TMI Tuesday for 8-1-17 (originally August 23, 2011)

Random stuff the universe needs to know about YOU.

There was no TMI Tuesday posted for today, August 1, 2017.

I have no idea what the story is here.  I only know that I’d planned to participate this week.

As part of “curating” my past sex blogging content, I’m collecting everything here, under one roof, so to speak.

So I’ll present one of my prior TMI Tuesday efforts.  Previously posted at SpiritualBDSM.com.


 

1. When you go to a party, would you rather show up accidentally underdressed or overdressed?
I’d rather be overdressed than be too casual these days.

2. What is something you have won and how did you win it? (Inspired by the An Optimistic Virgin)
I won my slave’s heart! I prevailed with integrity, intellect, compassion, not to mention an overactive imagination in the bedroom, and a good measure of dominance to match her submission.

3. Do you squeeze the toothpaste from the middle, end, or top?
Bottoms up baby!

4. What is something your parents used to say to you that you promised yourself you would never say–but now you catch yourself saying frequently?
You can never go wrong by acting with class and dignity.

5. What 3 lies did you regularly tell your parents? If applicable, what 3 lies do you tell your parents now?
I never lied with regularity, not even to my parents.

6. What is something that you intended to do today but didn’t? Why not? Will you do it tomorrow?
I intended to write more on this blog, not just answer a TMI Tuesday . . . I didn’t write more because I used up the last of my energy visiting a sick parent in the Hospital. I hope to write more tomorrow, I hope to write more every day, whether I make the time and feel the inspiration is still up for grabs.

7. What is something that people do in traffic that really bothers you? (inspired by My Quest To Be A Good Girl)
I am bothered by people talking on cell phones while driving, their divided attention endangers other drivers.

8. Whose autographs have you collected? (You can stop at five, in case you’re an autograph hound or celebrity stalker).
Tony Oliva, Rod Carew, Harmon Killebrew.

Bonus: Where do you go to find solitude, tranquility or connection to a higher power?
During sacred sex – These days I find it in the bedroom when sharing sensual moments with my slave. The webs we weave (both figurative and literal) send us to powerful heights of shared passion.

Tony Oliva

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TMI Tuesday | July 25, 2017

This One or That One

Choose what you most desire or would like to have or try?

 

1. Pilates or HIIT? Why?

When I was younger, I used to play a lot of baseball and football. Back in those days, HIIT would have been perfect for me. Not so much anymore.  I don’t recover as quickly as I once did.  I had back surgery, and now my back has far more than its share of arthritis.  I’ve used pilates as part of my physical therapy before and after surgery.  So, I’ll take the pilates, thank you very much.

2. Spouse or significant other-lover?
I’ve “been there are done that” in terms of marriage.  I love ceremony and ritual.  I love the concept of marriage and theory of marriage.  I love marriage so much I’ve done it three times.  But marriage itself hasn’t been especially kind to me.  Strange, but to me, it seems that marriage alters relationships in ways I would never choose.  If I want a ceremony in the future, I’d go with a handfasting.  I’m also in favor of a future collaring ceremony when the appropriate conditions arise.

3. Go clubbing or entertain friends at home?
Once upon a time, I felt deprived if I didn’t manage to make it out to a bar, or to see a band, every weekend. Preferably, that would include both Friday and Saturday night outings. Sometimes Sunday night Jazz was included too.  Or Tuesday night movies.  Today, that’s no longer true.  For me, ‘clubbing’ would mean going out to the play party of a local BDSM club.  Not exactly what it would mean for most other individuals.  Even considering that possibility, I’d really prefer to entertain at home.  What can I say?  I’m an introvert.  There’s simply no denying that fact.

4. Maybach sedan or Mercedes G-class SUV
Can’t say that I’m real big on German automobiles.  It’s been in the news lately that German auto manufacturers have been illegally colluding with each other.  Add to that, Volkswagon’s great diesel fiasco, and I’m kind of sour on the whole industry.  With that said, I’d take the luxury SUV to use as a grocery getter.  Better still, I’ll sell the G-class, then buy a Toyota 4x4.  I’d use the difference to finish (and expand) my garage for use as a home dungeon. With an attached jacuzzi room.

5. Soccer or Golf?
I’m not really into golf.  On TV, it’s worse than watching paint dry.  I don’t have to listen to inane commentators speaking in hushed tones while paint dries.  I’m sure it’s a great pastime, but I’ve never seen much sense in hitting a ball and chasing it myself.  When I hit a ball, I expect others to chase…   Soccer has serious advantages over golf as a spectator sport. But, I’ve never even bothered to watch a full match from start to finish, not even when the Olympics.  If I absolutely had to choose one, I’d go with soccer, but my unofficial answer is neither.

6. Basketball or baseball?

Baseball was my first true love.  It’s been my favorite sport to play since I was about 8.  However, unless you are at the ballpark with the atmosphere surrounding you, baseball is not the greatest spectator sport.  Professional basketball, on the other hand, is an incredible spectator sport.  The quality of pro hoops is as good as it’s ever been. College hoops are great too, especially during March Madness.  Despite my sentiment for baseball, the clear winner is basketball.

