TMI Tuesday: September 19, 2017

Sinnjara’s 1st TMI Tuesday (with notes by Michael)

1. Why would you go to a therapist?
a. You need support
b. You want to take responsibility for your life’s outcomes?
c. You need guidance and to be told what to do 

A- Support and help with working through past trauma
Michael – I’m glad you didn’t say C – that’s what I’m for…

2. Thinking of the main male lover in your life, what is sex for him:
a. stress relief, tension reliever
b. a way to show love
c. something exciting he likes to do

D- All of the above and MORE!
Michael – ladies and gentlemen hold your cards, we’ve got a BINGO…

3. Do you feel a partner is being invasive for wanting to know your plans and inner thoughts?

My particular relationship is a Master/slave style leaning more into Owner/possession. With that in mind, no I do not feel that my Master is being invasive when he wants to know these things. If anything, I find it appealing and a show of love from him.
Michael – ding ding ding ding ding – we’ve got a winner!

4. In your opinion, what is intimate sharing?

Opening up to one another about everything, the good, the bad, the ugly and more. The sum of your emotions, thoughts, and experiences shared without fear or concern of the other using it in some way to hurt or harm you.
Michael – And here I thought intimate sharing was when I loaned you out to my friends! 😉

5. Would you enjoy a weekend by yourself, without the company of your partner? Where would you go? What would you do?

I could enjoy a weekend without the company of my Master, I choose not to. I would likely go camping away from everyone and everything deep in the woods. The place doesn’t matter so much. I enjoy being in the woods, listening to the sounds of nature throughout the day, bird watching, stars at night, the songbirds in the morning. No traffic, no sirens, and leave the electronics at home.
Michael – sounds almost like paradise, but where are the screams, the sound of a whip cracking, the begging, betcha you’d miss those…

Bonus: Would you buy an outfit that you love, knowing that your partner will hate it? Then would you wear it as well?

I most certainly would buy an outfit he would hate, only so that I could enjoy the look in his eyes as he promises to cut it off of me.
Michael – sharpens his knife… clothes are just so unnecessary….

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TMI Tuesday: August 15, 2017

Sex on the Brain

1. Is a weird “sex face/orgasm face” a total deal-breaker?
No.
For starters, I have to say that I’ve never played with anyone who’s “sex face” or “orgasm face” was a problem for me.  Perhaps that’s because I study and practice Tantra.  I think that makes my outlook a bit different.  To me, sex is a spiritual practice…

2. Do you enjoy having your balls played with (or playing with balls)?
Of course!
I was going to say, “who doesn’t”.  Then I realized there are a fair number of men out there who’s testicles are too sensitive for this kind of play.  I feel sorry for those guys.

I’m fortunate enough that having my nuts fondled elicits marvelous sensations.

3. Have you ever hooked-up with somebody based on their proximity to your smartphone location (Tinder, GRINDR, etc)?
Nope.
I didn’t even know what those apps did until recently.  And,  I’ve never installed or used anything like that…

4. You have some free-time in the workday–blow job or intercourse? (BJ can be giving or receiving).
I’m going to have to think this one through…
Blowjobs fit pretty well with a workplace break.  No muss, no fuss.  In fact, I knew a lady who had a serious fetish for this. It was such a strong fetish, she had developed a stable of guys who liked getting head at work. Then, she alternated between them based upon availability and her desires.  I’ll admit that she came to visit my office on a few occasions.  But, those are tales for another time.

On the other hand, I generally find sex to be somewhat more satisfying than a BJ. There’s something uniquely satisfying about the sound and feel of my balls slapping against a woman’s ass. I must admit, however, cleaning up properly after sex at work isn’t always a simple task.  It’s usually a little more involved than just zipping up one’s pants.
— For sex at the office, I’m going to have to go with the blowjob…

5. How long after having sex with a new partner do you have to wait before falling asleep?
I suppose it depends on how you define sex. Over on Facebook, friends like Hardy Haberman and Janet Hardy are arguing that BDSM can’t be separated from sex. I’ve done heavy BDSM scenes, and after appropriate after-care sent them back home to their spouse. I usually move quite slow when it comes to actual penetrative sex. So, by the time I’d be willing to sleep with you, I may not yet be willing to have what vanilla folks call sex. At least not yet…
Regardless of the scenario, I sleep quickly, soundly, and well.

