TMI Tuesday | July 4, 2017
what if you were not judged?
1. What would you do differently if you knew nobody would judge you?
I’d certainly “come out” as a person who’s active in the BDSM lifestyle sooner. In the end, the more authentic life I live, the happier I am. The primary thing that keeps a person from coming out is fear of judgment. Lacking anyone else’s judgment, everyone could live their authentic self, myself included.
2. Most recently how did you openly express love?
a concrete answer
I held my partner, my consensual slave, throughout the night after her weekly shot of methotrexate. The drug gives her terrible side effects, but it’s one of the essential treatments needed for her rheumatoid arthritis.
a more abstract answer
I’m an empathetic individual, I believe in living life as an expression of love. That sounds corny perhaps, but it’s a joyous way approaching life. I sit and cry with clients when they need to cry, I laugh with them when they need to laugh. If I make a mistake, it’s sometimes caring too much.
3. When is the last time you took a sexual risk? What was it?
On one hand, I’m not much of a risk taker, if it comes to potential STDs etc. For my generation, coming on the heels of the sexual revolution, the first generation that had to consider the risk of HIV, sexual risk meant STDs.
On the other hand, as a BDSM Master, a lot of what I do has potential risk. Some of the edges we play with in the BDSM community have the potential to cause physical (or mental) harm. With the right amount of education, perhaps an equal measure of dedication to practice, the risk can be significantly reduced, almost to the point of elimination.
I practice RACK, which is shorthand for Risk Aware Consensual Kink.
5. Is there a belief or attitude that interferes with you creating or pursuing your sexual fantasy?
My beliefs and attitudes are in alignment with my desires. The only thing that interferes with pursuing any sexual fantasy I might have are real life circumstance. I am a truly fortunate man.