Did you see Jackie Robinson hit that ball?
Did he hit it? Yeah, and that ain’t all.
He stole home.
Yes, yes, Jackie’s real gone.
Jackie’s is a real gone guy.

Woodrow Buddy Johnson & Count Basie

7. Monster or Red Bull? Why?

I’m a big consumer of soda pop.  I used to drink lots of Coke, a 12-pack of cans a day.  Now it’s Coke Zero.  I drink (on average) six 500 ml bottles every day.  So, it’s not that I live so healthy that Monster or Red Bull would not appeal to me.  However, energy drinks (in general) just taste foul to me.  They are overpriced.  Last I checked, Red Bull was shipped from Austria, not bottled locally like my Coke.  I’m not a fan of shipping water around the world for profit.  If I want a jolt of caffeine, I’ll drink an extra Coke. My answer therefore is — Neither.  Please.  Just No.  Energy drinks of all kinds offend my ‘delicate’ sensibilities.

8. Office with a view or work at home?
When I try to work from home these days, I only end up blogging.  I’m not sure you could call that working.   I am an introvert, so from that standpoint, working from home could have it’s advantages.  On the other hand, there’s not much time for the view if you are truly working.  And, I have to admit I’m spoiled in terms of jobs with a view.  I worked for a year at the Grand Canyon.  The walk to work along the canyon rim sounds beautiful, almost romantic (depending on companionship.)  Until you’ve made the trek into the teeth of a raging blizzard.  Really, I’d like to work at home from a studio with a view.

9. Early bird or night owl?
I used to be an early bird.  They get the worm.  When training to be a chef, days in the kitchen started pretty early.  Especially for those of us who wanted to beat the Executive Chef in each morning.  That was the worm.  That’s one way you got the Chef’s attention.  Now, I get up at 7 am for work.  It seems that’s about the earliest I can get my body to function normally.  When I don’t have to work the next day, I have a tendency to stay up until 2 am.  A ‘second wind’ hits about 10 pm, and some of my best writing happens over the next two or three hours.  No doubt, that makes me a night owl.

10. Boyfriend or Girlfriend?
Either?  Neither?  Both of those would be the simple answers.  Either – because I’m bisexual (at least in theory.)  It’s been at least a 25 years since I’ve had any sort of encounter with a man, so the bisexuality is more theoretical than practical at this point.  Neither because I’m not really looking for anything at the moment.  There have been so many misunderstandings with Serafina, and BlissfulTorment before her, that I’m just licking my wounds at the moment.  Girlfriend would be the default answer.  On the ‘Kinsey Scale’ I tend more towards women than men.  My final answer, though, is both.  I want a couple.  I have a strong desire to dominate a couple, cuckolding the man.

11. Ice cream or gelato?
I think I’ve had gelato once in my life.  When visiting my Father, via his Italian girlfriend.  It was good.  Very good, in fact.  Perhaps a little sweet for my taste these days. Since I’ve become diabetic and cut a lot of sweets out of my diet, I have a far keener sense of sweetness.  But, it’s not ice cream.  Ice cream is one of my favorite foods.  The only one that’s not meat.  If I was requesting a final meal, it would include a good steak – rare.  And a heaping bowl of ice cream.  I scream.  You scream.  We all scream… For ice cream.

No stars in the black night
Looks like the sky fell down
No sun in the daylight
Looks like it’s chained to the ground
Chained to the ground
The warden said
The exit is sold
If you want a way out
Silver and gold

U2 / Adam Clayton , Dave Evans, Larry Mullen, Paul Hewson

12. Silver or gold?

Born in the heart of a supernova, gold is a noble metal.  As such it is very special.  Gold doesn’t corrode or lose its luster.  It is very rare and very valuable.  A true precious metal.  Because it’s also malleable, gold can be turned into wondrous artistic creations.  It makes awesome jewelry.   Silver has its uses too.  In fact, it’s all around us.  Silver is used as part of the photographic process.  It’s is in our electronic components.  Silver’s antimicrobial properties make it useful in medicine.  It can also be formed into wondrous creations, jewelry, etc., just like gold.  Even if it does tarnish, Silver is also a noble metal, forged in the heart of great stars.  All of gold’s advantages notwithstanding, given its myriad of uses, give me silver…

Bonus: Money or fame? Why?

Fame or fortune?  Don’t the two of them go together?  Yes, they can go together, but not every famous person also finds fortune, I suppose.  It’s nice to imagine being famous.  Living the glamorous lifestyle that often goes along with great fame.  Adulation generally goes with fame, and who would really mind having fans?  That kind of attention can be intoxicating.  Unfortunately, fame can also come with more than its share of problems.  The crushing weight of expectations can destroy a person.  Think paparazzi.  The loss of personal privacy.  No, that’s not for me.  Give me money, that’s what I want!

The best things in life are free
But you can give them to the birds and bees
I want money
That’s what I want

Janie Bradford / Berry Gordy Jr.

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TMI Tuesday | July 4, 2017

what if you were not judged?

