Some days, no matter how hard you might try to write, inspiration escapes.
I want to write about BDSM education. Why it’s important. Fuck, it’s more than important, it’s essential. Some of the shit we do is dangerous. Some of it can kill you. Despite all of the day’s distractions, I got a great introduction written. Then, an internet hiccup swallowed it…
Coming back, what little inspiration I had gathered was now lost. So, what if a little kinky sex might get you hurt, there are so many other things in life that can kill a person. Things like a gunman shooting people at a concert.
More than 50 dead, 10 times that many wounded in Las Vegas.
What’s more important? Being taught how not to set yourself on fire in a dungeon, or learning how to run from gunfire at a concert? I’d like to assure myself that you, my dear reader, will be far more likely to need the former more than the latter. Unfortunately, I am not convinced. Since I’ve not heard of any fatal dungeon accidents so far this year, it’s a pretty tough sell.
I shut off the news when they asked the question – “Is this the new normal?”
Fuck me! The new normal? I mean really… What the fuck? That means it’s better to take your chances with uninformed breath play than it is to go to a concert or nightclub. Perhaps I should title my next demo, “Put a plastic bag over your heads kids, it’s safer than going out on the streets…”???!!!???
BDSM can be likened to “graduate level sex”. Many of the things we do for fun are slightly safer than skydiving. Would you go skydiving without instruction?
I’m telling you that reading how-to articles isn’t enough. Would you skydive based on watching “50 shades of parachutes” and reading a blog? Even after reading 100 blogs? I sure hope not.
There is only one answer. Venture forth into the world. Attended events with instruction and demos. Join groups. Find a mentor. Get first-hand instruction. There is no substitute for experience when it comes to edge play. Like it, or not, something as simple as using a gag can kill your partner if used improperly, or without proper caution…
Please hold your loved ones close tonight. Practice safe sex in all it’s guises. When it comes to BDSM, to be honest, the only way you’ll ever even know what “‘safe” means is to go forth and learn from the experienced. Just do it!
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