good secondary avocation, for a modern day Jean-Léon, would be producing exquisite sculptures of exotic subjects.
Some things never change …
I want to know the things you still can’t bring yourself to ask,” Chris continued. He pushed her hands together behind her and she felt him pressing her against the edge of the doorway into the bedroom, trapping her between the wall and his body. It hurt, but she didn’t care. “You don’t even know the scale of your fantasies which I can fulfill,” he said with a tone that was at once seductive and menacing. “There’s nothing you’ve ever imagined that I can’t create for you.”Laura Antoniou