can a white man take the ONYX pledge?

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Taking the Onyx Pledge

by | Jul 1, 2017 | Joy of Kink | 0 comments

I first learned of the existence of ONYX from a post made by renowned researcher and sex educator Gloria Brame.
A few hours later Gloria really drove the point home.
After Gloria’s posts showed up in my Facebook feed, similar postings appeared from Laura Antoniou (and a number of others.)

ONYX and the pledge

Not being aware of what ONYX does, or what their pledge says, I needed to investigate.  I’m glad I did.

Let’s begin with what the organization is all about:

ONYX is an organization formed and operated by Men of Color who enjoy the leather lifestyle. ONYX sets as its goal to provide an informational and social organization to address issues specific to people of color who chose to project the positive aspects of the leather lifestyle and support our community and economic initiatives.

Not being a person of color, ONYX is not a group that would normally garner too much of my attention.

I fought for inclusion and equality during the time I spent as a community organizer, and during the 15 years I spent in government.  I still stand for those principles.  Of course, I’m very supportive of my leather brothers (and sisters) who are POCs.  While I can support ONYX, it’s not designed to be for folk like me.  Simply said, I’m not a man of color.

But this pledge, now that’s different.

So, what is the pledge everyone’s talking about?

It’s all based on this:


Over the past several months, we have born witness to moments of intolerance and misogyny in our shared Community. Although these moments were the work of a few misguided individuals, our silence in the face of it will be seen as consent, and we cannot allow that. The Men of ONYX stand, unequivocally, with ALL members of the LGBTQ+ community in our shared fight against bigotry and intolerance. We will not stand idly by while you are abused and we will stand beside you in every way possible.

We stand with all the People of Color in our lives. We will fight against racial and ethnic discrimination in our LGBTQ+ spaces, our workplaces, our houses of worship, and everywhere it rears its ugly head. We will fight systems and policies that devalue the lives of People of Color and silence their voices. When you are pushed down, we will pick you up. We will stand together so that all are clear that injury to one of us is injury to all of us.

We stand with the Women in our lives. In our gay male spaces, we will fight against casual and overt misogyny in our language and our actions. In our shared LGBTQ+ spaces, we will defend the right of Women to be there and to feel welcome and wanted. We will fight the insidious violence that so many women feel in their lives. They will come to know that the Men of ONYX will always be there, not as their protector, but as their trusted friend and ally.

We stand with the Transmen and Transwomen in our lives. We will fight for your inclusion in our shared narrative. We will stand against Transphobia and violence against Trans people, especially Transwomen of Color. We support the right of Trans People, Women, and People of Color to have safe and exclusive spaces of their own choosing, even as we work to build a closer, more inclusive community.

We stand with those who seek an alternative vision for Pride. We oppose those voices in our communities who call for violence and seek to silence the voices of Pride protesters. We welcome a dialogue about corporate sponsorship and the role of the state in Pride activities. Pride started as a protest and we acknowledge that there is more work to be done.

The Men of ONYX stand with Trans People, and Women, and People of Color, not because they are titleholders, or because of their gender, or because of the color of their skin, but because they are part of our family. We invite you to do the same.

In Leather and Love,

ONYX National Council

I can absolutely see why this statement is getting so much attention.

What an awesome statement of purpose!  That’s something I can sign on for.  And I will . . .

I, Michael Samadhi, take the ONYX Pledge


I hereby agree to live and abide by the guidelines of the ONYX Pledge.
Michael Samadhi

When you are pushed down, we will pick you up. We will stand together so that all are clear that injury to one of us is injury to all of us. ONYX pledge excerpt

Joy of Kink Taking the Onyx Pledge
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