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I’ve still got months of work there restoring old articles going back to 2011 from both MichaelSamadhi.com and SpiritualBDSM.com.

Some will be completely rewritten, showing up at Joy of Kink completely transformed from their previous posting. Others will remain “as is”, outside of some loving restoration as they are transferred. Over time, many of the old articles will disappear from this site, redirected to the Joy of Kink.

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By no means am I giving up on this domain.

This site -MichaelSamadhi.com- will be all about sharing the news and stories I’m reading. I have a few other purposes in mind too. Please bear with me as we clean up all the “virtual dust” from the construction.

There’s still a long way to go in the renovations behind the scenes for Samadhi Chateau’s virtual homes, but the Joy of Kink is up and looking good…

Trump Tweets Transgender Armed Forces Ban

their willingness to put themselves in harm's way somehow isn't enough?

Before any American points a finger at President Putin and calls him nasty names, they should recognize that a lot of Americans agree with Putin on his stance against homosexual and transgender people.

Henry Rollins

It turns out the statement by Henry Rollins, a long-time human rights activist, was prescient.

There are indeed a lot of people whose beliefs are similar to Vladimir Putin when it comes to transgender and homosexual individuals.

Sadly, one of them is our own President.

Reacting to Trump’s Transgender Twitterstorm

I’m sure you’ve already heard about Donald Trump’s twitterstorm…

OK.  Considering the frequency with which “the Donald” tweets, I should probably be more specific.

I’m referring to the three tweets from July 26th, 2017.  The tweets where he announced a ban on transgendered individuals serving in the armed forces.

It’s pretty clear, from all indications, that this is a political move on Trump’s part.

This is an issue that was already settled for our armed forces.  Transgendered people are currently serving in the military.

As many as 15,000 patriotic transgendered citizens currently serve in the military.  The sky hasn’t fallen.  National defense has not been compromised.

no reason… none

Trump’s tweets seemingly jumped the gun on this issue too, catching military leadership unprepared.

Only a month ago, Defense Secretary James Mattis called for a six-month study of armed services policies regarding transgendered persons.  Action on the issue was to be deferred until the study’s completion.

For those who believe the real reason was cost, check again.  The US military spends more on Viagra/Cialis alone than it costs to support their transgendered population.

There are already 15,000 patriotic, transgender Americans serving in our military, and this ban will cause a huge disruption. Furthermore, this puts the careers of patriotic transgender Americans on the line who want nothing more than to serve their country.

Gay & Lesbian Alliance Against Defamation (GLAAD)

Our armed forces are 100% volunteer.

That means the brave transgendered who are in the military stepped forward for duty.  They chose to serve in defense of their country.

There is no good reason to deny them that opportunity.

None.

response

The counter reaction to Trump’s tweets was swift and vigorous.

Chelsea Manning (perhaps a catalyst for Trump’s move) replied quickly.  So did Caitlyn Jenner (who had been a vocal Trump supporter.)

The United States armed forces even pushed back.

I know there are questions about yesterday’s announcement on the transgender policy by the President.  There will be no modifications to the current policy until the President’s direction has been received by the Secretary of Defense and the Secretary has issued implementation guidance.

Marine General Joseph Dunford

Chairman of the Joint Chiefs of Staff

politics?

Admittedly, the President does have his defenders.

They are the people referred to by Henry Rollins.  They are the people who voted for Trump.

Because of their religious beliefs and/or conservative values, they refuse to accept the transgendered.

Not in their schools.  Not in their churches.  And certainly not in their military.

It’s that political constituency the twitterstorm plays towards.

But it’s not what it seems.

Trump’s tweets are not meant to give our country a better military.  No, they are meant to paint the Democrats into a corner in the rust-belt states.  Places where supporters of transgender rights are not the majority.

The whole thing is designed to put Trump’s opponents on the defensive.  It’s all political…

As a veteran, Senator Ernst served alongside fellow service members from all different backgrounds and parts of the country.  While she believes taxpayers shouldn’t cover the costs associated with a gender reassignment surgery, Americans who are qualified and can meet the standards to serve in the military should be afforded that opportunity.