Bonus: What’s the dirtiest or sexiest text message you’ve ever received?
Dirtiest text?  I got a text from an ex once…
It simply said – “mud.”
My response? – “muck.”

Of course, the graphic (right) would indicate most text messages are dirty…

I’m not sure what the sexiest text message would be.
Most anything that uses the word “Master” will do for me…

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TMI Tuesday: August 8, 2017

the wheel's still turning...

1. Can a penis be too big?
I worked with an exceptionally well-hung guy.

I’m not exaggerating when I say the head of his soft cock would peek out of the leg of his boxers.  While he was standing up…

When he wore shorts in the summer heat, they had to reach just beyond his knees.  Any shorter and something might pop out as he sat down.

A fair number of my female co-workers tried him on for size, so to speak.

Just to have the experience.  None of them went back for seconds.

He was just too much.

2. Can a vagina be too tight?
If she squeezes so fucking hard that I scream bloody murder and my cock is turned into a diamond…

That would be too tight.

Anything short of that, I’m ok…

Beauty, like supreme dominion
Is but supported by opinion

Benjamin Franklin

Poor Richard's Almanack, 1741

3. Does playing with fake tits give you the same satisfaction and response as fondling real breasts?
I’m from an age and demographic where even encountering enhanced/augmented breasts has never been an everyday occurrence.  Living in the rural Mid-West, there is probably a certain ingrained prejudice against fake tits that is part of our small town culture.  It’s something I couldn’t help being immersed in while growing up.

I guess that’s my long winded way of saying I’ve never played with fake/augmented breasts.  I can’t imagine it would be as satisfying as the real thing.  But, how can I really be sure…

Do I have any volunteers?

4. Fill in the blank: I prefer ____ over having sex.
BDSM – That’s an easy answer.  I’ve had really great D/s and BDSM relationships that never, for one reason or another, led to actual sex.

5. If a stranger offered you 30 USD to lick your boots or shoes, while you are wearing them, would you accept? If no, how much money would it take for you to accept the offer?
No, $30 would not be a great enough incentive to turn me into a boot licker. $300 would not tempt me either. $3000 seems to be on the low side for such an act as well.

My Dad always taught me that if you are going to be bribed to do something, they had better make it worth your while.

With that in mind, I’d consider an offer of $30,000 to become a boot licker, but in the end, I’d decline.

If offered $300,000 I would accept.  That’s a life changing sum…

TMI Tuesday for 8-1-17 (originally August 23, 2011)

Random stuff the universe needs to know about YOU.

There was no TMI Tuesday posted for today, August 1, 2017.

I have no idea what the story is here.  I only know that I’d planned to participate this week.

As part of “curating” my past sex blogging content, I’m collecting everything here, under one roof, so to speak.

So I’ll present one of my prior TMI Tuesday efforts.  Previously posted at SpiritualBDSM.com.


 

1. When you go to a party, would you rather show up accidentally underdressed or overdressed?
I’d rather be overdressed than be too casual these days.

2. What is something you have won and how did you win it? (Inspired by the An Optimistic Virgin)
I won my slave’s heart! I prevailed with integrity, intellect, compassion, not to mention an overactive imagination in the bedroom, and a good measure of dominance to match her submission.

3. Do you squeeze the toothpaste from the middle, end, or top?
Bottoms up baby!

4. What is something your parents used to say to you that you promised yourself you would never say–but now you catch yourself saying frequently?
You can never go wrong by acting with class and dignity.

5. What 3 lies did you regularly tell your parents? If applicable, what 3 lies do you tell your parents now?
I never lied with regularity, not even to my parents.

6. What is something that you intended to do today but didn’t? Why not? Will you do it tomorrow?
I intended to write more on this blog, not just answer a TMI Tuesday . . . I didn’t write more because I used up the last of my energy visiting a sick parent in the Hospital. I hope to write more tomorrow, I hope to write more every day, whether I make the time and feel the inspiration is still up for grabs.

7. What is something that people do in traffic that really bothers you? (inspired by My Quest To Be A Good Girl)
I am bothered by people talking on cell phones while driving, their divided attention endangers other drivers.