1. What would you do differently if you knew nobody would judge you?
I’d certainly “come out” as a person who’s active in the BDSM lifestyle sooner. In the end, the more authentic life I live, the happier I am. The primary thing that keeps a person from coming out is fear of judgment. Lacking anyone else’s judgment, everyone could live their authentic self, myself included.

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2. Most recently how did you openly express love?

a concrete answer
I held my partner, my consensual slave, throughout the night after her weekly shot of methotrexate.  The drug gives her terrible side effects, but it’s one of the essential treatments needed for her rheumatoid arthritis.

a more abstract answer
I’m an empathetic individual, I believe in living life as an expression of love. That sounds corny perhaps, but it’s a joyous way approaching life.  I sit and cry with clients when they need to cry, I laugh with them when they need to laugh.  If I make a mistake, it’s sometimes caring too much.

3. When is the last time you took a sexual risk? What was it?

On one hand, I’m not much of a risk taker, if it comes to potential STDs etc.  For my generation, coming on the heels of the sexual revolution, the first generation that had to consider the risk of HIV, sexual risk meant STDs.

On the other hand, as a BDSM Master, a lot of what I do has potential risk.  Some of the edges we play with in the BDSM community have the potential to cause physical (or mental) harm.  With the right amount of education, perhaps an equal measure of dedication to practice, the risk can be significantly reduced, almost to the point of elimination.

I practice RACK, which is shorthand for Risk Aware Consensual Kink.

4. What sexual acts bring you the most pleasure?
There’s a special dance between a dominant and submissive, a sadist and masochist.  An exchange of physical, emotional, and spiritual energies.

It is sublime.

5. Is there a belief or attitude that interferes with you creating or pursuing your sexual fantasy?

My beliefs and attitudes are in alignment with my desires.  The only thing that interferes with pursuing any sexual fantasy I might have are real life circumstance.  I am a truly fortunate man.

Bonus: Tell us something you need to stop wasting time doing.

Playing Facebook games.  A dictionary perfect example of a true time waster.

 

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Can we talk… relationships? | TMI Tuesday July 22, 2014

Can we talk… relationships?

TMI Tuesday July 22, 2014

Up for TMI Tuesday: July 22, 2014 are relationship questions . . .

1. What is the first thing that pops into your mind when you see an attractive person?
I may very well look and admire, but I also wonder what they are “really” like. All too often people who are obviously physically beautiful don’t have tremendous depth of personality. I avoid narcissists at all costs!

2. What is your idea of a dream date? Describe the person and the type of date experience.
It’s your basic “dinner and dungeon” date. Isn’t that everyone’s dream? I’d like an evening alone with Serafina, Sinnjara, and our in home dungeon. First we share a beautiful meal together, then we retire to the dungeon for an evening of torment and bliss. Who could ask for anything more?

3. How many serious relationships have you had? Were you in love?
I’ve been married three times. I’ve been “in love” a few times more than that. To my eye, at the very least, those all qualify as “serious” relationships. With that said, I can’t say that anything in my experience prior to meeting Serafina could equal the love and passion I feel for her. My love for her grows daily. My feelings for Sinnjara are similar to how I feel about Serafina, only newer. Building trust takes time, no doubt about that, but the love we feel for each other is unwavering.

4. How many casual sexual relationships have you had?
I don’t consider a relationship to be casual if it is also sexual.

5. What will ruin a relationship for you?
Deceit and lack of trust.

Bonus: What is your definition of sexy?
Love is sexy for me . . .

It is a confessional of sorts where people come to reveal too much information…

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TMI Tuesday July 22, 2014

TMI Tuesday July 22, 2014

This entry is part 21 of 21 in the series TMI Tuesday

Up for TMI Tuesday: July 22, 2014 are relationship questions . . .

1. What is the first thing that pops into your mind when you see an attractive person?

I may very well look and admire, but I also wonder what they are “really” like.  All too often people who are obviously physically beautiful don’t have tremendous depth of personality.

I avoid narcissists at all costs!

2. What is your idea of a dream date? Describe the person and the type of date experience.

It’s your basic “dinner and dungeon” date.  Isn’t that everyone’s dream?

I’d like an evening alone with Serafina, Sinnja, and our in home dungeon.

First we share a beautiful meal together, then we retire to the dungeon for an evening of torment and bliss.

Who could ask for anything more?

3. How many serious relationships have you had? Were you in love?

I’ve been married three times.  I’ve been “in love” a few times more than that.  To my eye, at the very least, those all qualify as “serious” relationships.

With that said, I can’t say that anything in my experience prior to meeting Serafina could equal the love and passion I feel for her.  My love for her grows daily.

My feelings for Sinnja are similar to how I feel about Serafina, only newer.  Building trust takes time, no doubt about that, but the love we feel for each other is unwavering.

4. How many casual sexual relationships have you had?

I don’t consider a relationship to be casual if it is also sexual.

5. What will ruin a relationship for you?

Deceit and lack of trust.

Bonus: What is your definition of sexy?

Love is sexy for me . . .

TMI Tuesday July 22, 2014

relationship-diagram

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