Senator Joni Ernst (R-Iowa)

- spokesperson - Brook Hougesen

politics suck

I never imagined I’d feel a great need to write about our armed forces.

Perhaps a special greeting on Veteran’s Day and Memorial Day.  But, that’s about it.

It’s not a topic that generally jives well with a sexuality blog.

I want to say up front, that it absolutely sucks to have to put anything dealing with politics here on my blog.

I didn’t want to do it.

And, I still don’t want to get political.  Life, however, doesn’t always present easy choices.  This is one of those times.

I’ve been inside politics.

Worked as a press secretary, campaign manager, a Chief of Staff.  Even managed to get myself elected once.  Before that, I spent close to a decade as a community organizer.

Then, close to ten years ago, I walked away from it all.  Left in disgust.

All too often, politics these days involves betrayal.  I was having none of that.  It was all making me ill.

Wanting no part of that circus anymore, politics was dead to me.  And, I swore not to drag that carcass here.

Whether you’re transgender or not, most of us get to a point in our lives where we can no longer lie to ourselves.

Laverne Cox

reality bites

Then the realization hit.  Sometimes staying silent would be a greater injustice than sullying my blog with politics.

In this case, the topic intersects with the blog’s mission anyway.

I’m here to write about kink.  Fetish.  BDSM.  Exploring paganism.  Tantra.

I want to explore all things sexual.  Revel in the exotic and the erotic.

I’d like to pass on some of what I’ve learned about kink.  And, share a little bit of the history of sexuality that I’ve studied.  Perhaps pass along relevant news from time to time.

I want my words to paint pictures in your mind.  I hope my illustrations and pictures can speak to you like words.

In order to explore these topics, I need to work from a place of sexual freedom.  I have to strive for an atmosphere of tolerance and acceptance.

I loathe the thought of making politics a regular part of Michael’s Way.  But, there’s no escaping the topic.

Political issues and decisions affect the atmosphere I work in.  They impact my sexual freedoms.  Ultimately, the laws of the land even determine my ability to be a sex blogger.

With that in mind, I cannot afford to be silent.  None of us can…

You know, gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender – people are people.

Judith Light

Quote of the Day | 7-27-17

So what is transgressive in the practice of this secret Tantra is the gesture not to elide the difference that women present. What does this mean? That women represent not merely objects, property, or the possibility of sexual gratification, but an opening point to the possibility of difference as the subjectivity of the other.

Loriliai Biernacki

Renowned Goddess of Desire: Women, Sex, and Speech in Tantra

Samadhi – Is That Italian?

getting email from 'the boot'

If you’ve read even a few of my postings, you know I almost always have an odd story to tell.

Today’s no different.

Perhaps, today’s post is a bit odder than most.

But, it’s said beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and that truth is almost always stranger than fiction . . .

So, the other day I’m wading through my email inbox.  Deleting spam that slipped by the filters.  Responding to friends.

When I see a subject that was not at all familiar.

It read…

“Sono una donna matura desidero essere schiavizzata.”

Now, French I can read.

That was one of the few things in my favor when considering immigration to Canada.  You get a bonus from Canadian immigration authorities for speaking both of their native tongues.

It’s a language combination I call ‘Frenglish’.

I guarantee that message ain’t Frenglish.   And it doesn’t look like German, Spanish, or Portuguese either…

Fortunately, it’s easy to translate foreign language phrases online these days.  Online translators are smart enough that finding a translation didn’t require any guessing on my part.

Google translate knew my note was written in Italian.

The translator said that my message read . . .

Are a mature woman want to be enslaved.

Well now.  That translation makes perfect sense.

At least to me, it makes sense.

And, it explained the naked photo of a middle aged woman I found attached!

slaves without borders?

While I’m flattered certainly by the offer – kinda/maybe – I’m certainly not in the market to add another international slave to the household.

I mean I’ve already been grilled by the US Immigration and Customs Enforcement over bringing Serafina here from Canada.

It was a nerve wracking experience.

