I’ve long been aware that my fellow human beings are capable of finding fetish value in most anything we commonly (and even uncommonly) find around us.  Real people fetishize everything from robots to tentacles.  And yes, there are more than a few into what could only be called (at least to my mind) a wedding dress fetish.

For instance, a quick google search for the term “wedding dress fetish” leads to more than one “Experience Project” essay like I Have A Wedding Dress Fetish, where we read:

For as long as i remember i’ve allways have the fetish for wedding dresses. Wedding dresses are the ultimate in femininitity and the most ultimate dress anyone can own. I started getting bridal magazines when i was a teenager and when bridal fashion shows were at the local malls i would go and watch them. I’ve never been in a bridal salon but allways looked at the display models wearing the lovely gowns. When i started my dressing my ultimate goal is to own a wedding gown when the oppertunity came up and it eventually came. I now own 2 wedding gowns and don’t be surprized if i hunt for another one. My fetish is as strong today thanks to the internet. I have bridal websites as favourites and i watch bridal fashion shows on youtube. I still buy bridal magazines but not as frequently as before as i think i can see more wedding gowns on the net than seeing them in a magazine. The feeling of all that fabric swishing and draggin around you is the most ultimate feeling you can experience. Seeing pics of other people like us in wedding gowns assures me that my fetish for wedding gowns will remain strong.


sheer sexiness from Vera Wang’s Spring 2016 bridal collection

While the spelling in that particular essay may need some additional attention, the feelings described by the author certainly don’t need any editorial work, they are an excellent reflection of the special feelings that wedding dresses elicit for some individuals.  I have a little bit of a wedding dress fetish myself, so I can personally relate.  It’s not a huge fetish for me, you won’t likely find me perusing magazines devoted to modern brides.  Nevertheless, I do have a relatively strong appreciation for a sexy woman adorned in a bridal gown.

And, without a doubt, I’ve noticed that (over time) bridal gowns themselves are getting sexier and sexier.  As far as the perspective of a wedding gown fetishist such as myself, that’s probably a good thing.  Certainly, to my eyes, anything that makes the wedding ritual sexier should be embraced.  Yes, I understand that weddings are not yet considered to be a “fetish event”, but some trends in wedding fashion seem to be leading us in that particular direction.

I’m not alone in noticing this trend.  In fact, today’s essay is inspired (at least in part) by a recent article at The Atlantic’s website titled Aisle Be Seeing You: The Rise of the Totally Transparent Bridal Gown where this delicious trend is detailed.

The recent Bridal Fashion Week in New York, which previewed wedding gowns for the Spring 2016 season, featured all the things you’d expect: lace, crystals, tulle. (So much tulle!) It also featured, however, something you wouldn’t, necessarily, expect: skin. (So much skin!) Skin not just of traditionally exposed bridal body parts—arms and shoulders and calves—but also of stomachs and sides and backs.

There was the Marchesa gown that leaves its wearer’s back bare save for a line of covered buttons. There was Theia’s pants-based ensemble, the focal point of which is a bra worn under an iridescent blouse. There was the spate of dresses that, taking their cue from ready-to-wear trends, featured cutouts—at the waist (Reem Acra), in the back (Monique Lhuillier), between the breasts (Angel Sanchez). There were the many two-piece affairs, with fits both boxy and snug, showing flirty flashes of midriff. There were the nearly invisible nettings—draped, wantonly, over shoulders and backs and necklines—that offered, in everything but the most up-close of views, the illusion of bareness. There were the many dresses that took their plunging necklines to their logical conclusions: their wearers’ waists.

But the most revealing pieces in the latest bridal lines—revealing, in every sense of the word—were Vera Wang’s mermaid-cut sheaths, staunchly traditional in their ribbons and lace, but innovative in their most striking features: The gowns are almost fully translucent, from their necklines to their hems. The lingerie their models wore, dainty and daring at the same time, was on full display under the fishnet and lace bodices of the gowns. The lingerie was, in fact, an elemental part of the dresses.

As a man who finds bridal lingerie to be a big part of the appeal of the so called “bride fetish”, I see this to be a very positive trend.  Sexy brides make for sexy weddings, and what’s not to like about that?  I personally find a sexy bride to be far more appealing than endless recitation from 1 Corinthians.

Love may be patient and kind. Love may not envy, boast, or be overly proud.  But let us be sure, love is often sexy.  Very sexy.

Megan Garber observed in her article for The Atlantic:

This—the be-boudoired bridal outfit—may be designed to shock, but it isn’t at all surprising. It’s simply another step toward something that has taken place both gradually and seemingly overnight: the sexification of the wedding dress. The gowns that have for so long involved sweeping hoop skirts and demure lace and virginal white have been, of late, getting steadily saucier. They’ve been showing more shoulder, more cleavage, more back … more of pretty much everything, except fabric.

wedding_dress_05I happen to believe that a ceremony centered on romantic love between individuals should (if it’s to be honest) embrace all things sexy.  And, wherever possible, I do practice what I preach.  Serafina and I viewed her collaring ceremony to be a sexier version of our wedding, with an even deeper commitment than most marriages.  At our ceremony, Serafina was adorned in little more than a plain white corset.  When she crawled up the aisle to me, our guests saw the same charms I see every evening!

While the creations of designers like Vera Wang may not go quite as far as we did at a D/s collaring ceremony, they aren’t terrible far behind.  Which leads me to a personal observation.  It seems like the cutting edge fashion industry has always borrowed a page from the fetish community.  First it’s worn on the streets, then the fashion later appears on runways and stages.  Now that’s even true for bridal wear.

Now, I should probably inform you that what I call a “wedding dress fetish”, is more commonly known as a “bride fetish”.  While bridal fetishes haven’t yet seemed to earn a specific name from the medical/psychological community, it is a fetish the kink community does acknowledge.  LatexWiki offers the following description:

A bride fetish is a sexual fetish in which either a woman (or possibly a man) enjoys dressing in the typical outfit worn by a bride, or someone derives sexual pleasure from viewing women (or possibly men) dressed in this manner.

A bride may be regarded as the archetype of a virgin ready and waiting to have sexual intercourse. Brides often wear garments associated with fetish: lingerie such as basques or corsets, stockings and thongs; they also wear stiletto shoes. Generally, a bridal dress and lingerie are white or nearly white, denoting purity. For a transvestite, bridal wear may be the ultimate female apparel.  Sometimes at a wedding between two men, one or both men dress as brides.

wedding_dress_fetish_06Alternately, I’ve also seen it called a “virgin fetish”.

Bride Fetish is sometimes known as a virgin fetish, where the ideal woman is pure and uninitiated, making her a safe partner in many ways. The bridal fetish extends to the image of an innocent appearing virginal bride being your own total whore, willing and anxious to do anything to please you sexually.

While I’m not sure if I put all that much weight behind my own wedding dress fetish being about making a virginal bride into my own total whore, I do have to admit that’s not an unappealing thought.  And, I also have to admit that displaying my Serafina as I did, while she crawled down the aisle at her collaring in nothing but a corset, was made all the sweeter knowing she was raised a devout Mennonite girl.

If you are going to corrupt a tradition, corrupt it good!

Education, Michael's Musings “W” is for Wedding Dress Fetish
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