8. Whose autographs have you collected? (You can stop at five, in case you’re an autograph hound or celebrity stalker).
Tony Oliva, Rod Carew, Harmon Killebrew.

Bonus: Where do you go to find solitude, tranquility or connection to a higher power?
During sacred sex – These days I find it in the bedroom when sharing sensual moments with my slave. The webs we weave (both figurative and literal) send us to powerful heights of shared passion.

Tony Oliva

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TMI Tuesday | July 25, 2017

This One or That One

Choose what you most desire or would like to have or try?

 

1. Pilates or HIIT? Why?

When I was younger, I used to play a lot of baseball and football. Back in those days, HIIT would have been perfect for me. Not so much anymore.  I don’t recover as quickly as I once did.  I had back surgery, and now my back has far more than its share of arthritis.  I’ve used pilates as part of my physical therapy before and after surgery.  So, I’ll take the pilates, thank you very much.

2. Spouse or significant other-lover?
I’ve “been there are done that” in terms of marriage.  I love ceremony and ritual.  I love the concept of marriage and theory of marriage.  I love marriage so much I’ve done it three times.  But marriage itself hasn’t been especially kind to me.  Strange, but to me, it seems that marriage alters relationships in ways I would never choose.  If I want a ceremony in the future, I’d go with a handfasting.  I’m also in favor of a future collaring ceremony when the appropriate conditions arise.

3. Go clubbing or entertain friends at home?
Once upon a time, I felt deprived if I didn’t manage to make it out to a bar, or to see a band, every weekend. Preferably, that would include both Friday and Saturday night outings. Sometimes Sunday night Jazz was included too.  Or Tuesday night movies.  Today, that’s no longer true.  For me, ‘clubbing’ would mean going out to the play party of a local BDSM club.  Not exactly what it would mean for most other individuals.  Even considering that possibility, I’d really prefer to entertain at home.  What can I say?  I’m an introvert.  There’s simply no denying that fact.

4. Maybach sedan or Mercedes G-class SUV
Can’t say that I’m real big on German automobiles.  It’s been in the news lately that German auto manufacturers have been illegally colluding with each other.  Add to that, Volkswagon’s great diesel fiasco, and I’m kind of sour on the whole industry.  With that said, I’d take the luxury SUV to use as a grocery getter.  Better still, I’ll sell the G-class, then buy a Toyota 4x4.  I’d use the difference to finish (and expand) my garage for use as a home dungeon. With an attached jacuzzi room.

5. Soccer or Golf?
I’m not really into golf.  On TV, it’s worse than watching paint dry.  I don’t have to listen to inane commentators speaking in hushed tones while paint dries.  I’m sure it’s a great pastime, but I’ve never seen much sense in hitting a ball and chasing it myself.  When I hit a ball, I expect others to chase…   Soccer has serious advantages over golf as a spectator sport. But, I’ve never even bothered to watch a full match from start to finish, not even when the Olympics.  If I absolutely had to choose one, I’d go with soccer, but my unofficial answer is neither.

6. Basketball or baseball?

Baseball was my first true love.  It’s been my favorite sport to play since I was about 8.  However, unless you are at the ballpark with the atmosphere surrounding you, baseball is not the greatest spectator sport.  Professional basketball, on the other hand, is an incredible spectator sport.  The quality of pro hoops is as good as it’s ever been. College hoops are great too, especially during March Madness.  Despite my sentiment for baseball, the clear winner is basketball.

Did you see Jackie Robinson hit that ball?
Did he hit it? Yeah, and that ain’t all.
He stole home.
Yes, yes, Jackie’s real gone.
Jackie’s is a real gone guy.

Woodrow Buddy Johnson & Count Basie

7. Monster or Red Bull? Why?

I’m a big consumer of soda pop.  I used to drink lots of Coke, a 12-pack of cans a day.  Now it’s Coke Zero.  I drink (on average) six 500 ml bottles every day.  So, it’s not that I live so healthy that Monster or Red Bull would not appeal to me.  However, energy drinks (in general) just taste foul to me.  They are overpriced.  Last I checked, Red Bull was shipped from Austria, not bottled locally like my Coke.  I’m not a fan of shipping water around the world for profit.  If I want a jolt of caffeine, I’ll drink an extra Coke. My answer therefore is — Neither.  Please.  Just No.  Energy drinks of all kinds offend my ‘delicate’ sensibilities.