We’d done almost everything right.  All our paperwork was perfectly ‘by the book’…

Now, what gives then, with the email from Italy?

I mean, do I give the impression that I run the local office of “Slaves Without Borders” or something?

And, I have to be honest, this wasn’t even the first time I’d had email show up in Italian.

Why?

Not that long ago I’d read a worldwide poll reporting that German girls are the kinkiest, that they have the highest percentage of interest in BDSM and fetish activities.

Another ethnic group showing up high on the chart were Hebrews.  Although I wasn’t clear if they meant just individuals from Israel or otherwise.

The Netherlands was also high on the list if I remember correctly.  That’s not a huge surprise.  Not if considering that the fair city of Amsterdam is known not only for it’s hashish bars, but, also for it’s red light district.

Ladies from Italy barely made the lowest of the low poll numbers.  I think they were neck and neck with countries where Islam is practiced.

I mean the relative lack of kink in Muslim countries makes sense, in a way, to me. Who needs restraints and paddles if the mere glance of a woman’s face is considered risque?

All the thoughts about Hebrews and Muslims are not what’s terribly important to my point.

Although it does give hints as to which side of that deadly divide has more fun in my eyes.  (Hookahs and Harems notwithstanding.)

Nope, sorry, I digress.

My real point is that Italian women didn’t show up as being incredibly kink oriented.  But I get ladies from Italy writing . . .

It dawned on me the other day why this was happening.

It’s the name.

Samadhi?

Because Samadhi ends with an “i”, it looks Italian to some eyes.

Ferrari, Puccini, Guicci, Lamborghini, Giovanni, Alighieri, DeVinci, Vanzetti, Brunetti, Sisti, Antonelli, Parducci, Piccirilli, not to mention Manicotti (yum) – all Italian names ending in “i”.

And, that list is like the bite of a horsehair whip, it barely scratches the surface!

So let me clarify for you, my dear reader. The name “Samadhi” is actually Sanskrit in it’s origin.

Yes, I’ve bestowed myself with a name, a word, from a dead language.

When I first became interested in the combination of BDSM and Tantra, back around 1990, I began by studying a variety of texts on Tantric Buddhism.

There I ran across the term “Samadhi” which I was told translated to mean “peaceful transcendental bliss”.

Today, thanks to the wizards of Wikipedia, I can present a complete definition.

Samadhi (Sanskrit: समाधि) in Hinduism, Buddhism, Jainism, Sikhism and yogic schools is a higher level of concentrated meditation, or dhyāna. In the yoga tradition, it is the eighth and final limb identified in the Yoga Sūtras of Patañjali.It has been described as a non-dualistic state of consciousness in which the consciousness of the experiencing subject becomes one with the experienced object, and in which the mind becomes still, one-pointed or concentrated while the person remains conscious. In Buddhism, it can also refer to an abiding in which mind becomes very still but does not merge with the object of attention, and is thus able to observe and gain insight into the changing flow of experience.

It has been described as a non-dualistic state of consciousness in which the consciousness of the experiencing subject becomes one with the experienced object, and in which the mind becomes still, one-pointed or concentrated while the person remains conscious. In Buddhism, it can also refer to an abiding in which mind becomes very still but does not merge with the object of attention, and is thus able to observe and gain insight into the changing flow of experience.

Wikipedia

International House of Slavegirls

Back in 1990. Samadhi wasn’t a word you’d run across commonly.

That’s less true today.

I see things like “Samadhi Yoga Center”, and other uses of the word showing up commercially in some larger cities.

So just to be clear — the name Samadhi is the Buddhist name I’ve adopted.

I’m sorry to disappoint the small, but apparently unfulfilled, population of lovely Italian ladies in need of a Master.

There’s no “International House of Slavegirls” in my basement.

Quote of the Day | 7-13-17

The beauty and wisdom of Tantra is that it enhances sexuality as a doorway to the “ecstatic mind of great bliss”. Truly, at the peak of orgasm, we pierce through the illusion of fragmentation and separation, and glimpse the unity and interconnectedness of all beings. And through the other–our partner–we fall in love with life.

Margot Anand