8. Office with a view or work at home?
When I try to work from home these days, I only end up blogging.  I’m not sure you could call that working.   I am an introvert, so from that standpoint, working from home could have it’s advantages.  On the other hand, there’s not much time for the view if you are truly working.  And, I have to admit I’m spoiled in terms of jobs with a view.  I worked for a year at the Grand Canyon.  The walk to work along the canyon rim sounds beautiful, almost romantic (depending on companionship.)  Until you’ve made the trek into the teeth of a raging blizzard.  Really, I’d like to work at home from a studio with a view.

9. Early bird or night owl?
I used to be an early bird.  They get the worm.  When training to be a chef, days in the kitchen started pretty early.  Especially for those of us who wanted to beat the Executive Chef in each morning.  That was the worm.  That’s one way you got the Chef’s attention.  Now, I get up at 7 am for work.  It seems that’s about the earliest I can get my body to function normally.  When I don’t have to work the next day, I have a tendency to stay up until 2 am.  A ‘second wind’ hits about 10 pm, and some of my best writing happens over the next two or three hours.  No doubt, that makes me a night owl.

10. Boyfriend or Girlfriend?
Either?  Neither?  Both of those would be the simple answers.  Either – because I’m bisexual (at least in theory.)  It’s been at least a 25 years since I’ve had any sort of encounter with a man, so the bisexuality is more theoretical than practical at this point.  Neither because I’m not really looking for anything at the moment.  There have been so many misunderstandings with Serafina, and BlissfulTorment before her, that I’m just licking my wounds at the moment.  Girlfriend would be the default answer.  On the ‘Kinsey Scale’ I tend more towards women than men.  My final answer, though, is both.  I want a couple.  I have a strong desire to dominate a couple, cuckolding the man.

11. Ice cream or gelato?
I think I’ve had gelato once in my life.  When visiting my Father, via his Italian girlfriend.  It was good.  Very good, in fact.  Perhaps a little sweet for my taste these days. Since I’ve become diabetic and cut a lot of sweets out of my diet, I have a far keener sense of sweetness.  But, it’s not ice cream.  Ice cream is one of my favorite foods.  The only one that’s not meat.  If I was requesting a final meal, it would include a good steak – rare.  And a heaping bowl of ice cream.  I scream.  You scream.  We all scream… For ice cream.

No stars in the black night
Looks like the sky fell down
No sun in the daylight
Looks like it’s chained to the ground
Chained to the ground
The warden said
The exit is sold
If you want a way out
Silver and gold

U2 / Adam Clayton , Dave Evans, Larry Mullen, Paul Hewson

12. Silver or gold?

Born in the heart of a supernova, gold is a noble metal.  As such it is very special.  Gold doesn’t corrode or lose its luster.  It is very rare and very valuable.  A true precious metal.  Because it’s also malleable, gold can be turned into wondrous artistic creations.  It makes awesome jewelry.   Silver has its uses too.  In fact, it’s all around us.  Silver is used as part of the photographic process.  It’s is in our electronic components.  Silver’s antimicrobial properties make it useful in medicine.  It can also be formed into wondrous creations, jewelry, etc., just like gold.  Even if it does tarnish, Silver is also a noble metal, forged in the heart of great stars.  All of gold’s advantages notwithstanding, given its myriad of uses, give me silver…

Bonus: Money or fame? Why?

Fame or fortune?  Don’t the two of them go together?  Yes, they can go together, but not every famous person also finds fortune, I suppose.  It’s nice to imagine being famous.  Living the glamorous lifestyle that often goes along with great fame.  Adulation generally goes with fame, and who would really mind having fans?  That kind of attention can be intoxicating.  Unfortunately, fame can also come with more than its share of problems.  The crushing weight of expectations can destroy a person.  Think paparazzi.  The loss of personal privacy.  No, that’s not for me.  Give me money, that’s what I want!

The best things in life are free
But you can give them to the birds and bees
I want money
That’s what I want

Janie Bradford / Berry Gordy Jr.

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